Single and in Debt Part II

Shoe_Gal

skint_spice wrote: »

I wish!!! I was in there yesterday just drooling.:o maybe in a couple of months I could get one...
Don't want to say what I do but it's a very male environment and dresses would just look mad!

I would get one to reward yourself on your DFD - even if you only ever wear it in private

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I too am sick of all of it. worried about work, had to keep apologising for being such a cow no one to hold me the night before my obs I just had to lay there and think I might lose my job, and then where would I be. Thank God for the chat thread for the first one - they were great the second one I had a fit in the middle of the night and I felt so alone. Other people seem to go through stuff with someone.

I have a friend who was going through something similar at work and when her boyfriend, now husband, proposed to her, he said, "you will never have to go through anything by yourself ever again." That's what I want. I am sick of going through each fresh pile of s**t by myself. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have that kind of support and to have someone who is always on your side. *damn these homones*

Shoe_Gal

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Right folks wish me luck then

Rosa xx

Good luck Rosa - you go girl !!!!

skint_spice

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

I would get one to reward yourself on your DFD - even if you only ever wear it in private

I think I will get myself a wee pressie but I'd been thinking jewellery... might wear that more!:D

Buffythedebtslayer

sarahb123 wrote: »

I have a friend who was going through something similar at work and when her boyfriend, now husband, proposed to her, he said, "you will never have to go through anything by yourself ever again." That's what I want. I am sick of going through each fresh pile of s**t by myself. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have that kind of support and to have someone who is always on your side. *damn these homones*

I do think at least I am tough enough to do this. Ok so it means I am lonely and afraid sometimes but I do know I get through it. I do handle things. I mean plenty of my married friends couldn't cope without hubby to hold their hand.

And actually I come from a long line of tough women. And they had it much worse.

And frankly most of this is stuff is of my own making I admittedly when I didn't know any better but I do now.

However I look at it however miserable and !!!!! I feel I have to keep on fighting other wise there really is no hope.

thanks for being here ladies xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

PinkTwirl

sarahb123 wrote: »

I am happy seeing friends getting married, getting a house together, having babies, etc but I just feel so powerless and left behind. I really can't put it into words properly. I feel like my time is running out and I will miss out on everything. Not just one little bit of it, but every single bit.

And if I do meet someone I won't be able to enjoy it properly because everything will have to happen so fast for me to be able to catch everyone up. Does that make any sense at all? I am running out of time. :mad: I do really get myself into a rage about this sometimes, I just feel so cheated.

And don't even get me started on people turning up with their partners. Am sick of doing every single thing on my own all of the time.

Thanks for posting this. That's EXACTLY how I am feeling tonight. I feel like it is all passing me by and that I must have something missing that most other people seem to have - a quality that my face or my personality should have to ensure that I don't end up left on the shelf. I'm sick of being skint, but that's what being single does, a lifetime of paying for things on my own and probably never earning enough to have a great life, even if I manage to earn £35K in a couple of years, I'll hardly be comfortable, all it will take is a holiday and my car breaking down and I'll be scared of getting into debt again. I'll be scraping along, which isn't right on a salary like that. I so wanted to be settled and have kids, I feel cheated and everyone keeps telling me it will happen. It seems to be happening for everyone else, I've been single for 3 years and seen people get into numerous relationships and out of them whilst I'm watching it all like a film. I talk to people, I talk to men, I am friendly and smile at people. I feel sometimes like I need to put a "vacant" sign on my front.

I feel like somewhere in the last 10 years I've screwed up my life. 32 and sitting in alone on a Saturday night. One of the older guys at work last night told me that I shouldn't be sitting in on my own and that I should have a nice man. Yeah, well, they will write on my tombstone "we all told her she was pretty, friendly and blah blah blah (as I've heard from countless people but it still changes bog all) but she still managed to f*ck up and end up on her own!" I don't even really like cats that much.

I had to walk between two couples in the street today draped around one another. Is it wrong for me to call them "b*st*rds"? Probably, I'm just jealous.

Just as well I want cremated really. :A

RosaBernicia

:grouphug: 'Nother one of these for you Buffy.

I am a firm believer in things happening just when you least expect it (unfortunately, pretending you aren't expecting things doesn't work as apparently that's cheating).

And we're here in the meantime

Rosa xx

Eupho

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I do think at least I am tough enough to do this. Ok so it means I am lonely and afraid sometimes but I do know I get through it. I do handle things. I mean plenty of my married friends couldn't cope without hubby to hold their hand.

And actually I come from a long line of tough women. And they had it much worse.

And frankly most of this is stuff is of my own making I admittedly when I didn't know any better but I do now.

However I look at it however miserable and !!!!! I feel I have to keep on fighting other wise there really is no hope.

thanks for being here ladies xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Buffy :wave:

Those are pretty much my sentiments too..

I got myself into this mess.. and now I have to get myself out.

Also one of the reasons I have been single for a long time (tho I date is because the thought of getting involved with someone properly and at some point having to tell them all this .. spooks me. I don't want to have to tell anyone. At least not until I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I TRY to see this as 'Life Lesson' .. A 'Task' a 'Challenge'.. something I will learn from. (yeah.. not to EVER do this again!!!) :wall: ... hahah!

But something I am going to gain a LOT of experience from.

I try to always keep in mind (when I am wanting to have a meltdown) haha..

is that saying.. 'That which doesn't kill you.. only serves to make you stronger'

and lets face it.. we are not going to die over this are we.. We are just going to get smarter and stronger.

:wave:

Eupho

PinkTwirl wrote: »

I feel like somewhere in the last 10 years I've screwed up my life. 32 and sitting in alone on a Saturday night. One of the older guys at work last night told me that I shouldn't be sitting in on my own and that I should have a nice man. Yeah, well, they will write on my tombstone "we all told her she was pretty, friendly and blah blah blah (as I've heard from countless people but it still changes bog all) but she still managed to f*ck up and end up on her own!" I don't even really like cats that much.

I had to walk between two couples in the street today draped around one another. Is it wrong for me to call them "b*st*rds"? Probably, I'm just jealous.

Just as well I want cremated really. :A

:rotfl::T that is sooo me!

sarahb123_3

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Thanks for posting this. That's EXACTLY how I am feeling tonight. I feel like it is all passing me by and that I must have something missing that most other people seem to have - a quality that my face or my personality should have to ensure that I don't end up left on the shelf. I'm sick of being skint, but that's what being single does, a lifetime of paying for things on my own and probably never earning enough to have a great life, even if I manage to earn £35K in a couple of years, I'll hardly be comfortable, all it will take is a holiday and my car breaking down and I'll be scared of getting into debt again. I'll be scraping along, which isn't right on a salary like that.

Do you know what I think when I read things like that? I very selfishly thing, if there were 2 of us, that would be 70k coming in. And only one set of bils. It makes me seethe. :mad: I hate it but it's true. On your own on 35k is difficult. With 2 it isn't. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. :mad: