what do you expect ur man to do around the house?

McKneff

glamourpuss1979 wrote: »

we married young too,i was 17 and he was 18. we have had countless arguements about him helping around and also encouraging our kids to tidy up after themselves but he never does it. today i came home and it was like a bomb site. i really am sick of it. i have stopped washing his clothes to see what he does...sometimes i leave something like if he has a drink and leaves the cup on the table, to see how loong it will sit there....it would sit forever more. how do i get around this? if i say anything he says i'm nagging!

Leave the cup on the table,so what if it stays there forever more
when you make a decision to see how long it will stay there, carry it through
till you run out of cups, then go and buy some paper ones. But be consistent. Dont nag, just dont say anything. Let him get sick of it before you do.:rotfl:

glamourpuss1979

i also forgot to say that if my shift falls at tea time and i haven't made something for them to eat....instead of cooking...he takes the kids to his mams house!!!

ceebeeby

Ha-ha, this reminds me of the time I threw all of OH's cups out because he refused to wash them!! Seriously! He was left drinking out of DD's Barbie Cup! He learnt his lesson!

money_maker_3

ceebeeby wrote: »

Ha-ha, this reminds me of the time I threw all of OH's cups out because he refused to wash them!! Seriously! He was left drinking out of DD's Barbie Cup! He learnt his lesson!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Well done you, I wish I had tried that one :T

butler_helen

glamourpuss1979 wrote: »

we married young too,i was 17 and he was 18. we have had countless arguements about him helping around and also encouraging our kids to tidy up after themselves but he never does it. today i came home and it was like a bomb site. i really am sick of it. i have stopped washing his clothes to see what he does...sometimes i leave something like if he has a drink and leaves the cup on the table, to see how loong it will sit there....it would sit forever more. how do i get around this? if i say anything he says i'm nagging!

my boyfriend and I are 23 and have lived together for over 2 years, we do equal things, although only the things we like to do. However...this leaves the stuff we both dont like- i.e. hoovering and the dishes.

trust me, it will get to him, it's more a matter of who it gets to first- my boyfriend and I get annoyed with mess at roughly the same point, although if one snaps first it has been known the offening item goes in the bin- not very mse, but its worked in the past for speeding up his dish-doing-time!

butler_helen

ceebeeby wrote: »

Ha-ha, this reminds me of the time I threw all of OH's cups out because he refused to wash them!! Seriously! He was left drinking out of DD's Barbie Cup! He learnt his lesson!

you posted whilst I was writing! this works a treat not very mse though...

Teerah

glamourpuss1979 wrote: »

.sometimes i leave something like if he has a drink and leaves the cup on the table, to see how loong it will sit there....it would sit forever more. how do i get around this? if i say anything he says i'm nagging!

I try this tactic sometimes too but it definitely annoys me more than him so I end up lifting the things anyway. My husband was spoilt by his mother too and still does as little as he can get away with. It does come to a head every so often but I dont know if he can really be changed? I get accused of nagging too but its either that or I will go silently mad in my own head :mad:
Good luck OP and let me know if you get your OH to change his ways!

lynzpower

Its not a question of men "helping" women, its all about surviving and living. Whether women were there or not men have to sort themselves out.

My OH does at least 50% although my hours are longer than his & I often get home late. He will always have the DW on, WM on, dinner on the go, dog walked, ironing put away etc etc. He does do somethings ( floors) which I never do I always clean BR, loo and deal with laundry & all shopping.

You have to be firm- why does he think he can get away with treating the woman hes meant to love like a slave?

butler_helen

lynzpower - wow! my boyfriend would just wait until I get back, as he likes company before he does the housework- bless him. Although I think if I went away, he would leave the housework until the night before I got home... I wouldnt like to test the theory.

McKneff

ceebeeby wrote: »

Ha-ha, this reminds me of the time I threw all of OH's cups out because he refused to wash them!! Seriously! He was left drinking out of DD's Barbie Cup! He learnt his lesson!

Brilliant ! see what i mean about carrying it through:j