what do you expect ur man to do around the house?

Primrose

You both live in a house so I think both of you should contribute to the housework. MY OH does most of the shopping and cooking, cleans bogs, bathrooms and basins and puts the rubbish out. I do the washing, ironing, the rest of the housework, all the gardening, including growing our own vegetables and keep an eye on our finances. When everything is shaken down, we probably both do about 50%.

Newly_retired

My mum used to say "Blessed is s/he who expects nothing - s/he is never disappointed."
To expect OH to do nothing around the house is, IMHO, a recipe for him/her ( let's not be sexist about this) to do nothing ,and is only acceptable if s/he works long hours and you stay at home and are healthy.
Tasks should be shared by all who live in the home, according to age and availabilty, in the first instance, then maybe according to ability or preference.

Steel_2

OH works full time, puts the bins out, picks up extra bits we need for the supermarket during the month, cleans out the fireplace and builds every fire we have, cleans out the chickens and hedgehogs every day, does the cat litter tray and does all the DIY (currently fitting a new kitchen and conservatory and building a pergola from waste wood.). He's also an ex mechanic so he maintains our car so it never needs professional servicing and gets through the MOT every time.

I do the cooking, washing up, cleaning, sewing, hoovering, clothes washing, ironing and dusting. I also clean the car, do our hideously large garden, grow some of our food and paint the house when it's needed. Oh and make the soft furnishings when needed. And clean the bins out. And the windows. And groom the cats. But that last one is fun so it doesn't really count.

I'm a fanatical multi-tasker by nature so I accomplish a lot in a small amount of time.

At the moment he's the main breadwinner after a bad debt left me £10k down and starting again, so right now the split doesn't bother me. I consider myself lucky he's so understanding about the lack of money at the moment.

msflowerfairy

My OH works full time, and i am at home all day at the moment due to redundancy, so i do most of the housework, washing, ironing, and cooking, bin bags etc.
When i was working full time, i did the cleaning, the cooking, the washing, and the ironing.
OH did the bins, balanced the household finances, and walked the dogs every morning before work.
To be honest it is quicker if i do it, and i know it is done properly, and to my standards LOL!

Lilith1980

I do the cooking/washing up and most of the washing of clothes but I was also cleaning the flat until about a month ago where I told my DH that I wanted us to both have our own rooms to keep tidy.

We have a small one bedroom flat so I keep the kitchen and bathroom clean and he does the living room and bedroom.

Well, I say he does them - guess which two are the messiest in the flat?! :rotfl:

I'm not really that bothered though because now I know that they are his responsibility, I dont care. I'll keep mine tidy and he can worry about his rooms

rev229

I do it all but even when I was working and juggling 2 small kids I still did it all. His excuse is he is a work, but he is a teacher so has lots of time at home during holidays and guess what, I still do it. I even do all the gardening and DIY and sort out all the money!! He has never cleaned the kids bedrooms, fridge, freezer or oven in the 14yrs we have been married!. he occassionally hoovers but only down the middle of the rooms. Occasionally cleans the en-suite, but not the taps or hand down the toliet! Washing could overflow and he would still squeeze it in the baskets. Can cook but won't as he is never sure what I want to eat, but we have a months menus planned on the kichen wall. It is always me who has to find food from the freezer to make a meal. The most annoying thin is he goes on about the cost of food, and how we should use up what is in the freezer and cupboards bur never cooks or goes shopping, apart from costco. The costco trip he goes on about what I put in the trolley and then if I say anything about the beer I am nagging. Men!!!!!! To be honest I would rather do it myself now then I know it is done properly.

squirrelchops

OH works nights 7pm-6am. I am at Uni 2 days per week. He hates cooking but I like it so I do all the cooking, washing and clenaing normally but not a lot really as only 2 of us.

He is chief lawn mower and DIYer! Our house has had a lot done to it by OH so he is usually busy fitting new kitchen, painitn etc or one of a hundred jobs!

When i have a lot of work on he will take over the chores to help me and vice versa. I hat hoovering for example so he does that anyway as I prefer the bathroom cleaning!!

squirrelchops

Also I iron my things only...this is because OH is happy to iron as he wants things but I need it all done and hanging up so I just have to choose what to wear each day and not iron!

I do food shopping most of the time..OH will ususally get extras...any alcohol is for him to buy too!

I do the bed linen changes as am fussy about clean sheets a lot quicker than OH who will happily have them fester!

busiscoming2

I do most of the chores, most of the time. He works full time and I only do a few hours a week, it suits us. He does most of the diy (that is his profession though). He can cook and does sometimes (without complaint), although I hate cooking, I do it most of the time. He would do more if I asked him to, but don't feel it would be fair to. The only thing that does bug me, as a previous poster said, I think putting the dustbin out should be the man's job!
When we go on holiday - wherever we go, he always does the food shopping and prepares any meals we eat in the accomodation.

Girlzmum

Dh works full time and I study full time (50% in class and 50% in placement, full time hours) We have a fairly even split of the tasks round the house but the one thing I insist on is that if I cook he cleans, unfortunately he can be a bit forgetful about it and it causes fights (but then we get to make up;) !)

Although I have to say he is brilliant with the girls, bed and bath time is his time with them, he loves going up and sorting them out and they love it too. If I'm on placement then shifts usually start at 7.30 so he'll sort them out for school and childminders as well. I really couldn't ask for better in that respect.