Single and in Debt Part II

Paulgonnabedebtfree

TDQO wrote: »

I had a horrible thought earlier today ladies. I read Lula's post then I realised i needed beer so prepared to go to the supermarket. Then I started to think about what I'd say to this girl along the lines of "got any plans for the weekend" etc etc and I started to panic.
Like properly panic. I was all like "i'm not ready for this" "I can't handle this, it's too soon"

I have NEVER ever been like that before! It's been 11 months since I split this laura and I'm going on with carp like that in my head??

What's wrong with me?

Nothing more wrong with you than with me I suppose.
I guess it's called fear of rejection - that state of mind that tells you that if she says no, a crack in the ground will open up and swallow you whole. Or maybe everyone will hear her say no and they will all jump up and down pointing and laughing at you.
Suggest you try and make a little small talk before diving in there. Find out a bit about the things she likes and try and base a date on that. It will also give an opportunity to feel a little more comfortable with each other. It may also give you some idea if she's available or not.
Much better than just blurting out that you've got an inflatable sheep and would like her to help you play with it.
I'm not taking the mick - honestly. I'm just having a good belly laugh at my own inadequacies.

TDQO

Cheers for the advice, it just shocked me so much that I'd feel scared of a woman! Haha no, it was more that I was suddenly panicking about trying to sustain a relationship when I haven't even talked to her yet! Maybe I should get really stoned then just ask if she wants to go get pizza??? Lol.

gwen80

Hello!

How is everybody? Enjoying the bank holiday? Thank God the forum is back up. I didn't get up until 12.30pm (eeek!) and didn't know what to do with myself when I couldn't get on!

I did write a whole proper reply last night and then lost it - grrr, so I'll try and quickly update. Oooh and thanks for the concern HollyBerry, I am fine. I've been lurking a bit, trying not to spend too much in the run up to payday. However, I've now been paid, so of course I'm loaded now and am finding lots of things to spend my money on. On the plus side, I finally transferred my balances 0% to Barclaycard until March 2010. This also forced me to face up to my total credit card debt - 2500 pounds :eek: This doesn't include my Oasis card, which I'm hoping to have gone at the end of June. That is about 85 pounds.

On top of that I found some good train tickets to London for Wimbledon totalling 37 instead of the usual 64 pounds. On the plus side, the train down there doesn't leave until about 10am and I can explain this to my friend by the fact that it was cheaper, when in fact it's also because I'm a lazy mare and the chances of me making an 8am train on a Sat morning are slim to none and then I'd probably have to buy a full price ticket at the station.

I also applied for a Vanquis credit card through Quidco purely for the 25 pounds cashback, which will be thrown at my Oasis credit card, if it comes through quickly enough. I've been doing a bit of clicking, but not enough at all. Nice of fatcheese to register about 8 clicks instead of 3 though the other night - thankyou fatcheese.

I'm off round my Mum's in a sec armed with my camera to find stuff to ebay (mine not her's, although maybe I should seeing as she 'gave away' my rowing machine to a work colleague :mad:).

My work colleague received a 5 pound voucher for M&S and has offered to give it to me. V.sweet of her, not sure where mine was though??? I have an &more card and God knows I've spent enough on it....Anyway, she's giving it to me as she's on holiday next week although I have told her to tell me what she wants and I will get it for her with the voucher, but she said she's not bothered and I won't turn down an M&S voucher. I did pop up there on Wed to see if I could get some 1p knickers or whatever, but not surprisingly at 12.30pm they'd all gone for the day. Never mind.

I'm really struggling not to spend at the moment aswell. I need a new jacket - I've seen a nice one in Next and one in Oasis too. I really do need a new jacket so I think I should get one of them. However, I'm pretty sure I don't need the gorgeous turquoise bikini in Warehouse with the cute little frills, especially as I have at least 4 perfectly decent bikini's, I have no holidays booked and am not sure when/if I'll see sunnier climes again. It would look good in my drawer though...I'm also trying not to buy lots of dresses from Oasis that are v.nice and lots of underwear from M&S with 25% off. I may relent on this one a little, as I could probably do with a couple of new bra's and maybe a little something for Gavin

Also, I spent a good 15 mins in M&S last night (honestly, I don't live there) looking at all the 125 year anniversary stuff - tea towels, aprons, shopping lists, kitchen organisers. I was really tempted by the shopping list thing and the apron, but tried to remind myself that the shopping list is a glorified notebook for a fiver and I never cook therefore will never use the apron. They were very cute though and images of them are still going round in my head - along with the bikini...

Other than that I've been calling ShAbbey to try and get my ISA interest (barstewards). Will probably have to ring up AGAIN this week - !!!!!!. If I ever get this sorted, I'll take my interest and my money and put it somewhere else, anywhere else that isn't Abbey.

I've written a long list of things to do this week, which include improving my diet. Wimbledon is fast approaching and as the tickets are for the men's final, I may well end up on TV, so must work on the diet. Don't want to look like a fat porker alongside the real Gwen Stefani, watching the tennis.

Sarah & moo2moo - Loving the plan, although it does seem that the key to most of your problems could be finding a geriatric MP to be with. If you happen to re-work any of your plans to include finding cute, fit Jake Gyllenhaal lookalikes, please PM me.

HollyBerry - Sorry about the medical - are you ok? Good luck with the ebaying, you can give me some tips when I've photographed all my carp, sorry, beautiful goods.

makeup - Congrats on the pay increase! Great news! Vodka jelly rules and it probably is best if its not set - it means you might have put (nearly) enough vodka in!

Pink - Good news on the car costs, bet that's a relief. When does the new job start?

ShoeGal - How's the Goddess plan going?

TDQ - Get your a*se in that supermarket and get talking to that girl....

Hello to everybody else, I read everybody's posts, but have a memory like a sieve so struggle to remember who's written what. Hope you're all having great bank holidays!

Gwenx

P.S. Sorry for the essay.

ziggles50

Hi all- i'm a serial lurker who never post so forgive me for putting my 2 cents in.
Gwen i enjoyed your post...it sounds a bit like me except i don't fit anything in warehouse or oasis (and almost next).
my car died and cost me £800 so what did i do...spend more money getting stuff i don't need and going out to try and drown my sorrows.
on Lula's issues...just do it...no point in getting worked up over nothing...if it does go pear shaped then have a drink/cry/smoke and go look for someone else.
good luck to you all

ziggles50

Sorry i meant TDQO's issues with the check out girl

Shoe_Gal

Hi everybody :hello: hope you are all having a good weekend?

Have been shopping today, treated myself to some jeans that actually fit and likewise, some bras! 25% off in M&S and I didn't even know until I got to the till I am hopeless as a DFW! Not too bad, only spent about £20 'real' money as I had some vouchers and some leftover €'s that I changed

Didn't buy any shoes :A although was very tempted!!!

On the goddess front - not too bad! Keeping up the tanning etc and bought some blonde(ing) shampoo and a facepack today which I'm going to do in a bit

Dieting - whoops!! Put 2lbs on this week :o Am reverting to my 'baby steps' plan on that one - and on the debt busting too. I have posted the gory details on my diary

Going to go and do my exercise DVD now and some 'goddess' bits - what's everybody else up to?

Shoe Gal x

Buffythedebtslayer

Hello all

Sorry I haven't been here in a while. Work has been so bad. Its funny looking at it from this viewpoint (on holiday) I can't really pinpoint why - I am kinda on probation? so being observed once a week and everything is being monitored. In terms of my marks I am doing well (2, 2/3, 1/2) so in theory I should be ok but waiting for the marks and the feed back is awful.

I do read tho the goddess plan sounds good Shoe gal and TDQO - hope you got your beer;) and Sarah hope you are doing ok my lovexx

Money wise I am in a bad way. Although I have been making payments there is an unforeseen expense coming up and I just think I am going to be in more debt.

So I am very happy to be on holiday but a bit worried about stuff.

also I seem to developing a crush Simon Cowell - what the !!!! is that about. I need to get out more!

I do have wine tho so that's good.

love to everyone xxxx

Shoe_Gal

Well, I've done my DVD - am feeling very unfit Am now lying down with my Slendertone on!

Buffythedebtslayer

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Well, I've done my DVD - am feeling very unfit Am now lying down with my Slendertone on!

No you don't feel unfit, you are getting fitter!

I am watching the Omen, the Final conflict.

Very disturbing.

Oh dear I am having one of those single girl moments. my friend has just had a baby, I am so chuffed for her but I couldn't see her in hospital cos of work and the fact that I can't drive. She is home now and I can't see her cos well I have family stuff. I would go see her Tuesday but I have work and wednesday I am seeing another friend (also with new baby) and thursday work again. so it will be Friday before I can see her.

You see if I could drive I could do it before or after work but really Oh monday I'll try Monday, I just hate being the only single one. Everyone else shows up with their other halves. I know I am being shallow and the important thing is she has had the baby - he is lovely.

I just feel like I have made such a bloody mess of my life.

and now I am rambling.

xx

Ossireo

Long term absent person reporting in :wave:

(1) Still not moved to the new house, really slacking in this department which is naughty as it will save me a bit and will help travelling from next Friday!
(2) Still with my Scot, shocking stuff! Will most likely be moving in together once (1) gets sorted!
(3) Diet is still pants, but have not put on weight, just haven't lost it!
(4) Finished my ECDL!
(5) Debts still pretty stagnant for now, but a lot of change is ahead!
(6) Did I mention, I have managed to get myself a job, which I am very excited about, full time though which is scary and I start on Friday!

Everything seems to be moving pretty quickly on the board, love to you all *big dodgy hugs* Will try to report in more often xx