Support for people with Depression

Amber_Sunshine

shazrobo wrote: »

he says he loves me too, but just feels helpless, as there isnt much he can do to help to improve things

I think what he's actually saying here is 'I want to make everything better and make all your problems go away'. But he can't achieve the impossible! He's doing as much as he can, by loving you and supporting you as much as he can, and he shouldn't feel bad that he can't work miracles.

Amber_Sunshine

What a gorgeous litle face! So full of character.

Miroslav wrote: »

Just so you can put a face to my little Dopey. She wasn't blind when this was taken, but she had her eye illness last year, which you can see, had healed. My other cat that passed in April, Paws, is in my avatar.

I'll have to change the avatar every so often so they both get air time, or whatever the term is

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
How's everyone doing?
I know I've got a million posts to read and then reply to, so I hope you'll bear with me folks. I'd like to be able to tell you it's because I couldn't get rid of Justin Timberlake and Michael Buble after they popped by, but sadly, 'tis not the case. Truth be told, you can blame it on our lovely gem's post - reply coming this year, gem hun! - as soon as she said the words, 'The Tiff Chronicles', everything kicked off. It has the same effect as saying ''M*cbeth!'' in a theatre or saying something really silly like, ''It can't get any worse.''! I was thinking of you all but I do feel like I'm letting you all down recently so I hope you'll forgive me. Anyhoo, 'nuff about me.
I can't remember if I've said it before so huge Tiffy hugs going out to sazzy, gem, beth, shaz, lm, miro, gilly-badgie, cb2 (what are you up to hunnie?), and to the newly returning meyore, rbk, plushy, dawny, bunnie, ccstar, messy, cara, budd, elfen, amber, rosie, katie-tulip, wvw and to anyone who needs one. It's lovely to see you all. I'm sorry so many of you have had such a hard time and I'm glad you posted again. There's no need to struggle alone if you can make it to the thread - there's always someone passing by with a kind word or hug if you need it.

And in the great Caturday tradition, a little advance warning to those who refuse to get up for their cat on a Caturday morning - do you know where your cat and your mobile phone are?!




Safe journeys and be kind to yourself guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi budd!
Hey there, hunnie.
Again, apologies for not replying before now - please believe it's not because I don't care, sweetheart.

budd wrote:

Hello everyone, Ive not been around for a while, not because things were getting better but Im good at avoiding issues.
I was gonna post this on the pregnancy thread, but as Ive never posted there before Im feeling scared.
I found out the day before my birthday that I was pregnant and today was my 12 week scan, but as soon as they started the scan I knew something was wrong, without going into too much detail I have miscarried my baby but its still in my body.
Ive had a good cry but I feel kinda numb and like its not real.
Life's so unfair

I am so very sorry to hear all you've been through, budd. Please don't worry about not posting - I'm quite good at avoiding issues myself. I hope you know you're always welcome here hunnie, whether for a natter or some support. The guys here gave you great advice as usual angel. I'm not surprised you were feeling numb - you'd just had a huge shock.
I hope things have improved for you healthwise hunnie. Please don't lock yourself away with any problems - there's support out there for you. We're here if you need us.
Anyway sweetie, I'm thinking of you and wishing you well.
Be kind to yourself angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi ettie b!
It was fantastic to see you posting again. I hope you'll forgive my late reply angel - I hope you're still lurking to be able to read this. Sorry it's taken so long hunnie - it's this new badgie postal system, y'know!

How are things, ethel? I'm glad to read that the 'youngsters' are contented, hun - that's great news. Have they finished prodding and poking you yet? I hope you've received some help on the health front, hunnie. Mind you, I'll admit to being a little suspicious - these swooning sessions don't just happen around young, rich and single doctors, do they by any chance? Trust you to go and get something all exotic! And don't you let them tell you it's something feline related - sounds something definitely canine to me!
Hurry up and feel better sweetie - I need you on standby for diplomatic duties!Ssh - here's a little incentive for you...


Being serious though, I really am very sorry to hear you've been so poorly, ethel. Bless your heart, you don't post for ages, you never complain and you've had all this going on. I'll be sending sazzy round to [STRIKE]bite[/STRIKE] - smack your hand for not keeping us updated - you're an amazing soul, ettie b and I hope you know we all love you to pieces. After everything you've been through, you're a real inspiration and a born survivor. I really do think of you often, ethel - you are muchly missed by the Tiffster. I hope you'll stay in touch when you can, sweetheart and keep us updated. Please look after yourself angel.
Keeping you in my thoughts, ettie b.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi sazzy!
Oops - nearly forgot this one.

sazzy wrote:

Well...... we are supposed to be using the week off to do some work on the house, which does need doing... but how much of that actually gets done remains to be seen! Sxxx

and...

sazzy wrote:

No big plans for our week off. If we are going to move next year we need to do some work on the house - but whether that actually gets done this week is another matter!:D

NOOOOO! Oh no sazzy - I can just see it all now!

+ +

+ =



+ !!!

At least you've got badgie for H&S. I really hope it won't turn out like this, angel!
Be kind to yourself, sweetheart!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi miro!
I'm so sorry for your loss, miro. I have no doubt that she was a happy cat. If it's any consolation she doesn't seem to have suffered, thanks to your care.
As they tend to do, she let you know when it was her time and you were there for her.
I know it's not much, hun but I've written this for you...

POSTCARD TO MIRO!



Just a note to say I've safely arrived
And I feel most refreshed and quite revived.
It was quite a journey but all's well and good,
So please stop worrying - I knew you would!
Of course I miss you and I know you miss me,
But it's just Cat Heaven here, as you can see.
No dogs, always sunny and free to roam,
But I do cherish the memories of our home.
I'd often smile at the other three cats
As they scatted after their clockwork rats -
Not chasing too just so that I could locate
All the leftover fish from the lunch we ate!
And then, finally full, I'd slip through your door
To settle upon that sweater you wore.
I'd claim my space as the daft cats ran round,
Blissfully happy at the comfort I'd found.
Queen of the Sofa and all I surveyed,
Always amused by Old Flat Mate's tirades.
I'm sure I seemed a really laid back cat,
But I could always find mischief in our flat:
As Flat Mate sat, engrossed in 'Big Brother',
I'd claw holes in her undies, moulting on others.
I loved to skid after your tin foil balls,
Batting them round as they bounced off the walls.
Yet inspite of any mischief I might cause,
You loved to stroke me and holding my paws.
And even when blindness took all I had seen,
I was the same happy Dopey that I'd always been.
We'd still play and snuggle and you'd happily fuss,
And you kept me feeling a most contented puss.
Oh yes, I am indeed a proud miro cat,
Very well looked after but not at all fat.
At fifteen years old, I now needed to rest,
Ever thankful for the friend with which I'd been blessesd.
Though I've gone on, please look after my mates
Until I come back in Life Number 8!

I hope this gave you a little smile, miro. Thinking of you, sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

milliemonster

Hi everyone, I hope you don't mind me invading this thread but I am so glad I have found a thread that I think may offer me some support.

I am a long sufferer of depression, it started when I was 18 and at university, I was hospitalised but managed to turn my life around even though I had to drop out of uni at the time.

I am now 37, with a good career, a lovely family, caring husband, I had PND after both my kids but have tried hard to fight depression ever since.

Last year I lost my mum and since then have felt I am slowly slipping. We moved house last year and decided we needed to sort our debts out and have been successfully paying things off since then.

Recently I feel like my life is falling apart. I love my husband as a friend only and he knows this, I would like to part and be on my own but the kids would be destroyed and I can't do that to them so I am trapped in a marriage I am unhappy in until they are grown up (they are 10 and 6) there is nothing wrong with my husband, he is a good father, works and tries his best but I don't know, I made my chouce though.

I'm also having problems with my father in that although he was with my mother for 50 years and utterly devoted to her, since she died he is insistent on finding someone else and I'm struggling to deal with that.

I know I am depressed again. I haven't been to see my GP as I am pretty sure I would end up on tablets again and I'm not sure thats going to help, dh doesn't want me to go on tablets, he keeps telling me 'we will get you sorted' whatever that means.

I know the debts are getting me down terribly, I feel I am letting my kids down, I miss my mum enormously and I want my family back, my mum held everything together and our family has been split irretrievably now.

I am drinking more when I have never been a drinker in my life but it helps just to drown out the sadness for a while.

I don't know what to do, I just want to be happy but I don't know how

milliemonster

Thank you Meyore, I do keep thinking about going to the docs but like you just don't either get round to it or end up going about something else entirely. Hubby seems to think that something miraculous will happen and I will one day just wake up into someone I am not. Feel like I am destroying my kids lives though and they mean so much to me. I worry that their abiding memory of their childhood when they grow up is of me being weepy, emotional and sad, I don't want that for them

beachbeth

I suffer badly with depression and can understand how you are feeling, milliemonster. I wouldn't make any decisions about you and your husband while you are feeling like this. When you have depression it warps your view of things and you feel like a rubbish mum and wife. Concentrate on getting yourself better first and foremost by seeing the doctor.

When you are feeling better and stronger then you can make decisions about your relationship and talk things through with your hubby or maybe see Relate. Let us know how you get on and you can always offload here.