Support for people with Depression

Miroslav

A big welcome to milliemonster :wave: As others have said, it may be best not to make big decisions whilst admittedly at a low. Hopefully when you feel a bit brighter, you'll be less hard on yourself.

As for your father finding someone else, my step father found someone else less than 6 weeks after my Mother passed. It could be your father doesn't want to be alone, rather than find another love. It's hard to deal with, as it took me 7 1/2 years after my partner died to even think about finding someone else and i've still not got over it, nearly 18 years later! All I hope is that I won't be alone forever, but i'm not ready to just 'settle' yet. If your father was with your Mother for 50 years, he must be of an advanced age, so it sounds like he just doesn't want to be alone. I understand your worry though, as you always imagine your parents will be with each other only, even after one passes.

Keep posting. There are many good posters here who can put across things better than I.

Amber_Sunshine wrote: »

What a gorgeous litle face! So full of character.

She was quite a character alright :cool: As lovely as she looks. Full of beans and such a happy little thing.

Tiff wrote: »

Hi miro!
I'm so sorry for your loss, miro. I have no doubt that she was a happy cat. If it's any consolation she doesn't seem to have suffered, thanks to your care.
As they tend to do, she let you know when it was her time and you were there for her.
I know it's not much, hun but I've written this for you...

POSTCARD TO MIRO!



Just a note to say I've safely arrived
And I feel most refreshed and quite revived.
It was quite a journey but all's well and good,
So please stop worrying - I knew you would!
Of course I miss you and I know you miss me,
But it's just Cat Heaven here, as you can see.
No dogs, always sunny and free to roam,
But I do cherish the memories of our home.
I'd often smile at the other three (four) cats
As they scatted after their clockwork rats -
Not chasing too just so that I could locate
All the leftover fish from the lunch we ate!
And then, finally full, I'd slip through your door
To settle upon that sweater you wore.
I'd claim my space as the daft cats ran round,
Blissfully happy at the comfort I'd found.
Queen of the Sofa and all I surveyed,
Always amused by Old Flat Mate's tirades.
I'm sure I seemed a really laid back cat,
But I could always find mischief in our flat:
As Flat Mate sat, engrossed in 'Big Brother',
I'd claw holes in her undies, moulting on others.
I loved to skid after your tin foil balls,
Batting them round as they bounced off the walls.
Yet inspite of any mischief I might cause,
You loved to stroke me and holding my paws.
And even when blindness took all I had seen,
I was the same happy Dopey that I'd always been.
We'd still play and snuggle and you'd happily fuss,
And you kept me feeling a most contented puss.
Oh yes, I am indeed a proud miro cat,
Very well looked after but not at all fat.
At fifteen years old, I now needed to rest,
Ever thankful for the friend with which I'd been blessesd.
Though I've gone on, please look after my mates
Until I come back in Life Number 8!

I hope this gave you a little smile, miro. Thinking of you, sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Lovely poem Tiff. Thanks for taking the time to write and post it - i've added (four) in brackets, on one of the lines, because we had 5 at one stage, so sometimes three can be used, sometimes four. I hope you didn't mind the small deface.

The rest of it sounds perfect....have you been watching me

Sazbo

Hello lovelies :hello:

Just catching up with you all. Hope everyone's doing ok. Out yesterday visiting Gilly Badgie's family and not back till late. Then out today watching Chelsea beat Man U:D

Miroslav wrote: »

Are you planning to move far from where you are now?

This is the miilion-dollar question hun. It kind of all depends on where Gilly is going to be based for work. His current contract could be up next year, so now we're thinking maybe it would be more sensible to sit tight where we are and then see how things fall next year... but we'll probably change our minds again lol

Miroslav wrote: »

That is so like management to not tell staff what they are doing until late and make changes with little or no input from the employees. :rolleyes:

Hope you got all of it done :cool:

Had to stay late again, but yes finally got everything done xx And yes, our management is as typical as they come! I just have to turn up every day and be prepared for pretty much anything:rolleyes:

Tiff wrote: »

At least you've got badgie for H&S. I really hope it won't turn out like this, angel!
Be kind to yourself, sweetheart!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

lol tiffy hun I hope so too!:D We can always put up a tent in the garden if all else fails :rotfl:

meyore wrote: »

:iloveyou: Tiff, you are 1 in a million xxxxx

:T:T:T

Ok well, we're just catching up on some taped TV now and really looking forward to not hearing the alarm clock at 5.55am tomorrow!! :eek: Have a good evening everyone :wave:

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxx

Sazbo

And a warm welcome to milliemonster :hello: Thank you for posting your story xxx

One thing I wanted to add to what has already been said - I just wondered whether you are still finding it hard dealing with the loss of your mum and whether it might be worth considering counselling? Do have a chat with your GP to see what the best support plan would be for you, but maybe you could contact Cruise bereavement counselling, if you haven't done so already hun - just my thoughts - sounds like you could do with some extra support right now, but as Meyore says, please feel free to post here anytime and big hugs.

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxx

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote: »

This is the miilion-dollar question hun. It kind of all depends on where Gilly is going to be based for work. His current contract could be up next year, so now we're thinking maybe it would be more sensible to sit tight where we are and then see how things fall next year... but we'll probably change our minds again lol

Had to stay late again, but yes finally got everything done xx And yes, our management is as typical as they come! I just have to turn up every day and be prepared for pretty much anything:rolleyes:

really looking forward to not hearing the alarm clock at 5.55am tomorrow!! :eek:

You could end up living next to me :eek: I'll keep an eye out for a little and large act

Well, you have a week off, so enjoy. 5.55am doesn't sound fun and also sounds a strange time I'm all about strange times though. I'm OCD with numbers, so would set an alarm at 5.59.

I'm pretty bored right now. I've lost interest in many things after the week i've had and have no concentration

Miroslav

I'm hoping the lack of posting on this thread is for positive reasons!

Sadly, i'm still wandering around in my own shell with no-one to talk to about bereavement (human and animal) and thus moving on and making a life for myself. I don't see a future (nothing new) and don't see myself as being good enough for anything or anyone.

I had something lined up through my GP, but having missed my first appointment, I was asked to get in touch with their office again, so I did, got fobbed off, was then phoned again by the counsellor saying she hadn't heard from me, so I contacted the office, got fobbed off, and so on, before receiving a letter, so contacted the office again and got fobbed off once more with the usual 'she will be in touch' and still not wanting my name or number despite me offering it (so they must be mind readers as to who I was) and it now looks dead in the water. The counsellor has no direct contact number, so it's all done 'through the office'. It's hard enough right now, i'm just totally lost.

I hope everyone is doing well and keeping warm now it's getting a bit cold.

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
C'mon, c'mon, let's be having you - rise and shine! It's about time - I've been lurking on my own since 4.05 a.m. and I think it's an experience we should all share.
Hmmm, now there's a thought - can you lurk in groups?! Yes, I know...I need to get a life.

I'm sending out Tiffy hugs to gtc and millie. Hoping you're both well and it's nice to see you again.
Oh and a little something for sazzy's counsellor! (Hope it went well angel.)
And to our miro - I'm not ignoring you angel and I'm glad you've posted how you're feeling. I'll give your post a proper reply later, miro - no, don't run!
It is very quiet in here though, isn't it?
Two possible scenarios: sazzy left the front door open again or they heard me coming!
Not to worry hun, the board tends to get busy again around this time of the year, especially with winter and the holiday season upon us, so I'm hoping people will start checking in soon to let us know how they're doing. My Tiffy radar's going off again - I hope everyone's okay?

As for me, well you can see what I've been up to already on this Purrsday morning, having been left to my own devices for too long......



And yet the day is still so young!
Be kind to yourself guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

shazrobo

hi miro, and tiffy, and anyone else up,
thats disgusting the way the counsillor has behaved towards you miro, seems to be a growing trend of so called proffessionals ignoring those that need it.
for eg,social services never return my calls, they are supposed to by law help disabled children and provide services
caamhs, are supposed to see under 18's with mental health problems, despite numerous referals we are still waiting...
youth offending team, been asked to work with my children for a long time still, being ignored, even the courst gave danny a referal oder to them, still heard nothing.
i could go on, but i won't rant over for today.
in a lot of pyhsical pain today too, have had arthritis for a number of years now, and i usually cope well with that, but for last couple days i been falling as my knees have given way, and i'm only 38, feeling much older tho lol
hugs all
shaz xxx

ps sorry nothing positive to post

fedup100pc

There are two books I would highly recommend to anyone who has mental health problems, neither which fall into the category the run-of-the-mill books on the “mind-body” problem you can find in libraries and bookshops. The Fear of Freedom by Erich Fromm has proved undoubtedly life-changing for many people who have read it (under £10) along with The Road Less Travelled by M Scott Peck (about £7). Enjoy!

beachbeth

You must feel like you are banging your head up against a brick wall, Miro. How annoying and stressful for you.

I haven't been feeling too bad lately but Im trying hard not to get stressed about Christmas at the moment. I got a few presents yesterday but I feel a bit anxious about it because I know I still have a lot to get. I also have no idea what to get my dad. He's in his 70's and has everything he wants. It will have to be aftershave, a tie, socks etc I think. Very unimaginative.

Good morning Tiff!:wave:

shazrobo

hi beachbeth, xmas shopping is making me slightly stressed,
and i feel mean, as the kids want xbox's and a playstation3, and i could afford them, but they already have games consoles, and the games for the new consoles are so expensive, and they dont really look after the games they get left on floor etc, but kids are pulling the guilt trip, eg its what i really want, part of me wnats to get them it to make them happy, other part cant see point, and there are other things they want too.
as for dad's mine gets whisky, socks, chocolates every year, not imaginative either, but its what he likes, so at least it wont get put at the bottom of a cupboard

shaz xxx