Support for people with Depression

Sazbo

joblessummer12 wrote: »

Sazzy i got a few things over the weekend, having dinner with friends and my bf is comming down and where going for a picnic. how r u today?

Ooo I love picnics! Hope you have a fab time:D I'm not too bad thanks hun xx It's hometime yay and I'm out of this [STRIKE]hell hole[/STRIKE] office for a whole week! :j

Sazzyxxx

joblessummer12

Sazbo wrote: »

Ooo I love picnics! Hope you have a fab time:D I'm not too bad thanks hun xx It's hometime yay and I'm out of this [STRIKE]hell hole[/STRIKE] office for a whole week! :j

Sazzyxxx

thank you. hope you have a lovely week off. are you having a family break to cornwall or romantic one? (is that too nosey to ask) i would love to go on hols, but im determined next year i will.

geminilady

Sazbo wrote: »

Hiya Gem! :j Long time no avocado!:D How have you been? Did you get the appointment you were waiting for hun? You been on my mind for a while, so it's good to see you posting xxx



jobless - we're going to Cornwall for a week and I really can't wait. Work's been difficult to cope with recently and my OH has been a bit poorly so I think we could both use the break. It's a part of the world we both dearly love... we'd love to move there some day:) Yes weather is rubbish isn't it :-/ when the sun is out it really makes me feel so much better... I hope we're lucky next week! How are you today hun?

Sazzy xxx

Hi Sazzy,Im ok ty, not sure which apointment you mean,i had the scan i was booked for and everything was ok,ifyou mean the one for counselling i never heard aything after my initial apointment although she did say she would pass me on to someone else,lol that was over a year ago.Not bothered chasing it up as i seem to be managing my depression ok at the moment and i don't really see how counselling would help me.Hope you and Badger have a lovely holiday in Cornwall and an crossing my fingers that you will have good weather.

geminilady

clipboard2 wrote: »

Many of you have asked about how to stop the intrusive bad thoughts that keep coming into your head when you suffer with depression.
May I share my experience as a Samaritan?

Many of you take AD's, or use 'mind control' techniques like CBT or NLP etc to try and stop bad thoughts. Nothing wrong with AD's or self help methods usually in themselves. But as you probably know, this only treats the symptoms of depression, and not the cause.

It's like a cancer patient taking morphine. The morphine kills the pain which is one of the symptoms of the cancer, but it doesn't kill the cancer itself.
And, you have to keep on taking AD's and/or practicing eg CBT day after day after day.

As a Samaritan, I've found that barely below the surface of every depressed person is an impotent rage. Rage against the person(s) that abused them as a child: sexually, physically, and/or emotionally; or just simply rage (sometimes traumatic memories are suppressed). Rage which affects every aspect of their life.

Being abused as a child is the common experience of people suffering depression. Only once (out of hundreds of calls) have I found this not to be true (that person suffered depession resulting from a serious head injury).

How then, to heal the cancer of depression?

The first step is to acknowledge, aceept and release the rage within you, channeling the energy into something for the good.

The second step is to let go of the feeling of bitterness and resentment towards your abuser. Easier said than done, I know. For some Samaritan callers, the murder or painful torture/death of their abuser is the only thing they feel will bring closure and relief to them.

Forgiveness is an ongoing process, and many callers tell me they are unable to forgive. But there is no other way, in my experience, to cure depression. Let go. Forgive your abuser for the pain and damage they did to you. Then, you will find that your heart and mind are set free to start to heal themselves.

Hugs to all who need them. Am on holiday -yay!- now back end August.
CB2X

Interesting post but i am suprised that all your callers except one had suffered abuse as i believe there are lots of other reasons for depression and sometimes there is no reason but a chemical inbalance.
Also i for one feel no rage at anyone, to be honest under the suface what i feel is a deep sence of lonelyness and sadness of feeling apart from everyone else.
I do agree with what you are saying about letting the rage go,while people are full of rage and anger in a way their abusers are still winning as it is the victims who are still suffering,anger is a useless emotion and even if the abusers were murdered/tortured it would not change what the victims had been through.I do believe people need help to deal with this it must be almot impossible to manage on your own, the samaritans do a great job and i always advice the suicidal to contact them but sometimes listening is not enough which is where councelling ect comes in.

Sazbo

geminilady wrote: »

Hope you and Badger have a lovely holiday in Cornwall and an crossing my fingers that you will have good weather.

Thanks Gem xx We'll be on our way soon, so see you all in a week!

Take care of yourselves, have a great weekend and look after Tiffy for me :wave:

Much love to you all,
Sazzy xxxxxxx

shazrobo

morning all,hope everyone is well,

have a great week in cornwall sazzy and gillette x

tiff, where you hiding hun?, hope all is well at tiff towers x

hi gem, lovely to see you posting again, glad to hear you are well x

hugs to all those that need or want one

shaz xxx

blushred2

Thank you to all replied, you all seem so caring.

I'll probably not be a prolific poster, but its nice to know u all are around.

In bit of a black place at the moment, just want to sleep and sleep and sleep.

so alone

Space_donkey

geminilady wrote: »

Interesting post but i am suprised that all your callers except one had suffered abuse as i believe there are lots of other reasons for depression and sometimes there is no reason but a chemical inbalance.

I agree about the abuse as I was never abused but I dont agree about the chemical imbalance being the cause. How on earth could it be measured all the time. What have I done apart from change my thoughts to overcome my depression? My depresssion got better when I decided I wanted better things for myself and strove to get them.

Also i for one feel no rage at anyone, to be honest under the suface what i feel is a deep sence of lonelyness and sadness of feeling apart from everyone else.

I think this was me too

I do agree with what you are saying about letting the rage go,while people are full of rage and anger in a way their abusers are still winning as it is the victims who are still suffering,anger is a useless emotion and even if the abusers were murdered/tortured it would not change what the victims had been through.I do believe people need help to deal with this it must be almot impossible to manage on your own, the samaritans do a great job and i always advice the suicidal to contact them but sometimes listening is not enough which is where councelling ect comes in.

Anger might be part of it for some people but not me. I agree listening is not enough because it doesnt change the thoughts of the person. Good therapy works as I was made to rethink much of what I said and thought. Then I was shown there is another way and that no one was better than me. Getting back to work was the best thing ever.

joblessummer12

hugggssss to blushred....i no that feeling of just wanting to curl up and sleep cos it feels safe, but im gonna suggest you try and go for a walk, as it will help so that you've got a diff surrounds for alil bit, one's home can become too familiar sometimes and have the affect of adding to how low you feel cos your jus seeing the same thing day in and out. keep fighting hun you will get through this.

hope everyone else is ok, i had a lovely weekend just gone and some more pressies

hope ur having a good time on ur hols sazzy.

hope everyone has a good day x

EthelBloggs

hi guys..

it's been aaaaaaaaaaaages!!!

Not much is new with me really, the kids finally seem to be settling down and behaving themselves (blimmin teenagers)

I'm being investigated for something whose name I can't even pronounce let alone spell but it's to do with making too much insulin and the existence of renegade clumps of cells that are pumping it out, lol. It means I've been having a lot of episodes where I pass out :eek: One time was in a rather snazzy restaurant I got a lot of dirty looks even tho I hadn't had any alcohol, lol.

The medical profession are very excited about it cos apparently I'm the first person in the UK that they're aware of and there have been 8 cases so far in the US. So I'm a bit like a pincushion atm. I've to go into hospital tomorrow for a 6 hour glucose test, which I understand is quite commonly done to people with diabetes, but my thing is the opposite of that and they want to see what happens and if they can induce one of my passing out sessions the rotten sods! Then in the coming weeks I've to have a CT scan to find these cells and then be admitted for 3 days for more tests, apparently they will starve me til I pass out on that occasion and put something in me that will measure stuff in my blood every 5 mins - can't wait :rolleyes:

On the positive side, cos I'm such a rarity I'm being treated like royalty, so it's not all bad

My moods are quite flat just now, I'm very tired and weak a lot of the time and struggling to drum up much enthusiasm for anything.

Anyway, that's me up to date! I've not caught up on all of you but big huggs to everyone :kisses3::grouphug: