Support for people with Depression

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine,woke early today because I heard a taping sound in my bathroom and it wasnt because I left the tap on to drip all night.Not sure what it is at the moment so got to talk to dad re this later.

:hello: Amber Sunshine,No,You dont need your wedding hat just yet :rotfl:let you know when you need to get it sorted.Just enjoying the time I spend with him as hes lovely


love and light,

Katie xxx

shazrobo

amber sunshine, (((hugs))), sorry to hear about your cat
jenniewb, your post has certainly given me something to think about. it is true when you are single you find ways to cope, my ex husband left when my sons were 3 months old, and i coped alone, and stayed single thru choice for ten years. had the kids tho, and made friends thru taking kids to school, now they're at secondary school's out of the area, i dont see any other mum's any more, and the loneliness got to me. but in last year or so, i've attended craft groups etc to meet new friends. maybe i can do it on my own again . he is on his last chance, the break up gave me a chance to think, and there are some of his behaviours, that will change, or i will not let it continue. we shall see, its early days yet, seeing him again new years eve.
katie, so pleased for you that you found someone so lovely, its great to hear your positive posts
hugs all
shaz xxx

Horasio

Hi

I need someone to give me some wise words to help me with a situation I am in just now.

We have had a really tiring stressful week and since Boxing Day, I have felt exhausted.

My mum rang us up and wanted to take her out and I was unable to. Same yesterday, same today, the weather is awful today. My OH is trying to work and I wanted a couple of rest days to recover. I am not getting them.

She is always horrible to me when I feel tired, so it brings me down. I rang her today to say I was still tired and she wasn't understanding. I am feeling so guilty and down about it. I want to feel better and take her out but I know my limits. If she had been nicer to me then I might have been persuaded but if she is going to be horrible on top of feeling tired, I can't do it.

I feel I am being such a failure of a daughter but I know what I need to feel better, so I can be a better daughter and feeling pressured to see her when I am feeling exhausted is making me feel depressed and want to run away.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Have a safe journey CB2

Amber Sunshine, so sorry to hear about your cat (((HUGS)))

Shaz, You're sounding very positive You're such a strong person too

CCStar (((HUGS))) Mother's can be so draining. If I were you I'd have a couple of days rest like you wanted and then perhaps offer to take her out towards the end of the week. Try not to feel guilty, as you said you know your limits, there is no point pushing it and making yourself more unwell.

shazrobo

hi rbk, how are you hun?
ccstar, i would tell your mum, that your having a few days to relax, and recover yourself, and will take her out when the weather is better.
my friend slipped on the ice xmas eve, fell flat on her stomach, she has been in a lot of pain since, after a visit to the hospital she discovered she had broken a rib, she said there was loads folk with broken bones due to weather, maybe you could tell her you'll take her out when its safer to do so

hugs
shaz xxx

Tulip

:hello: everyone,

I have had a nice rest.Having a 2 day gap before seeing parents again so I can do my own thing and Mum said that was fine,CCStar your Mum will have to understand that you need your time and space too,without this you cannot function.Thanks Shaz for your kind words,I have met a nice person and I am actually glad that our relationship is working well but I do need my space from him which I am doing now as hes seeing his family but next week we start to see one another again after 2 weeks apart but the break is lovely as It has meant I can see my family as well.

I am currently on my laptop giving it a full system scan which it needs.


love and light,

Katie xxx

beachbeth

Ccstar, please don't feel guilty about your mum. You are not a failure as a daughter, it is she who is failing as a mum. She should know how you feel and be sympathetic. I know how you're feeling because I feel exactly the same this week. I feel so stressed out about xmas even though we haven't done anything very much. On Monday all I could do was sit on the sofa and rest because I felt ill. I have had diarrhoea since then too and I know its stress and not anything Ive eaten.

Ive been sitting here in tears this morning because my brother, (who is staying in New Years Eve because he and his wife have a new baby) have said that we're perfectly welcome to go and stay with them that night to celebrate. They live two hours car ride away but have plenty of room, but Im just too stressed to even do that! My heart is beating as though Ive got a job interview or dentist appointment and I just want to shut the door on the world.

Please have the rest that you need, Ccstar and don't feel guilty about your mum. I couldn't do it at the moment either whether my mum was being horrible or nice. Its not your fault you are suffering so don't feel bad about taking it easy. Have a relaxing bath and lie on the sofa all day if thats what you need to do - your health is important. (I need to tell myself the same thing!)

All the best. xxx

jenniewb

CCStar wrote: »

Hi

I need someone to give me some wise words to help me with a situation I am in just now.

We have had a really tiring stressful week and since Boxing Day, I have felt exhausted.

My mum rang us up and wanted to take her out and I was unable to. Same yesterday, same today, the weather is awful today. My OH is trying to work and I wanted a couple of rest days to recover. I am not getting them.

She is always horrible to me when I feel tired, so it brings me down. I rang her today to say I was still tired and she wasn't understanding. I am feeling so guilty and down about it. I want to feel better and take her out but I know my limits. If she had been nicer to me then I might have been persuaded but if she is going to be horrible on top of feeling tired, I can't do it.

I feel I am being such a failure of a daughter but I know what I need to feel better, so I can be a better daughter and feeling pressured to see her when I am feeling exhausted is making me feel depressed and want to run away.

Your not failing your daughter! No matter what age, they can see and remember more then you think! They can pick out atmospheres and feed of emotions at a far greater level then the rest of us as adults can and it does affect them! Your not in any way IMO being a failure

(sorry- just reread the post and my post and can see the rest of it is my mistake!) but babe- you are what matters here- am sure your mother is big enough to take care of herself and that you need to take care of you! Cannot see how doing that makes you a failure- it makes you a responsible adult surely?

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I have just had my Littlewoods delivery of two new pairs of jeans for £1 each totalling £2 and my double bedding which cost £3.50.Very delighted with the jeans as they are a perfect fit,great quality,and so comfortable to wear.

Have a nice evening and CCStar take it easy.


love and light,

Katie xxx

Horasio

Thank you for your replies

I have had a two day panic attack as I had a huge trigger from my past.

My mum and my schooldays - whenever I felt under the weather, I would be bullied. I would want to be left alone to get through it but no, it was like me having a luminous marker pointing to me saying, tired person here, pick on me. I get anxious when I feel tired because of what happened in my past.

I have had a gruelling fortnight and thought it would be safe to rest but my mum had other ideas. She has also had a gruelling time, so feel my tiredness isn't so valid compared to her trauma. This is where the guilt has sprung from.

I didn't arrange to take her out and she treated me like I was the biggest let down to her for saying I wasn't up to it. When someone isn't understanding when I feel tired, it really gets to me. After the three month time apart and her recent near death experience, I would have thought she would treat me better but no, I have to be on duty for her 24-7, otherwise I get a row:(

I feel so horrible saying this but she is very challenging to be with. She goes on about her old male neighbour, it is like an obsession and we are all so bored of hearing about him. She also repeats herself a lot as well which is annoying. I want to be a good daughter to her but she acts like a spoilt 7 year old girl who sulks and has hissy fits. I have to feel on top form to cope with her.

I can understand why people take drugs so they are able to cope with pressures to be on top form all the time. Being on top form means you can cope with anything and not get hurt. Being tired/low = getting a row which is magnified 1000 times when you feel this way.

My OH says I have to set boundaries and he can manage her but it is easier when they are not your parents. His mum wouldn't bother me so much.