Single and in Debt Part II

PinkTwirl

Good night FeeFee :hello:

Lula-Hula

sarahb123 wrote: »

The only way I can cope is to not look:o

Welcome to my blinkered world :rolleyes:. The nearest clothes shopping town is a mere 3 miles from me but I have only been there once since Christmas :eek: As for webby shops, I now view then remember that I cant buy in the size I want to as it wont fit now, then realise that there is no point in buying for the size I am now as then when I lose the weight it wont fit. It's a win win situation that prevents me from spending a single penny on clothes .

I'm sorry to hear that you're not happy tonight sarah & your earlier post did make me a bit misty eyed ... however, I have felt that this moment would come eventually & now that your lightbulb is fully illuminated you can make huge differences to your debts. You earn a self confessed decent wage & can now put it to good use in clearing all your debts.

I've been a bit rubbish recently & the silly spending has crept up again but every single penny spent on unnecessary frivolities is another penny not paid off the debt so I really need to get back on track.

While I'm confessing :

2 cups of coffee, 1 bowl of cereal, 1 slice of bread with peanut butter, 1 slice of bread with grated cheese, 1 cup of tea, 1/2 sausage roll, 2 jam tarts & 3 small slices of pizza :mad:. *realises that weight loss with friends coming round is impossible so goes into self imposed social exile for the next 2 weeks*. Was meant to be going out for pub supper tomorrow but have declined & saved both money & weight pounds

PinkTwirl

sarahb123 wrote: »

Am having an LBM. Again. But I think this might be the real one this time. :rolleyes:

This is all written in the wrong order because I am rambling, but I know what I mean. I want to sort it, but there are so many things to sort it just feels overwhelming.

Hi Sarah,

I just read your post. I swear it could have been me that wrote that, even down to the patterned wine glasses, DS and crap car. I had my real LBM 2 nights ago, when I started posting on here again. I know what that realisation is like, it's like a slap in the face. I too think buggar it, I'll have clothes because I can't have the Audi TT I want, I'll have wine glasses because I haven't got £22K to clear my debt so I can rent a flat and pay my mortgage at the same time. Even the on the shelf, missed the boat for kids thing, I get so sad about that. I feel ready to have them now, but no guy. He dumped me 3 years ago and it's been single ever since. Not wanting to go on about myself, just want to try to empathise somehow.

Any time you feel like posting about it you will find good company here.

sarahb123_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear that you're not happy tonight sarah & your earlier post did make me a bit misty eyed ... however, I have felt that this moment would come eventually & now that your lightbulb is fully illuminated you can make huge differences to your debts. You earn a self confessed decent wage & can now put it to good use in clearing all your debts.

I am feeling very carppy today but maybe it's for the best, I really can't be living here when I am 40, that would just be really embarrassing. Am going to have a think about it and make a paln, but two things I am definitely going to do is post every single bit of spending I do so I have to justify it and try very hard with the NSDs. will think of some more but they are the important ones for now.

It's not even so much about being single, it is about being fat and in debt when I needn't be either. I think today has been my biggest fat day ever. :rolleyes:

sarahb123_3

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Hi Sarah,

I just read your post. I swear it could have been me that wrote that, even down to the patterned wine glasses, DS and crap car. I had my real LBM 2 nights ago, when I started posting on here again. I know what that realisation is like, it's like a slap in the face.

It is a slap in the face, I am so very far behind where I thought I would be by now with my life. It is all self inflicted but at the same time I do think if I had met someone this would be less likely to have happened, i.e. 2 salaries and more disposable income plus less spending through boredom, especially at weekends. And I am going to have to sort it myself as I can't rely on someone else to come along and sort it.

Buffythedebtslayer

yesterday was mine.

I did eat a lot of chocolate but I think my problem is an exercise thing.

I am off to bed with my self book - feel the fear!

I love everyone on this thread, we will get out of debt and lose weight

Make a plan and stick to the plan

Love Buffyxxxx

PinkTwirl

Ok, if you do it so will I. I resolved 2 nights ago to post on this thread every day to remind myself that I don't want to be staying with my dad when I am 40, owning a flat 500 miles away that I can't live in (although hopefully still own it and not lose it).

e.g. my spend today - £1.60 on a orange tango at the gym. NSD yesterday. Using wipes on my eyes as can't afford Clinique eye make up remover this week.

I'm 32 and believe me, everything you wrote in your post I have going through my head every day. When The Pier shut down, I went in and bought 12 wine glasses. What the hell was I doing? I already had about 20!

You sound like my job clone. You didn't go for a job in Edinburgh did you by any chance? :rotfl::o

sarahb123_3

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Even the on the shelf, missed the boat for kids thing, I get so sad about that. I feel ready to have them now, but no guy. He dumped me 3 years ago and it's been single ever since. Not wanting to go on about myself, just want to try to empathise somehow.

There just seems so much to do, if I ever get the chance to do it, in so little time. I do want to meet someone, but I have to sort myself out first because this fat debt laden person is not me. I want a house, money in the bank, a job I like, a man, children, and it is just too much to think of all at once.

PinkTwirl

sarahb123 wrote: »

It is a slap in the face, I am so very far behind where I thought I would be by now with my life. It is all self inflicted but at the same time I do think if I had met someone this would be less likely to have happened, i.e. 2 salaries and more disposable income plus less spending through boredom, especially at weekends. And I am going to have to sort it myself as I can't rely on someone else to come along and sort it.

Yes, definitely. I had £3K of debt when me and my ex split up. We would have had a big house now, paying practically nothing due to interest rates reduction, a combined monthly take home of about £5K, and no need to fill in time clothes shopping and staying in bed instead. The past 3 years of my life have been crap since then.

I understand completely.

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

yesterday was mine.

I did eat a lot of chocolate but I think my problem is an exercise thing.

I am off to bed with my self book - feel the fear!

I love everyone on this thread, we will get out of debt and lose weight

Make a plan and stick to the plan

Love Buffyxxxx

There must be something in the air if we are all having these LBMs at the same time. :rolleyes: What does everyone think about posting any spending on here? I think i will do it as it has really helped with the clothes challenge.