Single and in Debt Part II

skint_spice

sounds a very positive day Sarah - fingers crossed for you on the job.

ziggles50

Hi all...can anyone tell me whether any of that Torres wine on offer at Tescos is actually drinkable???

Lula-Hula

ziggles50 wrote: »

Hi all...can anyone tell me whether any of that Torres wine on offer at Tescos is actually drinkable???

sorry sweetie,
all I can tell you is that I have consumed some very yummy (& effective ) chilean merlot & a rather delicious & my all time favourite rioja tonight.

am just the other side of squiffy & about to run amok ( only in my mind unfortunately) with gorgeous personal trainer from Brighton who has a camper van :rotfl: I am collecting numbers like a phone box but sadly have no way of acting upon them which is probably for the best :rolleyes:

Todays score : Nice farmer who think I'm cute & wants to meet up just sent me email & phone number,

Gorgeous personal trainer as described above - & I mean gorgeous :drool:

Lovely, lovely sweet widower who is funny & I just want to hug ( also from Brighton so I could co ordinate with Mr. Personal Trainer - if I have any energy left :rotfl:)

Not very appealing local lad type with not a lot of charisma who keeps asking exactly where i live ... Too damn close is the answer so I'm not telling :D

I'm keeping Mr. Daughter-of-same-age as a friend & hope to meet him for coffee next week ... & as for Mr. Nice from Poshy town ... he called yesterday & we chatted for ages, had loads in common, invited me round for lunch on friday ... then he randomly just hung up on me

Men are !!!!!! :mad:

* stomps off to bed to read book *

gwen80

Which one was the potential date for tomorrow? Mr Poshy? Are you sure he wasn't cut off?

I've got to say though, despite having tried it and persevering with it to a limited extent (I can't be bothered at the moment and I'm borderline obsessed with sorting my money situation out), internet dating is a weird, weird thing. Fella's are dead keen one minute and gone the next, but if he hung up on you, that's plain rude and horrible. Think of it this way Lula, if that's how rude he is on the phone, imagine how rude he'd be in real life. You probably had a lucky escape and now you won't waste anymore time on him.

Apologies to any men reading, but I agree men are @rses. Every time I think I'm sick of being single I think about the @rse that messed me around last year and think about how he is now messing around his gf behind her back. I think, it could be worse, I could have a bf like that... And then there's the fella at work who blew up on me for no reason the other day. No idea what his problem is, but he seems to have some sort of issue with me. Every time I talk to him, he's either deliberately difficult or bites my head off. Sick of it. I don't understand men and I don't think I ever will.

God look at the time. I stayed up too late doing some goddessing and packing. Hi to everybody!

Gwenx

sarahb123_3

ziggles50 wrote: »

Hi all...can anyone tell me whether any of that Torres wine on offer at Tescos is actually drinkable???

I can:D It is:D Not brilliant but certainly drinkable, gave a bottle to a friend yesterday and have had very positive report back, plus have tested it myself:D Considering the points, which I have decided to swap for Bella Italia/Pizza Express (will get £74ish) it's definitely worth it, plus if you have a car you get 5p off per litre of petrol if you spend over £50 so it is a good deal.

Paulgonnabedebtfree

moo2moo wrote: »

Not all the fellas on dating sites are wierdos though Lula. Some of them are genuine and shy and wouldn't stand a chance of meeting someone in their everyday life. My dad met his wife that way. She wouldn't have given him a second glance anywhere else but they've been married for over a decade.

Well thank you for pointing this out .
I've been on dating sites in the past and I've met some very nice women and some who I felt severely uncomfortable with. I did have flings with a couple of them with whom I thought there might be room for something longer term, but nothing came from it. Live and learn I suppose. As for staying safe, that cuts both ways. I once ended up on a date with someone who told me she had been in prison for assaulting a previous BF (I imagine the assault must have been pretty severe). She didn't get my phone number. She stank too (yuk !!).
It's certainly true that some of us males take a bit longer to know what we want from life and a relationship. I've had to discover this the hard way by experiencing the things that I don't want first. At 52 and in a pile of debt I won't be after having any children now. Pity really as I could be a much better father now than I could have when younger. It's partly an age thing but mostly a financial one. If I suddenly came into loads of money (it won't happen) parenthood would be on my life agenda again - with the right person. Obviously a child rearing reationship would need to be with someone rather younger than myself due to the menopausal stuff but, in reality, it just isn't going to happen.
That stuff about "dirty old men" is funny really. I have to admit that since my early 40s, I have been much more open to my sexual fantasies than when I was younger. I see nothing wrong with that. It's only wrong (IMO) if there is an attempt to impose them on someone else who is unwilling. There's nothing too odd about them really. I think that problems only really occur when someone stops being aware of the difference between fantasy and reality. Let's face it, if we were locked up for our fantasies (sexual or otherwise), there would be no-one left to be the jailer.

A lesson I have learned though: If I were to ever bother with dating sites again, I would get a PAYG phone and SIM card that I could throw away and not miss. I've not had lots of odd experiences but just enough to realise that occasionally it can be necessary to make myself uncontactable. Of course, if I didn't want to see someone again, I would tell them. Unfortunately, some people seem to go deaf when the word "no" is uttered.

Lula-Hula

Hi all,

thanks for the male perspective Paul & your experiences Gwen -

no wonder I'm so miffed, I'd completely forgotten that I'm meant to be a BAV this year :rolleyes: as I know that [STRIKE]all[/STRIKE] sorry, most men are !!!!!!

I have no idea what happened to Mr. PoshTown - shame really as after 2 phone calls I thought the conversation was flowing very well, and we seemed to have loads in common .The conversation was coming to an end anyway but it was a bit odd & I didnt really know what to do. I did eventually try to call back but just got the answerphone so didnt bother to leave a message.

We had arranged to have lunch today, which is why it's so odd & he'd given me his address but I wouldnt dare turn up now so have just sent him a message ( through the site) to say "what was that all about ?"

Planning to go to a gig with Mr. Lovely widower - he's just looking for friends so probably less odd :rolleyes:

Less men & more wine & SAID I think

hugs to all

xx

ziggles50

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Hi all,

no wonder I'm so miffed, I'd completely forgotten that I'm meant to be a BAV this year :rolleyes: as I know that [STRIKE]all[/STRIKE] sorry, most men are !!!!!!

What's a BAV?

Lula-Hula

ziggles50 wrote: »

What's a BAV?

Born Again Virgin :rolleyes: as in a person who is abstaining from going anywhere near the opposite sex

I decide to become one this year after having yet another wrong relationship which was brimming over with Much Freaking Drama :eek:

I declared that I was having time out to concentrate on paying off my debts & that men were just a hindrance :rotfl:

I managed 6 months & then got bored & am even now wondering what on earth happened to Mr. Posh :mad: That's what gets me mad; the amount of time spent just thinking & wondering about them. And even more annoying is that yet again I managed to find yet another complete freakcake who appeared to be completely normal. I can honestly say that I had no inkling at all during our conversations & I was looking our for potential oddness this time.

I am baffled & just slightly intrigued, to the extent that I did end up leaving a brief message on the ansaphone earlier.

It's like a mystery, & I'll be annoyed until I solve it :rolleyes:

will be back later

Lula Marple
x

gwen80

Hi

It's been quiet on here. How is everybody?

Meant to say - well done on the shop assistant Holly. I always mean to do that when shop assistants are like that, but then I look at what I have in my hand and think 'but I really want it', so stand there and wait like a total mug. Good for you. Vote with your feet.

I know I'm probably the only one in the country who feels this way, but I'm actually a bit relieved Murray isn't in the final. Of course, I wanted him to win and would have loved to see him in the final, but I've been in a major tizz the last couple of days thinking 'Oh my God, what if he is...' esp with people saying how much the tickets might be worth, so now I feel like there's less pressure on the event (for me) and I can go and enjoy a lovely day out. Murray to win next year though! I got a couple of frosty goodbye's in work today though, so I'm wondering if there may be a hint of jealousy around. I don't really get it, but then I'm not really a jealous person. Envy, I can understand, but not jealousy. Oh well...

Not doing v.well on the money saving front really, but been busy with preparations for this weekend. Although the money from vodafone has tracked on quidco and the plumber wasn't as expensive as I feared. I have spent too much on clothes etc though recently and I'm v.v.tempted to buy a new bag I've seen....musn't, musn't, musn't. After this weekend, I'll be having the most boring time ever, because I'm seriously skint. But maybe it'll give me the kick I need to finally sell some stuff!

Lula, I really wouldn't waste your time wondering. The likelihood is you'll never understand, because it doesn't make any sense at all (and he's a man). Also, sorry to say it, but the chances of him getting back to say to you 'I hung up because...' are v.slim. You're better off putting it out of your head and forgetting about it, otherwise you'll drive yourself mad. Better go

Gwenx