Self Harm

tiamai_d

bestpud wrote: »

Well I wouldn't be offended, but then I wouldn't do it anyway!

I would say something if it were me though, if only because I am heaving at the mere thought of someone picking their scabs while I am eating!! :eek: Do you seriously manage to get food down while he is doing that?

It's certainly a reasonable request, imo anyway.

I've told him before not to do it, before I realised it was self harm.

I try not to look at him unless I can't avoid it.

Shoshannah

I have a friend who self-harms and is also bulimic. She was anorexic when I first met her but became bulimic later on.

She has had counselling but she says it did not help at all. She started anti-depressants (I believe she is still on them) a couple of years ago but also complains that these do not work, yet she refuses to open up to her doctor about it when she goes to collect repeat prescriptions. Despite complaining about how useless the doctor is, she seems reluctant to switch GPs. She referred herself to a psychiatrist some months ago but the waiting list must be long as she has not received an appointment yet.

Does anyone have any advice on what I should do to help her (if anything?). I have known her for five years now; when I first found out I helped her to defer her exams etc because she was going through a bad patch. She tells me when she is going through bad patches (sometimes she will text me to tell me that she is at the supermarket buying food to binge on) but gets angry with me if I try to say anything. So I just listen. And say nothing.

As far as I know I should be listening to her when she wants to talk but not really saying anything. Anything I try to say gets thrown back in my face. I don't hold this against her, despite some of the pretty awful things she has said to me. But I don't like being pressurised into offering some words when they are always going to be wrong.

She embarked upon a relationship last year which I could see was going to be disaster but I tried to support her through it. It all went wrong in the end, she quickly got into another relationship which seems to be going well at the moment. I believe she must talk to her bf about things instead of/as well as me now.

Should I just continue as I am doing? I don't pretend to understand her problems. I just don't know how to help.

Palm_Centro

My Pyschiatrist labelled me with BPD when I started self.

nifty

Shoshannah wrote: »

I have a friend who self-harms and is also bulimic. She was anorexic when I first met her but became bulimic later on.

She has had counselling but she says it did not help at all. She started anti-depressants (I believe she is still on them) a couple of years ago but also complains that these do not work, yet she refuses to open up to her doctor about it when she goes to collect repeat prescriptions. Despite complaining about how useless the doctor is, she seems reluctant to switch GPs. She referred herself to a psychiatrist some months ago but the waiting list must be long as she has not received an appointment yet.

Does anyone have any advice on what I should do to help her (if anything?). I have known her for five years now; when I first found out I helped her to defer her exams etc because she was going through a bad patch. She tells me when she is going through bad patches (sometimes she will text me to tell me that she is at the supermarket buying food to binge on) but gets angry with me if I try to say anything. So I just listen. And say nothing.

As far as I know I should be listening to her when she wants to talk but not really saying anything. Anything I try to say gets thrown back in my face. I don't hold this against her, despite some of the pretty awful things she has said to me. But I don't like being pressurised into offering some words when they are always going to be wrong.

She embarked upon a relationship last year which I could see was going to be disaster but I tried to support her through it. It all went wrong in the end, she quickly got into another relationship which seems to be going well at the moment. I believe she must talk to her bf about things instead of/as well as me now.

Should I just continue as I am doing? I don't pretend to understand her problems. I just don't know how to help.

Hi, not sure if i will be any use but in my experience sometimes its good for my 'supporting people' to just listen and not judge. I know they don't understand but the fact that they listen to my moaning is helpful and comforting...
In short there isn't alot you can do except be there when she needs you to be.
The psychiatrist appointment does seem to be a long time coming through, if she's willing to see GP maybe they could hurry it up a bit. I know some GP's are rubbish but they are the gateway for other resources, fortunately i'v found a very good GP who has been a great help in finding me help.
Hope this helps.

C.