Support for people with Depression

blushred2

Hi guys

Just been prescribed anti depressents by my doc. Split up with b/friend about 2 months ago. Was finding that hard enough to cope with, but then was assaulted on a nigth out. I just feel so weepy all the time, frightened and lonely. My x is being friendly... and i know its only because he is a nice guy, but i miss him a lot. we were together nearly 6years. Its my fault its over, because i have major trust issues.
I'm not some kid and have had breakups before, life isn't how i imagined it to be. i just wanted to find someone be happy and have children. Not looking likely to happen now and i'm so sad. Why did i never just get pregnant ! why am i old fashioned, nothing wrong with wanting to be married.
i'm in work, trying to be preofessional, but i just wanna die. life looms ahead of me, empty and lonely...
and u probably all think i'm nuts

Sazbo

Hi blushred and welcome to the thread :hello:

I don't think you're nuts at all. Try not to be too hard on yourself - you've only just split up from b/f, had an awful experience with assault and been prescribed AD's by the doc. One of those things on their own would be tough to cope with! I know this is so easy said, but give yourself time to heal emotionally from everything you've been through recently. The ADs will need time to work too.

Feel free to post here anytime and take good care of yourself.

Sazzy x

Sazbo

Amber_Sunshine wrote: »

We had a great evening, HEB loved dinner and my flat, AND he brought Cookie Dough ice cream!!!

mmmm cookie dough ice cream :drool:

Hello lovelies :hello:

Hope everyone's doing ok today. Am busy at work so just a quickie sazzy to say hi

Much love to all, will catch up later,
S xxxxxxxx

~*Plushroom*~

joblessummer12 wrote: »

Plushroom i went to twycross zoo, the weather was lovely to boot and at the time a baby elephant had been born two days before. was a lovely day.

It's lovely to hear your other half is being so supportive, it means alot when someone is just there for you and offering cuddles (even if its just virtual ones). just wondering have you tried skype? would save money and you can see each other, but not sure if your OH has internet access.

you keep fighting this thing hun, you''ll beat it.

Aw wow, that sounds so nice.

Yeah, well the support didn't last sadly. He's gone straight back to telling me he's going to e-mail/call and then not doing so. I have tried to explain to him several times now that continually letting me down is not helping - then he has the audacity to be surprised that I don't trust anything he says when everything he says never happens :rolleyes: Besides that he spent half of our last conversation going on about sex :mad: What he doesn't seem to get is he has seriously added to how I feel right now, and by the time he gets back chances are we'll be very different people - and I won't be jumping into bed with him the moment I see him. Why should I? Especially as less than a month into this long-distance BS he has let me down more times than I care to count.

Skype won't work, there's no internet at the base other than goverment based for e-mails. Besides - when he is always saying he'll contact me and doesn't having skype wouldn't really change matters much would it? Sorry, I'm getting seriously frustrated with him right now, after supporting him through everything, staying up all night to talk to him when work wasn't good, this is what I get in return and it is !!!!ing me off beyond belief.

I've actually started wondering if maybe this is all I deserve, that I'm not meant to have someone I can trust and count on. I know that's stupid and I shouldn't be thinking that way but he's got me wondering now. I know one thing, I'm through supporting him and dropping everything in my life for him - it's always been me changing around my life for his and that isn't fair or right. So no more of that, he isn't grateful for it and it's clearly making him think that no matter what he does or doesn't do I'll stick around. Which isn't the case, he keeps pushing me we won't survive it, because I have to fight for too many things in my life, I can't fight for anything else.

Sorry, bad day.

shazrobo

hi plushroom, sorry to hear your having a bad day, (((hugs))), i had an ex like your bf, and in the end i called it a day, cos my mental health was suffering. you need to put yourself first, and if he dosent like it then tough.
i thought i would never be in a loving caring relationship, then last year at age 37 i met ian, and he has turned my life around, he is so loving and supportive, and i know he's the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. good luck hun x

happy hols sazzy x

hi tulip, how you doing?

belated birthday wishes for joblesssummer x

not been online for a few days, as i was rushed into hospital on sun and kept in for a couple nights, am recovering at home now

hi blushred and welcome to the thread, feel free to post anytime, look after yourself hun, a break up is hard enough to deal with, with out the added stress of the assault, (((hugs)))

hugs to all

shaz xxx

~*Plushroom*~

shazrobo wrote: »

hi plushroom, sorry to hear your having a bad day, (((hugs))), i had an ex like your bf, and in the end i called it a day, cos my mental health was suffering. you need to put yourself first, and if he dosent like it then tough.
i thought i would never be in a loving caring relationship, then last year at age 37 i met ian, and he has turned my life around, he is so loving and supportive, and i know he's the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. good luck hun x

It's driving me mad at the moment, I know that he doesn't actually mean it and that it's because he hasn't ever had a relationship before me, but couldn't someone else teach him the basics of boyfriend behaviour such as the obvious don't say you're going to call if you're not thing. It's exhausting. I love him more than anything in this world but I have to question his common sense at times like these.

He can use the excuse that training is stressful all he likes, but it doesn't change the fact that if he wants to be supported he needs to damn well do the same for me. I have NEVER let him down, not once I am very proud to say, not even accidently. It would be nice to have the same in return.

I feel better for getting all of that out, and when he does next contact me I should now be able to formulate what I want to say properly because I've gotten it out on here. Perhaps if I make it 100% crystal clear, where there's no way he can get the wrong end of the stick things will get better. I do sometimes get amazed at how I have to explain things to get him to see what I'm saying, does anyone else have that with anyone in their life?

Oh dear I hope you're better after the hospital trip, absolutely hate hospitals.

Sazbo

Shaz - I was just thinking about you yesterday - glad to hear from you but hope hospital visit was nothing too serious hun - are you alright? Give me a shout of there's anything I can do xxx

Plushroom - (((hugs))) I've had my fair share of idiot men lol, but like shaz, last year I met the person that I know will be my partner for life - and honestly, I NEVER thought I'd hear myself say that. In the end I guess you have to put yourself first, and sometimes when you do that, it's the wake up call that some oh's need - I really hope it works out for you hun - keep persevering and you'll get through eventually:D

jobless - how are the celebrations going?:D

TIFFY HUN!! Come out, come out, wherever you are:) I've unlocked the catflap, honest:D

Hope everyone's doing ok today.

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

~*Plushroom*~

Sazbo wrote: »

Shaz - I was just thinking about you yesterday - glad to hear from you but hope hospital visit was nothing too serious hun - are you alright? Give me a shout of there's anything I can do xxx

Plushroom - (((hugs))) I've had my fair share of idiot men lol, but like shaz, last year I met the person that I know will be my partner for life - and honestly, I NEVER thought I'd hear myself say that. In the end I guess you have to put yourself first, and sometimes when you do that, it's the wake up call that some oh's need - I really hope it works out for you hun - keep persevering and you'll get through eventually:D

jobless - how are the celebrations going?:D

TIFFY HUN!! Come out, come out, wherever you are:) I've unlocked the catflap, honest:D

Hope everyone's doing ok today.

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

I've had a few complete idiots myself, but this is the guy I can actually imagine growing old with - which before was a scary prospect! I know he's a good guy, because he has been telling me to look after myself, put myself first, but then he goes and bloody lets me down again. It's as though the brain isn't in gear 100% of the time. Sometimes he can get it so right, and then other times like now he makes no bloody sense. They are the weirdest species in the world!

I'd wondered where Tiffy was, was looking forward to more crazy lolcat pictures. Tiff, do not make me post my own, because they are barmy...in fact perhaps that will lure her back...

Sazbo

Hilarious pic - that's bound to lure her out!!

Sx

joblessummer12

~*Plushroom*~ wrote: »

I've had a few complete idiots myself, but this is the guy I can actually imagine growing old with - which before was a scary prospect! I know he's a good guy, because he has been telling me to look after myself, put myself first, but then he goes and bloody lets me down again. It's as though the brain isn't in gear 100% of the time. Sometimes he can get it so right, and then other times like now he makes no bloody sense. They are the weirdest species in the world!

That's just men sometimes hun..weird lol i agree with the others that you need to put yourself first, but when you next talk to him just explain how your feeling and that you wish he would stick to his promises. i think sometimes it's hard for a partner/family/friends to really understand what we're going through. nd i do think the more u say to him how you feel the more it will drum home just how hard your finding things. i sometimes have to remind myself what it was like before i was ill and how i would never have contemplated doing some of the things i have thought or done since being ill. the saying goes who feels it knows it. however doesnt mean in the mean time you don't deserve all the support you deserve.

maybe it would also be a good idea to tell someone close 2 u that u trust how u feel as it must be very difficult for u and ur bf to be so far away from each other. nd it can feel very lonely when u havent got someone say round the corner to turn too..if that makes sense. i hope everything will work itself out.

shaz i hope your feeling better hun and thank u for the b'day wishes.

Sazzy i got a few things over the weekend, having dinner with friends and my bf is comming down and where going for a picnic. how r u today?

blushred welcome to the thread hun. don't be hard on urself, you've been through alot and it will take time for you to heal, that doesnt make u weak, as anyone in ur position would find those events difficult/life changing. if ur every feeling lonely just come here as they are loads of lovely people around to have a chat with. take care.

hope everyone is having a nice day. i been to town and done abit of cleaning and checked in with the doctor. gonna watch a film this aftanoon me thinks. take care all x