Support for people with Depression

Horasio

Compared to others on here, my problems are small but I have had so much psychological abuse in my life, especially from people who say they care.

It all boils down to people being nasty and making out it is my fault, then trying to make me feel I am in the wrong and oversensitive. OK sometimes I am but not all the time. When someone is nasty, they are nasty and even the toughest skinned person will get upset.

I feel it has been used as a control tool to stop me standing up to them, especially if they are rough. The message I had was they can be nasty and rude but I can't feel upset or stand up to them because they are less fortunate. I make allowances for people who aren't so well off but I can only take so much rough people's rudeness:(

What I am seeing in the posts on here is compounded bad luck that never lets up. We all have our limits to what we can cope with and eventually it all gets too much.

Breaking it down into manageable lumps is how I cope.

Write everything down and prioritise. You can only do one thing at a time.

Also taking a complete break from it helps. The distance can really put things into perspective, then you are refreshed to cope with the list.

Some things are beyond your control, life does deliver some shi te.

UnluckyT

i know how you feel ccstar, esp with people being nasty and making it out to be you, as well as the double standards.
not in the best of moods or frame of minds at the moment.
a so called freind had her daughter christened at the weekend, told my mum i was invited but when asked by my mum if id been told, the 'friend' said she'd been so busy she'd not got around to, albiet fair enough we only have contact through facebook at the moment (it not the first time she and the others in this group have done this thing and it was me who had to 'appologiset' for being upset and having a moan once on facebook).
i know im not perfect and have taken advantage of a few friendships, which im ashamed of naturally, but to be constantly treated like i am is really getting to me. it not just the bieng excluded, it also bieng spoken to as if i dont have a clue at all and mentally !!!!!! with the mental age of a child, by friends the odd member of family and customers of the shop i work in.
im at a loss, i keep trying to make new friends, to change things, break the conditioning and brow beating to no avail. plus the fact ive been through abuse and trying to move on etc but i cant act any different about it nor have i had a hard life, yet others can. and get sympathy.
im sorry to rant so.
hope the day gets better for me and for everyone.

Uniscots97

anyone mind if i join in please?

rose07

unixgirluk wrote: »

anyone mind if i join in please?

Hi

And welcome to the thread

Pull up a chair , grab a cuppa or alcohol :beer:

huggles
xx

rose07

Hi everyone

Sending you all hugs



Where is Tiff?

huggles

From Rose x

Vaila

feeling realy bad a the moment, im 18 and still live at home , i was at college but pulled out because of health reasons and plan on returning next term , till then ive been filling my days with studying with the open uni, and looking at doing volunteer work already i feel like a failure . also mother took money from my bank account without my knowledge which i really cant do anything about as if i did i would just get thrown out. my only pleasure is photography, it gives me a reason to go out , but somedays i wish i could just sleep all day to avoid the world

Miroslav

CCStar wrote: »

I am glad it is sorted. How you stood 7 weeks of tooth pain is amazing. I had tooth pain and I HAD to sort it and went through the Gestapo dental phone system to get it. The people I dealt with were evil. When you are in pain, you want sympathy. They insist you talk to them and get nasty when you say how you feel.

Combined with the pain and how they treated me, I was ready to end it all.

Thankfully, I was seen and it was sorted.

I have no idea either, but it's heaven to be pain free. I just said in the end I wasn't going to go another night in pain and they sorted it. Nice dentist that done the work. Wish she was my dentist permanently.

CCStar wrote: »

Compared to others on here, my problems are small but I have had so much psychological abuse in my life, especially from people who say they care.

Everyone's problems are just as important, including yours.

UnluckyT wrote: »

i know how you feel ccstar, esp with people being nasty and making it out to be you, as well as the double standards.
not in the best of moods or frame of minds at the moment.
a so called freind had her daughter christened at the weekend, told my mum i was invited but when asked by my mum if id been told, the 'friend' said she'd been so busy she'd not got around to, albiet fair enough we only have contact through facebook at the moment (it not the first time she and the others in this group have done this thing and it was me who had to 'appologiset' for being upset and having a moan once on facebook).
i know im not perfect and have taken advantage of a few friendships, which im ashamed of naturally, but to be constantly treated like i am is really getting to me. it not just the bieng excluded, it also bieng spoken to as if i dont have a clue at all and mentally !!!!!! with the mental age of a child, by friends the odd member of family and customers of the shop i work in.
im at a loss, i keep trying to make new friends, to change things, break the conditioning and brow beating to no avail. plus the fact ive been through abuse and trying to move on etc but i cant act any different about it nor have i had a hard life, yet others can. and get sympathy.
im sorry to rant so.
hope the day gets better for me and for everyone.

It must be hard especially if people in a shop you work in say things too. That's a bit out of order. It's often because of their own issues they say these things anyway so take no notice. I know some people just have to give the eyes; bottom lip or whatever to get attention where some of us have to be in total agony to even make people realise we exist.

Hope your day got better along with the rest of the week.

Miroslav

unixgirluk wrote: »

anyone mind if i join in please?

Welcome :wave: We are usually a bit busier than this. I'm hoping it's because most are doing well.

rose07 wrote: »

Hi everyone

Sending you all hugs



Where is Tiff?

huggles

From Rose x

The infamous hug smiley. :wave: Rose. What are you up too these days? Tiff not posted for a while. Hopefully for good reasons.

arran_m wrote: »

feeling realy bad a the moment, im 18 and still live at home , i was at college but pulled out because of health reasons and plan on returning next term , till then ive been filling my days with studying with the open uni, and looking at doing volunteer work already i feel like a failure . also mother took money from my bank account without my knowledge which i really cant do anything about as if i did i would just get thrown out. my only pleasure is photography, it gives me a reason to go out , but somedays i wish i could just sleep all day to avoid the world

I know all about the wanting to sleep although it's not good to do so.

Good to hear you are doing something with your days. Why did your mother take money from your account? Can you not change all the pins etc? Sorry you don't feel like you can challenge as you'd lose your home; but one day you'll be able to get away from that.

Uniscots97

Thanks guys, need a bit of support and not getting it from my family (long story there and most of the problem) and been right royaly kicked in the teeth by two of my oldest and dearest friends. Finding it hard to deal with and have an OH who thinks he has the monopoly on hurt feeling/depression/illness.... you name. In a nut shell I'm miserable and feel like no one understands. In its worst I feel like I'm the bad one (even when I know I'm not). Anyone else feel like that?

edited: just read a few posts and please don't take this the wrong way its nice to know I'm not on my own and there's a few posts that sum up how I'm feeling. hope everyone understands what i mean

UnluckyT

thanks miroslav, much appreaciated, and thanks to all for the other times too.
hope everyone else is okay, on the up and so on.
dont feel so bad today although someone from my drama group has invited me to a charity coffee evening so despite work early the next morning im planning on making up for what ive missed out on or at least try.