Support for people with Depression

beachbeth

Hugs for you, Newlywed and CCStar. It is so difficult when you are suffering a bereavement and it can put a dark cloud onto everything else in your life too. Everyone copes in different ways and Im like you in that I need hugs and nice words.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will feel better. You just have to remind yourself of this and just do the best you can until you reach it. I wish I could do or say more, but Im sure Im not the only one here that knows what you are going through.
((())) Big hugs.

xxx
beth

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
How's everything going this morning? I just got in - up and thought I'd better poke my muzzle through the catflap and see what everyone's up to. Suffice to say that it serves me right for being nosy and that I feel my mental health care will continue for quite a while yet. And then I happened to wander into the kitchen...what a mess! Where's that sazzter gone? The truth will always out y'know - ought to be ashamed of yourselves!



Can't leave you alone for a minute, can I?
Right I'm orf to check under the table to look for sazzy - I know she's here somewhere cos I found badger bristles stuck to the catflap.

Meanwhile, when you all do eventually get up, I wish you all a nice Sunday.
Huge hugs to those who need them. Be kind to yourself guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

beachbeth

Morning Tiff. :hello:

Hope everyone is feeling ok this morning. Im off to my SIL for Sunday lunch today which is lovely. Have a lovely day everyone!

Sazbo

Hiya Tiffy hun :hello: Hiya Beth :hello: Hope you had a nice lunch with SIL. Me and Gilly Badger went to Wem-ber-ley today to watch my Chelsea beat Man U in the Community Shield:D altho they needed penalties to do it lol. Feeling bit cream crackered tonight tho, early night I reckon. Work tomorrow - boo! - But Cornwall on Saturday and then for a whole week - yay!!:D

Hope everyone's doing ok :wave:

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxx

beachbeth

Had a lovely lunch - my SIL is like an antidepressant! Always feel brighter after seeing her. They are going to Spain in a few weeks and would like us to come with them. We've already had 2 weeks in Majorca though and can't really afford it. Sometimes I feel like saying "what the hell" and just going. Life is too short.

Glad you had a good time at Wembley, Sazzy. Cornwall sounds lovely too - I hope the weather is nice for you.

~*Plushroom*~

Morning everybody, hope all is well.

Well I finally snapped, my OH pushed me too far last week in an e-mail from his training base once again asking me to "help him/support him/wait for him/do this/do that/you know what I mean" and I sent him a VERY LONG e-mail detailing exactly how much I have done for him, how he has not done a thing, how everything is really !!!!ing hard for me right now because not only is he deployed but there is a myriad of other issues in my life currently and that because all of this I am suffering from depression and need help.

I think he got the point, especially as I NEVER ask for help, and after 2 hours on the phone yesterday - after nothing for 2.5 weeks because of his sodding tossing air force base crap, he is getting it. He's the only person in my life I have told and I do feel a little better for it, he's now getting that constantly telling me that I'm strong is not helping, and that reminding me of how long I have to be patient and wait to see him again is not a good move. He's finally seeing the extent that all this !!!! is getting to me and trying to make it better. It's really nice to feel like I have some support because I have been supporting him and comforting him about his !!!!!! air force job for over a year now - in fact the whole time I've been with him. Now I don't feel so angry which is a nice step forward.

I'm also taking multivitamins full of all the things I've read up on being good for depression, it does seem to be helping - and at least this means on the days I'm barely eating I'm not going to do myself quite as much damage.

The sleep thing is still bad - I fell asleep the other day at 7pm, woke up at 10:30pm, fell asleep at 11:30pm and then woke up again at 8am but was still tired. That was horrible. I think I prefer the not sleeping to the over sleeping, at least then I can get things done.

I'm going to go to the library tomorrow and get out a book or two on depression, perhaps they have some more ideas of what can be done.

I'm feeling fairly up today, even though I'm ill and haven't stopped coughing all morning, but I think whilst I'm in an up mood rather than a down one I should try and get some stuff done. A feeling of accomplishing something would probably make me feel even better.

So that's me, been a big few days I guess

Sazbo

Morning everyone :hello:

Plushroom - glad you were able to air a few things with OH. It must really difficult trying to manage a long-distance relationship - I don't think I'd be able to cope, so I think you're doing really well! It's a good idea to keep an eye on diet and rest as these are often casualties in a battle with depression, as I know only too well. And reading up is good too - knowledge is power, after all:) Have a good day hun.

Beth - I remember you mentioning before that your SIL was really nice. And I agree that life is too short. I think if you can possibly get to Spain, then it's quite cheap once you are there isn't it? Have a check down the back of the sofa:D

Poor Gilly Badger had a terrible migraine last night, so he didn't sleep because of it, and I didn't sleep because I was worried about him. So sat here at work feeling a bit zombified. But yes, we are both really looking forward to Cornwall. It's our anniversary week so an extra special time too:D I think work and the long hours commuting is wearing us out a bit :-/

But we are starting to put plans in place to move house and we'll start the ball rolling when we get back from our hol. If nothing else, cutting back on the travelling would do us the world of good - as it is, we just feel we don't get enough "quality time" together - a phrase I don't particulary like, but is very apt. We are like zombies most of the time lol.

Anyhoo - enough of my ramblings:o

Take care everyone and have a good day :wave:

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

beachbeth

Sazbo wrote: »

Beth - I remember you mentioning before that your SIL was really nice. And I agree that life is too short. I think if you can possibly get to Spain, then it's quite cheap once you are there isn't it? Have a check down the back of the sofa:D

Think I will!:D

My husband is feeling tired and run down at the moment. He has the sort of job where his basic pay is rubbish and has to work quickly and without mistakes to earn bonus and give himself a decent wage. The result is that he pushes himself to the limit to earn more and more money. (He sprays cars). We don't need him to earn what he ends up with really but he is the sort of person who just should not be doing the type of job where you have to do this. He is aware of how he is doing at any point in the week and always knows what he has earnt so far. He worries himself silly about money whether we have plenty or not and I really wish he did a job where he was on a set wage rather than a bonus scheme.

Added to this he is completely wasted in the job he is doing because he would be great as an ambulance driver/paramedic or something similar. He is the sort of person who always knows what to do in a crisis. He is there already doing something whilst everyone else is just standing and thinking "Oh no, what do we do???" Trouble is, if he changed his job (if that is possible) then he wouldn't earn as much and would possibly end up with horrible hours.

Wish there was something I could do to reduce his work stress.

Sazbo

I'd find that stressful myself, BB. Would your husband be able to do a similar type of work somewhere else, but where the pay was not structured around bonuses?

I'm the last one to talk, because I'm always so tired from work and commuting, but does he have time for hobbies or interests outside of work? I find with me - I might get home not wanting to, but if I only spend 15 or 20 mins out in the garden when I get home from work - that makes a huge difference for me; I feel much less stressed after even after that short amount of time focusing on something else, something that I really enjoy. And not necessarily doing anything productive lol, just allowing my brain to uncoil... just a thought anyways...

Sazzy xxxx

possley

Hi all.
I’ve been lurking for a while but this is the first time I’ve posted. I have suffered from depression for about 7 years, although did not visit the Dr until last Oct. I know medication can’t be mentioned so I hope its ok for me to say I was given x. I thought it was working for about a month but realised I had not really improved at all. In Jan she gave me y – tried it for a while but also no improvement and at times worse than I had been for ages. During this time I was also getting run down and found I had anaemia, so I think that made things worse. I stopped taking y at the end of May. Was reluctant to try anything else after not improving. Dr wanted to refer me to a CPN – but also not really sure, because not a risk to myself, anyone else and still can do things myself. I did try counselling but counsellor was through uni and she was about to go on holiday so we agreed wouldn’t have enough sessions to be worthwhile before I left uni. I don’t think its for me as I find it very difficult to open up.
I felt a bit better for a while – June, July, still bad days but not consistently, but now I’m really quite low again. Crying a lot, sleeping a lot, feeling pretty weak and alone. I get up late as I find it hard to get to sleep at night. I am also trying to do my final project at uni which is due in the middle of Sept so feeling stressed and worried about that and can’t seem to motivate myself, if I am honest I can’t see myself getting to the end and handing in anything decent. (I also have a tendency for perfectionism).
At the moment I am living at home, on the surface I get on ok with my Mum, but she can be quite critical of what I do and is short tempered. I think she is disappointed I am not ‘making more’ of myself which I can understand. When I was very very down last summer she made things a lot worse with comments like ‘pull yourself together’ ‘stop being lazy’ etc, which just set me off into floods of tears etc. I don’t have the money etc to move out as I am a student, and no one to live with anyway. My parents have been really good to me and I have always had everything I wanted.
I don’t really have a lot of friends, a few know (4) about my depression, two of them I don’t know that well, they always ask how I am, but normally we meet somewhere busy (which I don’t like) so not a place to talk and I don’t think I would anyway. I had a really really good friend who was so supportive at the start of last summer but have barely spoken to since Feb cos whereas he used to phone every couple of weeks and text all the time he just stopped replying to my messages, and then another who is so lovely but she has stuff going on in her life and I feel quite guilty cos she is the only person who I talk to. I don’t go out that much, I’m occasionally at uni but mostly at home ‘trying’ to work.
I’m thinking of going back to the dr but I don’t know what to ask her to do. I feel silly that I take up so much of her time and there are people much worse off than me. I just wondered if anyone had any advice at all?
Thanks xx