Teen won't go out

ElliotReid

Silverbird wrote: »

I've not got kids, but I recall that at the age of 13 I wasn't allowed to go out. It was a huge, huge event if I was allowed to go to a friend's house for a couple of hours and this usually involved lots of pleading on my part.

Things didn't really change until I got older. I was grounded at the age of 17 for coming home at midnight. If I was even 5 minutes later than my 10pm curfew (aged 18 at this point) then I would be grounded and not allowed out for a week.

On the other hand, my husband had a very different childhood and his parents rarely saw him, as he was off out playing football or with his friends somewhere. He was never grounded or told off for not coming back at certain times.

We're both the same age. It's funny how different parents are.

On another note, when my younger sister was the same age she was allowed out all day and night without the bat of an eyelid. It appears I got the 'eldest child' strictness treatment!

Hiya

It was the opposite for me, my older brother went out everywhere and didn't get told to come in - and I wasn't allowed out after like 8pm - even up to the age of 17. My dad died when I was 18 and I'm 24 now so there'd be no stopping me either way, but I guess it was because I was a girl.

I also thinks that's why I don't have any interest in going out out. Got to the point where it really wasn't worth it andI just stayed in and had no interest in going out - I just watched tv and stuff inside.

Karrie

Steph - that book is excellent. I am much more understanding what my teen is going through. Thank you for the recommendation!

mumoftwins

Hi Karrie,

Have just read through your thread and I am so pleased to have found so many parents whose son doesn't want to go out. My 13 yr is like this and I worry constantly about him.

Thanks also for the book recommendation, I have ordered and can't wait to get it

Dave101t

i didnt go out at 13, tho i havd 3 brothers and a sister.
im 26 now and i look back and wouldnt change a thing, im sure he will be gld you gave him the space to do his own thing