Single and in Debt Part II

Hollyberry

sarahb123 wrote: »

The last thread got to around 5000 posts before it was closed, I think we are allowed to get away with longer threads on this board. Single and in debt 3-the problem of surplus and excess women:rotfl:, is that the one you were thinking of?

For some reason, this escaped from the Multi-Quote. And I was doing so well. :rolleyes:

And yes, that is exactly what I was thinking of. :A I just hoped you could get in there with the fine title before anyone else did...

sarahb123_3

makeup wrote: »

That is exactly the situation I have been in so many times. The last time I hung in for an insane amount of time just waiting for it to get back to the beginning.....like 2 years :mad::mad:

Been there too.:mad: I think the only positive we can take from it is that it allows you to be clear about what you don't want.:rolleyes: I was basing my list on those things but I think "no freaking drama" covers everything succinctly.

I hope if this ever happens to me again I will run away screaming and congratulate myself on looking out for myself but I wonder if I will. I always hang on for grim death believing that I will never get another chance.:rolleyes: Of course I see how stupid this all is with hindsight, but when you are in a rubbish relationship it is hard to leave when you remember the good bits. Arrgggghhhh:mad:

makeup

You are so right Sarah, totally echoing everything you said.

I just hope you are right and next time can realise soon enough and get myself out of the situation.

Hollyberry - great - will look forward to a football match for once!!!!;)

I'm off to Birmingham tomorrow for a Fathers day lunch, and have offered to make a cake for afternoon tea. The cake is taking ages to cook, just want it to come out of the oven so I can go to bed!

I'm still feeling knackered after yesterday!

Hollyberry

That will be brill makeup - looking forward to meeting up! How's the mouth healing?

sarahb123_3

makeup wrote: »

You are so right Sarah, totally echoing everything you said.

I just hope you are right and next time can realise soon enough and get myself out of the situation.

This is what I worry about, I know that I am better off by myself than trapped in a carppy relationship. I know that. I know that being single with no ties means that if I meet someone there will be no messy having to extricate (sp) myself from anything and I am free to jump right in. In the meantime I like my own company and I am fine with being by myself.

However...I worry that I will get myself into something that isn't right and find myself unable to leave because it was right at the beginning and I keep trying to get that back. By the time I am out of it I will be too old to have children. I do tend to cling on forever, then take forever to get over it. I really feel that I am drinking in the last chance saloon here.

I worry that I will end up with someone just for the chance to have children. And that would make me really miserable because I want someone who "gets" me and likes art and history and books and getting drunk and being silly and laughing and rings and texts and is calm and sensible and funny and stupid and clever and "gets" shoes and clothes and a million other things.

It's not fair. And I know that is a stupid and pointless thing to say. But plenty of people meet the right one, so why is it unreasonable for me to think I deserve the same. I'm not asking for the world for God's sake. Just what everyone else has. Grrrrrrrr.

*rant over*

Lula-Hula

sarahb123 wrote: »

This is what I worry about, I know that I am better off by myself than trapped in a carppy relationship. I know that. I know that being single with no ties means that if I meet someone there will be no messy having to extricate (sp) myself from anything and I am free to jump right in. In the meantime I like my own company and I am fine with being by myself.

This is exactly how I feel and ....

However...I worry that I will get myself into something that isn't right and find myself unable to leave because it was right at the beginning and I keep trying to get that back. By the time I am out of it I will be too old to have children. I do tend to cling on forever, then take forever to get over it. I really feel that I am drinking in the last chance saloon here.

I did this for 2 years with xbf :rolleyes:

I worry that I will end up with someone just for the chance to have children. And that would make me really miserable because I want someone who "gets" me and likes art and history and books and getting drunk and being silly and laughing and rings and texts and is calm and sensible and funny and stupid and clever and "gets" shoes and clothes and a million other things.

Oh for a man like you described, just someone normal

It's not fair. And I know that is a stupid and pointless thing to say. But plenty of people meet the right one, so why is it unreasonable for me to think I deserve the same. I'm not asking for the world for God's sake. Just what everyone else has. Grrrrrrrr.

*rant over*

I think that was a multi quote, will press submit & see what happens

Lula-Hula

Grrrrr I cant seem to get my multi quote button to work step by step direction from a clever person please

sarahb123_3

Can't help with the multi quote, maybe just go back and edit it to highlight your bits? I agree that we do seem to be looking for someone normal, was thinking I was asking for the impossible but you are right. I have described a normal man with little bits tweaked to suit me.

RosaBernicia

Hi all

Back from work trip and have obviously been missing out, had to catch up on about 6 pages!

So with you on the No Freakin Drama thing. Can we have that as a subtitle or something? Funny thing is though, I have never been into drama and I think it almost confuses men to find that. I don't do mind games (life and people are complicated enough already), nagging (if I'm that bothered I'll sort it myself one way or another), or third chances (once even I have run out of excuses for someone, they really are screwed). I've never understood why I should treat a boyfriend worse that my friends - I mean, if it's bad behaviour to a mate, why would I do it to someone else I care about? And yet a couple of times all this seems to get them rattled and they run off with a shallow drama queen. *Sigh.*

Anyway work trip went fine, there was no mention of work guy after all and I think maybe I was reading too much into it. Besides which I think I've gone off him :rotfl:. Oh well. Maybe it was the epilator visualisation . So form an orderly queue please, lovely local men looking for fabulous non-drama queen...

Hope everybody's having a good weekend. :grouphug:

Rosa xx

Lula-Hula

There are many many men out there but I'm wary as so many apparently normal guys that I know of turn out to be completely weird. The last 2 I was inolved with were freaks :eek: & I now question my ability to read a persons real character. A friened who met her Bf through internet dating was really happy for 2 years but always felt he wasnt being entirely open. A couple of months back the husband of the woman her bf had been having a 7 year :eek: 'thing' with turned up at her house at 6 in the morning

I reckon it takes a couple of years to really get to know a person & how they behave in real life. There's also a big difference in someone having little quirks & having to live with those quirks on a daily basis :rolleyes: