Single and in Debt Part II

Shoe_Gal

spooney7 wrote: »

Hi all, hope everyone's well!

Today's been a really rubbish day- I went to my WI this morning, and found out I put on 3.5lbs (in a week!). Then I went to return some DVD's I rented, and because they were a day late I was charged almost as much as the rental fee. Overall, I'm now feeling depressed lol!

Hope the weekend's going good so far for you all! x

What a pants day :mad: Hope you've something nice planned for the evening?

spooney7

Not really. I'm going to make some dinner, but then I have to clean my room and do some homework- you'd think I was 12 lol!

Shoe_Gal

spooney7 wrote: »

Not really. I'm going to make some dinner, but then I have to clean my room and do some homework- you'd think I was 12 lol!

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Hollyberry

Evening all.

Sorry to hear about various outbreaks of pantsage today. I have been overly engaged in the domestic arts myself, so I am feeling decidedly bored at this stage in the day. Although I have no reason to be fed up as we are away tomorrow night (one of de Vere's £19 specials), and mini-hols are always cause for celebration. Even if they are semi-aquatic.

Before I go tomorrow, I need to get back on Quidco and find out if I can get any cashback for my house insurance. My current insurer has quoted just over £550 (where is a *gulp* smiley when you need it :rolleyes:), and I am sure I must be able to get it cheaper - time for a bit of a quote-fest. Last year's worked out at £62 a month, which is just crazy.

Is there anything good on TV tonight? I think I have missed Sex & The City (but will try and catch it sometime again this week). Failing that, it's a book, possibly under the duvet as it's coooold here. I think I have adjusted to my summer thermostat settings, and am refusing to warm up properly.

PinkTwirl

Is it just me that gets messed around when meeting up with people? People cancelling and deciding if they "feel like it". Is it just me that doesn't get invited out at weekends with my friends and their friends?

Not feeling too bright this evening

lottie_no1

Morning all,

Another singleton in debt here so please be gentle!!!!!

Can someone pass the chocolate as I have not had any for a week and could really do with some!

Summer74_2

Hi lottie. I have an Easter Egg here that keeps looking at me. I'd say I'd swap it if someone passed a glass of wine...but still recovering from last night!!

lottie_no1

Thanks Summer, totally fed up of a) not being able to go out every weekend while I watch the pennies and b) all of my friends who like to go out as couples and proceed to be all lovey dovey!

Have some wine, a hair of the dog may do you some good! I'm off to my local pub cos I know them in there with the newspaper for a cheap pint :beer:, just wish I had someone to do debt-free cheapy things with

Hope everyone is having a happy Sunday!

CupCake410

Hi everyone - I've been reading this thread for sometime now and to be honest this whole website has been a godsend to me. Anyway, I just wanted to post my situation on here, I guess to see if anyone else is in the same boat - anything to make me feel better about myself.

Im 34, im single and in debt and currently living with my parents, which isn't were I want to be but its were i need to be to clear my debt. I've owned my own property before and moved back to get myself out of the mess i'm in. I haven't told my friends about my debt situation, its something that I feel is my problem and I want to solve it but I feel like I constantly have to justify why I live with my parents (I should say i've lived here for the past 4 years). I actually don't mind living here, its easy, my parents are great, i'm independent still and don't answer anyone but i know there are some people out there that will judge me because of it. I see it as a means to an ends and know that in 2.5 years my debt nightmare will be over and I can finally move on.

I'll admit that i'm embarressed that I still live at home and I think this is what has stoped me having a relationship - so it looks like another 2.5 years of being single!!!

My last relationship was around 4 years ago and that only lasted 6 months, my longest! i'm even embarressed to admit that! I don't know where i go wrong but i have got a terrible habit of attracting the wrong men, I swear i do it everytime. Its got to the stage where its a run-in joke with my mates.

I spend a lot of time of my own and i think i've actually got used to it. I like my own company but when i see my friends settling down and having a family i get twinges of sadness that washes over me and I honeslty don't think it will happen for me.

Summer74_2

Hi Cupcake

Welcome to the site, I am also very new and finding this very supportive. I am not living with my parents…that’s not an option for me, but I do get asked a lot by people at work why I don’t buy a house instead of renting. I just tell them that I think it’s an expensive thing for somebody to do on their own and at the moment I don’t have to worry about maintenance. Maybe you could think of something similar. Tell people you are saving a deposit to buy a house as it’s a scary prospect on your own and you can save more by living at home. It’s nobody else’s business really and when people persist in telling me how renting is a waste of money I just say thanks for your interest and trying to look out for me but I’m capable of deciding for myself thanks.

As for relationships I thought nobody would want me due to my debt and was anxious when I told my last partner about it. He was fine, which surprised me. My main concern was that when he wanted to go away or out I would have to either let him pay (and I didn’t want him to resent me) or he would have to go on his own. It was more a problem for me than him. I don’t think you should let it prevent you from having a relationship just be upfront and let them decide if it’s a problem for them or not. There are probably a lot of men that would welcome you having to visit them at their home rather than miss out on an opportunity to get to know you. Men are tolerant of different things to women so give somebody a chance.

As for liking your own company….I have made that claim for a long time and just buried myself in work so I didn’t have to think about it too much. I split with my partner 3 weeks ago, 10 days after we had attended my best friends wedding (it was her saying we would be next that prompted him to end it). I realised very quickly that I needed people around me and although I am not desperate for the big wedding and babies, I do want a family. I am now taking the first steps to building a social life and am already getting a lot of support from people on this site so keep with it and we will get there together.