Does anyone else feel this way or am I just strange?

Georgie4

I don't think you are weird at all ! I have felt like this since I was 11

I could do the pregnant bit but the thought of giving birth fills me with terror literally. Also babies do absolutely nothing for me - I only become interested when they get to about 18 months and can move around on their own etc

The problem is at 35 I am at the now or never stage really !! My DH isn't keen to start a family at all as we both have good jobs and a really good life style which he isn't prepared to give up. Bit of a crossroads really;)

meerkat2007

I'm 47 next birthday, and I have never wanted kids. In previous jobs, where people sometimes came in with their new babies, I was the streak of light heading out of the door. I came to the conclusion a long time ago that I missed the queue for maternal instinct.

Now, if people were to bring their new puppies into the office, they'd have to beat me off with a stick! :rotfl:

So no, you're not weird!

Georgie4

meerkat2007 wrote: »

I'm 47 next birthday, and I have never wanted kids. In previous jobs, where people sometimes came in with their new babies, I was the streak of light heading out of the door. I came to the conclusion a long time ago that I missed the queue for maternal instinct.

Now, if people were to bring their new puppies into the office, they'd have to beat me off with a stick! :rotfl:

So no, you're not weird!

You sound so like me it's scary I have 2 puppies and would have more tomorrow - most people feel like that about kids :rotfl:

suki1964

I can relate pretty much to what you are saying.

I always had an idea that somewhere along the line Id have a family but then I also didnt get the baby bit either. I really didnt like babies and the whole pregnancy thing just turned my stomach. I think I was about 13 when my sisters frienc was pregnant and one day the baby kicked and without asking me she took my hand and laid it on her tummy to feel - and I nearly died:eek: I still cringe at the thought of touching a pregnant tummy.

I never ever ever became broody. Sisters started families and tbh none of my neices and nephews mean a lot to me. I guess I love them on one level as they are familiy but I certainly didnt feel the slightest bit maternal

The only time I thought I might ever want children was when I was being assessed for a hysterectomy aged 35. Then it got to hit me that perhaps later in life I might want kids and then the choice was away from me. But that idea soon passed and today at 44 Im still child free.

Im also now a step grandma to a darling wee man who I do have that lovely warm fuzzy feeling about. I love having him stay and I love being an influence in his life. But Im also happy that we hand him back and dont have the responsibility for him daily. But I was never all gooey and fuzzy about him from the start. As a baby he didnt mean much to me at all. I never did know how to handle him, how to soothe him - nothing. And I was certainly never always around the house wanting to look after him, play with him etc Im bonding with him more as hes getting older.

So I dont think you are strange at all. I can relate entirely to what you are saying. Personally I wouldnt worry about it and just get on and enjoy your life best you can

gibboelli

Same here, I cant stand babies. I like the idea of having a kid to teach all these amazing things and show the world to and I think I have alot to pass on in that way but I cant stand babies!
My other half really wants a child but I wish you could just skip the first 7 years and have them that way! I do not relish the idea of being pregnant, 9 months of your body turning into a storage facilty, then finally squeezing the damn thing out and finding your body has then given up the ghost for life
I have no maternal instincts whatsoever and cant bare other peoples children, though I think this is totally different when you have your own. Most of what I dont like about other children is what the parents have taught them is ok.
I dont really like the idea of older parents either, remembering how boring the elder parents were of kids I knew. If I'm gonna have a kid, think I want it before I turn 25!
But thats me and I KNOW I am weird, I have a certificate to say so

Lyger

You're not the only one at all! I'm nearly 26 now, and still don't want children. I don't think I ever will have children. I'm content to let my older sister have the children. Then I can be the favourite auntie, and give them back when they start to cry and stuff.

xmaslolly76

Glad the cream egg thing was clarified im 16wks pregnant and have been eating them by the carton i was horrified when i read the original thread thinking id done something wrong.

And as for being weired no your not your just you and you have to do what feels right for you at the time. You may change your mind you may not in the end only you can decide what is right for you :-) x

Cazza

I understand what you're saying OP, I'm 27. I'm not particularly keen on children in general and a few years ago, I would have said that I actively did not want any. Now, I'm more never say never in my attitude, but frankly, I can't ever imagine it happening. For similar reasons, I think being pg and having children would restrict and change my lifestyle and I'm not ready to change my life in a way like that now. I might feel different in 3 or 5 years, I might not.

I talked to my Mum about this a few years ago, and I think what she said to me was what changed me to my never say never opinion. She told me that she didn't really like children or babies and could never understand people cooing over prams and wanting to hold a newborn. I was a bit confused and said "but you had my sister and I?", her reply, "You were different, you were mine"!

xmaslolly76

Your mom was so right Cazza i have no patience at all for other peoples children and i dont go gaga over babies but when i had my own it was a whole different ball game i could sit for hrs just watching them sleep and never get bored. I love teaching them new things taking them places and seeing their little eyes light up in wonder. See im sitting here smiling now hehe.

Lilith1980

I don't think you're strange at all. I'm 29 and DH is 27 and we are both dead-set against children.

We are both career-minded and want to be able to go out and socialise/see friends etc. All that would stop pretty much (well for me staying at home with the baby) so there is no way I'd want that!

I guess never say never because for some women their body-clock kicks in and they suddenly have the urge to have children. Well, this is what some female friends have told me anyway!

But certainly I cannot see myself ever having children. I have my DH and great friends around me and I love that. You go with what's right for you -everyone is different