Single and in Debt Part II

makeup

Eco -

Pak Choi is used a lot in Chinese / South East Asian cooking and I think it is really nice. Isn't too strong

Fennel - (assume Florence fennel is just one of the variants of the ususal fennel) tastes of aniseed - I love aniseed so I love it! You can use raw in salads or it is really nice braised. I've got a lush recipe for fennel risotto. Hit me up if you want it.

Re: clothes -

Your friends won't mind what you go out in (although possibly clean would be best :rotfl:)

Most of the guys I've been out with haven't especially noticed what I've worn. I think women are much more fashion-y - for example I have a really fab 70s style poncho that I love to death. I get a lot of compliments from women but I can tell from mens faces that they think I look a bit ridiculous!!!

I met my last boyfriend at a bus stop - I was wearing trackie bottoms and a t-shirt......

I think the most important parting of dressing up for a date is the confidence it gives you.

If you truly have nothing to wear out then you need to get a few bits. If you are properly big then the Inspire range at New Look is really good. I always get my jeans from there and my faves are £12.

Just get a couple of cheapie bits so that you have something to tide you over til you lose weight.

I'm a size 20/22 and so I normally make sure I have my cleavage on show - distracts from everything else!

I went to an impromptu barbecue last night, my friend rang me up at 5pm so I jumped on a train and headed out to Farnham. It was lovely to enjoy the weather and we had a good chat the next morning. Really nice way to spend the day.

I've also made a lovely chicken, mango and couscous salad s othis will last for the next few days lunches at work.

RosaBernicia

makeup wrote: »

Re: clothes - Your friends won't mind what you go out in (although possibly clean would be best :rotfl:)

:rotfl:true.

Buffythedebtslayer

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi

How was everybody's bank holiday? Good? At least the sun was out yesterday.

You'll have to excuse me, I'm having a bit (lot) of a mope. Gavin just called and basically I am dumped. To be fair we had a bit of a disagreement on the phone this morning and I was expecting it, but then it happened. It's fair to say I'm a bit gutted. I've eaten a whole bag of Cadbury's chocolate raisins and that was just when I was waiting for the call, now I might see what else I've got...sorry, not in the best frame of mind, I'll hopefully be back later feeling a bit cheerier (or I'll have cracked open the vodka).

Gwenx

Oh I am sorry hon, eat chocolate and be miserable for today and make sure you stay in touch on here and with your real life friends.

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::coffee::EasterBun

(((((((hugs)))))))

gwen80

Thanks guys. Have had a bit of a cry. The sad thing is I'd really started to like him a lot and I guess it's just confirmed what I already thought, that I'm not capable of having a relationship. Tis carp...

Shoe_Gal

Paulgonnabedebtfree wrote: »

I sometimes wonder if it's just a better tactic to be happy with what we have fat, thin, wonderfully clothed or not. I can't speak for others but I feel far more attracted to someone who is happy, overweight, and no real fashion sense than someone who has the stereotype of the ideal figure, dressed beautifully, but is unhappy (possibly, in part, because of the image they think they need to project).
I can honestly tell you that far and away the worst relationship I've ever been in was with someone who looked totally, stereotypically beautiful on the outside but turned out to be........... well I won't go there but some of you may recall me writing a while back about a stalker that pushed me to the edge of a mental health problem some years ago.
Apart from that, a lot of guys feel intimidated if a woman seems too perfect and won't ask them out anyway. As I've got older I no longer feel intimidated by someone's looks as I've come to realise that we are all just people underneath with our desires, dreams, successes, failures, and insecurities.
PS. I often sit down when I pee in case I miss. If I do miss, I wipe it up.

Thanks Paul, what a lovely post - and just what we all needed to hear

Shoe_Gal

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi

How was everybody's bank holiday? Good? At least the sun was out yesterday.

You'll have to excuse me, I'm having a bit (lot) of a mope. Gavin just called and basically I am dumped. To be fair we had a bit of a disagreement on the phone this morning and I was expecting it, but then it happened. It's fair to say I'm a bit gutted. I've eaten a whole bag of Cadbury's chocolate raisins and that was just when I was waiting for the call, now I might see what else I've got...sorry, not in the best frame of mind, I'll hopefully be back later feeling a bit cheerier (or I'll have cracked open the vodka).

Gwenx

Poor you! Have a good wallow, one night only though - then buy F Fabulous shoes

makeup

gwen80 wrote: »

Thanks guys. Have had a bit of a cry. The sad thing is I'd really started to like him a lot and I guess it's just confirmed what I already thought, that I'm not capable of having a relationship. Tis carp...

Gwen - I'm really sorry things didn't work out - you are definitely entitled to as many chocolate raisins as you can manage (and if you get bored of them can I recommend white chocolate strawberries from M&S?)

Try not to think of this as you not being capable of having a relationship. I think that isn't true at all. For whatever reason you and Gavin didn't work out...this is just the way things go - it doesn't make it less painful or less depressing or less upsetting though.

I mean you managed more than me - you've got out there, met someone and been on some dates. I haven't been on a date since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago!

Take care of yourself in the next few days - make sure you eat properly, spend time with your friends and do nice things like a hot bath, trashy TV whatever you like really (but probably not shopping! )

And I know it is a cheesy thing to say and it won't mean much at the moment but if he didn't appreciate your many qualities then he didn't deserve to have you.

gwen80

To be fair, I didn't do much to be appreciated. However, I've been having a bit of a think and if I'm honest, I didn't feel like I could be myself with him. I come with quite a bit of baggage, I know that and he couldn't handle it. I knew he couldn't so I kept quiet and tried to get on with things, but I guess if it'd been right, I should have felt able to open up to him and feel that I'd be accepted for who I am. Having said that he's going through a divorce and has enough on his plate without some crazy girlfriend, who needs to be accepted blah, blah, blah...

Buffythedebtslayer

Read this rather depressing article today.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1187121/Is-better-to-compromise-LUCY-TAYLOR-38-says-shes-settling-Mr-Not-Quite-Right.html

I don't think I want to settle. I long to be myself with someone.

And Gwen if a man can't understand that everyone has problems then really what is the point? xxxx

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Read this rather depressing article today.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1187121/Is-better-to-compromise-LUCY-TAYLOR-38-says-shes-settling-Mr-Not-Quite-Right.html

I don't think I want to settle. I long to be myself with someone.

And Gwen if a man can't understand that everyone has problems then really what is the point? xxxx

Gah! Why did I read that? She's (the journalist) got a fair point. A horrible one but a fair one.