what do you expect ur man to do around the house?

webitha

i do everything, from the cooking cleaning, kids activites, pay all the bill, and sort out hols, as OH works away from 4;30 monday morning til about 6/7pm friday night
well when i say everything, i am teaching the kids how to keep house, they do their chores, i do mines, then top up theirs as its never to my standard, and they do make a really good effort in their chores.

OH does cook every sunday , he will empty the bins if full, and sorts the kids out park/woods etc, to give me a break and spend time alone with them,

RachelW1987

We do everything 50/50 but I would expect him to do everything that I would do. So for example cleaning the loo or making the sarnies for the next day.

Hectors_House

I spent a week at my partner's house recently as he was going into hospital for a op.I got him to make up a list of all the stuff he needed (for him, 3 hens, 7 ferrets and the cat) and when I wasn't visiting him I did as much shopping as I could so he wouldn't need to be carrying heavy stuff.I also cleaned the house up a bit - especially the kitchen cus he uses the worktops as a space for fixing and painting stuff too.But the thing that got me the most brownie points was getting a bucket and spade and giving the hen house and enclosure a thorough clean! I put the girls onto the garden so they could rummage and cleaned their house from top to bottom, packing it with mite powder and tons of fresh straw. I then cleared all the hen poo from the wooden walkways he put down for them in the winter and deposited it onto his raised vegetable beds.I found 25 eggs too!He's very good when it comes to cleaning the house but tends to do it in spurts, whereas I tend to clean up after me so we muddle along.

berniesmaster

my hubbys mint, i cook, hes clears away, i clean the bathroom, he cleans the kitchen, we work pretty well together. and were both happy.

patchwork_cat

Agree with Annie -all shared. He is great, but does have to be asked - but then that is how our relationship is. However he does all the hoovering as I have bad sciatica and we have the heaviest vacuum - a Dyson animal doesn't half suck! Play to your strengths - I do the finances and paperwork and running this place sometimes is like running a multinational!

mountainlioness

DH has no issue with helping, he's def a new man... but he does seem to have selective vision! He can see things lying about and any mess in the kitchen and gets all fussy about sorting those out, but completely misses laundry and the bathrooms. Can't complain though, at least he's willing and able!

skintchick

We share. In fact right now OH does more than me I think. I say it's cos I'm pregnant and tired but also cos I am worn out by work - when my contract finishes in a few eeks I will be at home and will do more.

We have set jobs each - i cook, dust, shop, do the floors; he washes up, hoovers, cleans the bathroom.

We both do washing - one will out it on, one will hang it up, etc., and I think usually I do more cos he doesn;t realise mirrors need cleaning etc. but overall it's fair and that's good.

He isn;t helping, far from it, it is hos house too. But we talked about all this before we got married so we knew we agreed on how to work it.

If he did nothing I'd go ballistic, and vice versa. We are a team!

Amber07

Well, while my DH was working 45-50 hours a week, I only expected him to do a small amount - take the bins out, put the dishes in the machine on the nights I worked etc. I done all the cooking and washing, ironing, dealing with bills etc.

Now he has just lost his job, we are doing everythign 50/50. He's not too bad to have around the house, least he doesn't sit about doing nothing.

ilovecheese

I am very lucky! My husband does all the cooking, hoovering, bins, DIY and when we had a garden all the gardening! I tend to do the cleaning, bathroom and kitchen, and I always have to change the duvet covers as this is the one job my OH refuses to do! I did ask him once, off he went upstairs, about 30 minutes later I went upstairs to find him red in the face, in a foul mood and the duvet still not in the cover!!!! We both do the washing, washing up and food shopping, and I only buy clothes that don't need ironing! so neither of us iron!

paigexstewart

My partner is self employed and works from 8am to around 6pm.

I don't think it is far for him to then come home from working all day and be faced with a sink full of dishes or the hoover being pushed into his hands.

As I don't work I do everything. He works hard to give me everything I ask for and to put a roof over our heads so I feel I should show appreciation and look after it.

I think some women feel they do everything and if they were more organized they would be a lot happier. They wouldn't feel "hard done by" and take it out on their husbands. And then they wonder why their husbands leave them for someone who doesn't.