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Single and in Debt Part II

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  • RosaBernicia
    RosaBernicia Posts: 4,909 Forumite
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    Hi all

    Magnum. Hmmmmm... *waves sadly to almond Magnums in closed corner shop*.

    Am struggling for sparkles from the last couple of days, today has been horribly stressful. Was supposed to be at college but ended up doing day job work on the bus in, over lunch, and in the afternoon, all needed in order to get things done for next week, so now am tired and very grumpy and have a headache. But I did manage to 1) decide to delay a module after all which will make me a lot less stressed over the next 3 months, 2) dive in John Lewis and buy the earrings I want to go with a dress for an event next week (they were expensive but I don't really wear any other jewellery and will go with lots of things, so don't mind), 3) realise that changing student status will save me £700, so am 4) going to order the new colour Bravissimo dress I saw after all.

    As for un-sparkles (clouds? dulls? yuckies?), I heard something else which makes me pretty sure the guy I liked at work is seeing someone else there :( and I have to be at an event with her next week :( so am going to take myself a book or something for a treat and find an excuse to stay in my hotel room so I don't have to hear about it. Am sad and also angry. Not quite sure why - feel a bit of a fool as have been sort of flirting with him (as much as natural shyness allows, so probably nobody else would have noticed) and I do think that rather than just not reacting he could have mentioned he was now taken. At least I think I have avoided making too much of a fool of myself before finding out.

    Hope everyone else has had a nicer and more peaceful day than I did, and have got good things planned for the weekend.

    Rosa xx
    Debt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
    Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc
  • sarahb123_3
    sarahb123_3 Posts: 2,767 Forumite
    edited 12 June 2009 at 10:39PM

    As for un-sparkles (clouds? dulls? yuckies?), I heard something else which makes me pretty sure the guy I liked at work is seeing someone else there :( and I have to be at an event with her next week :( so am going to take myself a book or something for a treat and find an excuse to stay in my hotel room so I don't have to hear about it. Am sad and also angry. Not quite sure why - feel a bit of a fool as have been sort of flirting with him (as much as natural shyness allows, so probably nobody else would have noticed) and I do think that rather than just not reacting he could have mentioned he was now taken. At least I think I have avoided making too much of a fool of myself before finding out.

    Oh Rosa, what a rubbish thing to happen. Are you absolutely certain that he is seeing her? You have not made a fool of yourself at all.
    Pay/save £20k in 2010 £5888.75/£20,000
    June Mini target 0/5lbs Total 23/40
    Ebay profit 2010: March £207:) April £95:) May £130:) June £0 Total £432:j
  • gwen80
    gwen80 Posts: 2,255 Forumite
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    edited 12 June 2009 at 10:42PM
    Hi Rosa

    Sorry to hear about the clouds.

    Rubbish about the bloke. If you're pretty sure, then try and avoid both of them. You definitely don't need to hear all the gushy romantic details. Really, blokes are carp. Sorry to any blokes reading, but they are. I was pretty much in the same situation as you Rosa last year, but unfortunately, I did make a total fool of myself. However, despite what some people may think, I'm not stupid and I was definitely getting a lot of vibes back. He's now seeing somebody else and continues to flirt inappropriately with me (v.badly) and I have to keep pulling him up on it and reminding him he has a girlfriend. I don't care anymore, I'm so much better off out of it all and with hindsight I'm so glad nothing did happen. It would never have worked out because he keeps his brains in his knickers and would have led to an even more messy work situation. And I've discovered men don't make it clear when they're seeing somebody. I'm not sure if it's 'keeping their options open' and/or 'enjoying the attention', but they can be cowardly about these things. I heard from a friend this guy was seeing somebody the day before I went on a week-long course with him. My reaction was to go home, get very, very drunk in the house and have to get up at 5.30 am to pack and still turn up late to go on the course!!

    Give yourself some time Rosa, then get yourself back out there. Actually maybe you'll meet somebody at this event? Get chatting to lots of other people and see who you meet. Things happen for a reason (I hope) and there are lots of other great guys out there.

    Gwenx
    Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending
  • Hollyberry
    Hollyberry Posts: 837 Forumite
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    *Has just eaten lovely mint choc lolly from Mr A - £1 for 4 and rather fine.* Belly fortunately hidden under baggy t shirt and wrap cardi.:rolleyes:

    Awww Rosa, that's miserable. Here's to the subtle approach allowing for a tactical retreat (or at least a re-evaluation of the situation). Sending a virtual and calorie-free almond Magnum for paltry consolation.

    Gwen - I'm at about the same stage with you on the matched betting. Can we share a collective brain when we get going? :D

    Sarah - a fine shop if I may say so. I keep trying to avoid the cake and biscuits but they will launch themselves like lemmings into my trolley. ;)

    Sparkles:
    1. About 5.5 hours of sleep, with 2 hours ferreting eBay at 2am when I couldn't sleep. (If I wake up at 1.10am again tonight, after an hour's sleep, there will be trouble...)
    2. SUN - at least some of the time, and a seat in the garden
    3. A lunch I actually wanted to eat (side effect of the dratted medication)
    4. Seen a lovely top in Zara which is only £30, and which I will go and try on Monday when the shops are quieter. Can imagine it will look great with white jeans if the sun ever stops teasing and actually comes out properly
    5. OH and I having a laugh about the state of my bank balance when my redundancy payment goes in on the 25th, particularly as the local branch manager is likely to have a major panic and ring me immediately asking if I have "plans for the money". Erm, living off it until I can get another job...? :rolleyes: Moving it into my savings once it has cleared...? :p

    If the weather is ok tomorrow, I think it is time for a picnic down by the canal, and a visit to the swans. Then this will be the weekend when Turbo Lister and I get down and dirty together and list some eBay items. I have set myself a challenge of earning us some money to go to the coast in August/September, and it will soon be more like December if I don't get on and sell some clothes. I am also feeling ever more guilty as I have read the outbreak of threads on Old Style and Health & Beauty which are all about sorting out your wardrobe.

    Can I ask you all to keep me on the straight and narrow? I am allowed out on Saturday, and then listing must commence on Sunday. :o
  • Lula-Hula
    Lula-Hula Posts: 7,868 Forumite
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    Good evening my fellow fabby ones, sarah's back yay :j

    Well done on all the new achievments :A

    I've been quite sparkly today :

    1 - had a lovely bubbly bath as soon as DD at school & then did fake tan, my nails & wandered about with coffee & choccie biccie beautifully alone

    2 - decluttered the living room & rearranged the furniture to improve the flow of good chi

    3 - decluttered my bedroom ( again :o)

    4 - just had a portion of toffee popcorn

    5 - it's been a NSD


    There was a gruesome half hour too when I got reacquainted with my epilator _pale_ & I've eaten rubbish all day & I still havent paid money back into my savings account ... :rolleyes:

    I have magnum envy
  • sarahb123_3
    sarahb123_3 Posts: 2,767 Forumite
    gwen80 wrote: »
    Give yourself some time Rosa, then get yourself back out there. Actually maybe you'll meet somebody at this event? Get chatting to lots of other people and see who you meet. Things happen for a reason (I hope) and there are lots of other great guys out there.

    I was thinking the exact same thing, it would be brilliant if you could meet someone else there, also I do agree these things happen for a reason, was going to post something like that but gwen said it so much better. I tend to think that when you do meet the one there is none of this does he like me/is he flirting/is he single/what does that mean nonsense, it just feels right, right away. If he is not the one, best to cross him off the list and move on, because one day it will turn out just right and the quicker you move on the quicker you will find him.
    Pay/save £20k in 2010 £5888.75/£20,000
    June Mini target 0/5lbs Total 23/40
    Ebay profit 2010: March £207:) April £95:) May £130:) June £0 Total £432:j
  • gwen80
    gwen80 Posts: 2,255 Forumite
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    Lula-Hula wrote: »

    2 - decluttered the living room & rearranged the furniture to improve the flow of good chi

    Lula,

    I don't know much about Feng Shui, but is it possible to rearrange your furniture to improve the flow of good money and/or men, lol?? :D

    Gwenx
    Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending
  • sarahb123_3
    sarahb123_3 Posts: 2,767 Forumite
    Hollyberry wrote: »
    Sarah - a fine shop if I may say so. I keep trying to avoid the cake and biscuits but they will launch themselves like lemmings into my trolley. ;)

    I was particulary please with myself, I picked things up, I thought will I eat this this week, decided no and put them down. Must have at least halved the bill. I may finally be getting the hang of being sensible and not buying everything I want.:D
    I am also feeling ever more guilty as I have read the outbreak of threads on Old Style and Health & Beauty which are all about sorting out your wardrobe.

    I am embarrassed to lurk on that board sometimes, I just cannot believe how they manage to do so much and look after every penny. I want to be like themicon9.gif
    Can I ask you all to keep me on the straight and narrow? I am allowed out on Saturday, and then listing must commence on Sunday. :o

    You can go out to play on Saturday and we will be here to make sure you get listing on Sunday.:D
    Pay/save £20k in 2010 £5888.75/£20,000
    June Mini target 0/5lbs Total 23/40
    Ebay profit 2010: March £207:) April £95:) May £130:) June £0 Total £432:j
  • gwen80
    gwen80 Posts: 2,255 Forumite
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    sarahb123 wrote: »
    I was thinking the exact same thing, it would be brilliant if you could meet someone else there, also I do agree these things happen for a reason, was going to post something like that but gwen said it so much better. I tend to think that when you do meet the one there is none of this does he like me/is he flirting/is he single/what does that mean nonsense, it just feels right, right away. If he is not the one, best to cross him off the list and move on, because one day it will turn out just right and the quicker you move on the quicker you will find him.

    Yeah, I'm sure they do. It wasn't meant to be for whatever reason. It just means there is somebody else more wonderful out there that is meant for you. You haven't made a fool of yourself and now without him in your head, you're free to move on and see other possibilities.
    Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending
  • Hollyberry
    Hollyberry Posts: 837 Forumite
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    Gwen and Sarah have said it all way better than I could, Rosa. Here's to the uncomplicated, easy (no, not like that!) one being much nearer than you think.
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