what do you expect ur man to do around the house?

sportbeth

scottishchick27 wrote: »

OH leaves for work at 6.15am and returns at 7pm. I leave at 8.30am and get home at 5.30pm. I do all household chores - washing, ironing, cleaning, gardening and cooking. He does the dishes after supper and irons his own work clothes. To be fair he does a lot of work at home on his laptop so doesn't get a lot of free time but it wouldn't kill him to be a bit more appreciative for what I do. We have a DD age 7 and I do everything for her too. To be honest the only thing I wish he would do which he doesn't is put out the bins. It's a bit sexist but I see it as a mans job.

Someone just like me! I do everything bar what I call Blue jobs which include the bins and the odd DIY job. Other than that I cook, clean, do the washing ironing and gardening. OH and I work the same hours, but TBH I enjoy pottering in my home and garden and have never argued with hubby about any of it.

He will on average once a month cook me dinner which is very much appreciated, and he helps with cleaning about once a month during which time he'll moan about getting a cleaner. That generally reminds me not to ask him again for a few weeks to assist.

Wouldn't have it any other way though, I tend to relax more when I'm doing something rather than gazing at the TV, and i get twitchy at weekends when I've got nothing to do so it works well for both of us. I don't think theres anything wrong with taking pride in your housework, although my friends do call be Bree Van De Camp!

RainForest_2

We share all the work, both of us do washing, cleaning ( i tend to do the hoovering as he is allergic to dust), if i cook he washes the dishes, if he cooks I wash the dishes, if he works and i dont i do the cooking and vice versa, if we both work the one who gets home 1st does the cooking... LOL Oh and he always chages the duvet cover as i HATE it...lol but after all he is tall and i am short, so it is is easier for him to do... LOL I Think I am truely blessed.

Jem8472

Me and my OH both work full time. I work shifts and they fall so I am home to do the cooking for when she gets home from work. As I am better at it and enjoy cooking thats mainly what I do. Often I will also do the washing up while she is in the shower.

She cleans the flat, hoovering bathroom and all that. I dont get involved with that as she is a bit OCDish with cleaning so if I did it she would just go round and redo things I did "wrong"

She does the washing but if she asks me to do any then I will put it on and hang it out to dry.

It seems to work well for us. She does what she is best as cleaning (and enjoys.....) and I do the cooking, washing up and any DIY type stuff that needs doing.

Floss

anniehanlon wrote: »

I would expect him to help with everything in the house.....

As OH had this house for 14 years before I came into his life, he is quite capable of doing everything, and does so on a regular basis.

However, when he is away 4/5 nights a week and travelling up to 1,500 miles in any week whilst I am at home on my own, then I think it is a little unfair of me to expect him to clean the bathroom or tackle the ironing in the little free time that he has at home.

Anyway, he shows his appreciation for my housewifery.

I agree wholeheartedly with the "spoilt by his mother" school of thought - I had the Devil's own job training my now ex-hubbie when we first got married as exMiL was a "it's easier to do it myself than show him" type, whereas I insisted that DS1 & DS2 could wash up, change beds, hoover, clean a bathroom, use a washing machine & iron and cook basic meals before I encouraged them to fly the nest to uni

suzukibabe

My DH is a sahd at the moment, he'll tidy up and look after the boys during the day and i'll do my share of the housework, bath the boys and put them to bed with a story when i get in from work.
I do all the ironing and most of the cooking which i quite enjoy tbh.

deborah2387

Ladies...do any of your men get in a complete and utter babies' HUFF when they are asked to do a bit of washing up? Or a little bit of cleaning? Such an attitude! It's like, yes well I do everything else so perhaps you could just help me out? GRRRRR!

sarah.l.smith22

I have the same problem in that my OH and I live together and he does see any housework he does as 'helping me' as if somehow putting his own pants in the tumble drier benefits me in some way...?

My problem is I have no idea how to get him to do stuff, if I ask him to do it it doesn't get done, if I ask again I am a nag ,if I just leave it it will stay there (he ordered more work uniform rather than iron the basket of uniform that has been next to the front door for 5 weeks), if asked if he has noticed the basket he says no.

But instead of being mollycoddled by his parents, they did nothing for him either, so instead of expecting things to be done by someone else, he didn't even know a lot of things need doing, and still seems baffled by the concept of wiping out the fridge, or descaling the kettle as his parents never did either. He seems to think they are not required in a normal household.

I don't really know what approach to use really, we have a chore list on the fridge which is generally ignored and he tends to pick 1 or 2 chores for the whole week, and just do them....baffling! I just do my own thing now and have got used to living in a dump where my belongings and clothes are pristine and everything else is filthy but it gets me down as I am too embarassed to have friends round.