MSE Pregnancy Club VI

Sami_Bee

Shelvis - Don't worry about the newborn/coldsore thing as its only dangerous if the medical peeps don't know/do anything about it
I know almost exactly how u feel I was like that for about 8 weeks it did get better but I too felt like an awful mum, Sometimes Chris wouldn't get out in the fresh air for days at a time coz if I moved I felt like I would die!!
Try to get as much sleep as you can and eat as healthy as ur body will allow and you'll come through it xx

Weezl - I'm very interested in all ur geeky facts and info and I know that skinty would be too coz she wants to have as natural birth as possible so would be looking at the calcium etc I'm so glad u joined even if it wasn't from the start
Did you have info on evening primrose or did I find that put myself?? I remember something like you !!!!! a capsule with a pin and pop it up ur foof before bed and by morning it has dissolved and ur cervix is hopefully a bit softer??

Well off to have lunch with my due the week before me pregnant friend catch u all later xx

shellsuit

shelvis wrote: »

Hi guys,

Is it Ok if i just get in and post with a huge moan sorry if i bring everyone down. I am terribly upset and I don't know how much more I can take of this. I am so so run down. I have had coldsore after coldsore since I started this pregnancy due to it and now I have so many on my top lip it hurts to open it. Am sick of being so run down. I don't know what else I can do! I am taking prenatal vitamins and am in bed before 10pm most nights but I am still really struggling. My OH is marvelous and is trying to keep the house ticking over while taking over pretty much all the parenting of my DS (14mths). I barely see my son and its upsetting me to the point it's making me cry. I don't know what to do to get out of this downer. Am chuffed to bits to be pregnant again but this is just so hard.

Feel really bad for moaning when my friend is struggling to concieve but it's really hard this time. I don't know what else i can do. My MW is on holiday this week so I am trying to get in at the doctors but can't today and can't take much more. I need to feel better. I can't be effective in my job am struggling to keep on top of the hosuework (which OH is a diamond with all that but he can't do everything). More to the point I miss playing with my son.

Help me. Tell me i will have energy soon. Am also crying as it feels like I am worst mummy in world as every time DS comes up for a kiss i cant kiss him because of all the coldsores. See am crying again now as seeing his little face when I can't do it breaks my heart. Thet story about the mum whose baby died with the coldsore is worrying me sick too which isn't helping.

Aww Shelvis, it WILL get better honey.

I was the same as you, I just felt soooo low and had no energy at all. I'd practically stay in bed all day and would feel awful when the kids would ask me to make them something to eat. They'd usually end up with just beans on toast or a 'lunch' (sandwich, drink, fruit and biscuit) for their main meal because I really had no get up in go in me.

The house looked like a bag of shoite, I couldn't do anything apart from venture downstairs for a drink, then come up, get back into bed and sleep/cry.

I'm 30 weeks now and still have the odd day like that. One day last week I mainly cried all day, I just felt so tired, crap and guilty (why guilty I don't know?!) on OH and the kids as they have been so good with/to me.

Yesterday I woke up full of beans and proceeded to hoover the whole house (on my knees!), mopped the kitchen, then ironed for 5 hours (that's how bad the ironing pile was).

I'm sure it will pass for you, but if you feel like you're feeling more low/tired/upset, please speak to your midwife xxx

mollythewestie

Shelvis - ((((Hugs)))) to you, hope you feel better soon

Tinkerbell - Sorry you didn't enjoy the baby show. I loved it, but I wanted to find independant stores as we don't have any near us. We mainly went as an information gathering excersize and boy do we have information - a whole bag of catalogues and leaflets! I must admit, both Dh and me thought it would be bigger though, I have heard the NEC one in May will be better and bigger.

spinks

Especially for Weezl
Although 1st pregnancy was relatively normal until the birth it was the other way around with DS and the birth was more your average run of the mill types.

I didn't do the RLT thing as it isn't advised if you have had a previous CS. I was the size of a house and desperate to drop so DH was in his element getting all his favourite treats . He would come home from work every night telling me that so and so's wife went into labour after a hot curry (hubbys fave food) and whatsisnames wife went into labour after a bit of hows your father (hubbys fave exercise).

The night before I went into labour I had the hottest curry I have ever had. I don't usually like them too hot as I end up just shovelling it down my neck as quickly as poss so I can't taste it but this one I actually really enjoyed. Had an early night .

Contractions started that night about every hour then by about 2 am had increased to about every half hour. I called the delivery suite at about 6am when the contractions started to get a bit more fierce and about 20mins apart. They said to take my time getting myself ready before going in as they thought I would be better off spending as much time at home than hanging around the delivery suite.

We called my parents to come and collect DD (who was celebrating her 4th Birthday that day) then I had a bath and got the last of my bits together for my hospital bag then set off for about 9am.

On arrival at the delivery suite I had to sit in the waiting room while a room became available. I was only waiting about half hour then I was taken to a very small room (not much bigger than a broom cupboard) and was put on the monitors.

After about another half hour here I was moved to my delivery room. When i walked in I thought I must have been given the penthouse suite because it was so much bigger than the room I had with DD.

I was left to it for a while then and the MW came in now and again to check on me. I found it hard to get comfortable so found the best thing was to try and keep moving around (as much as my SPD would allow). When a contraction came I would instinctively lean over the bedside cabinet or the bed. I'm not sure you can really mentally prepare for what you will do I think you will just do what you feel is right at the time.

DH was a great help through all of this :rolleyes: . While I was pacing the floor, huffing and puffing he was settling himself nicely into his chair with hid DVD player watching The Incredibles and eating his packed lunch. Quite inconsiderate seeing as I wasn't allowed anything to eat or drink after my experience with DD.

The MW did try dropping some hints that he might like to make himself more useful but it wasn't until she told him that one of her other ladies was getting a lovely massage from her husband that he realised it might be an idea to start paying me some attention. I have to say after that he was great.

After a while I got too tired to stand or walk any longer so I moved onto the bed. Due to the SPD I found it hard to lay on my back so I laid on my side for pretty much the rest of the labour with my gas and air on hand.

It wasn't until during the pushing stage that I really regretted having that curry. In between one set of contractions I kept sniffing and thinking what the heck is that smell then realised I had only gone and followed through my vindaloo and I had no idea at all.

The contractions continued getting much closer and stronger. I managed to get through it with just gas and air. I did at one point say I need some pain relief but MW just turned round and said it was a bit late for that as baby was now coming out. After hearing DH say oh heres the head, oh its gone back in a few times, DS finally arrived at 1.42pm.:j

MW immediately placed him on my chest to which DS greeted me by showing me that his waterworks were definately in fine working order. All over my breasts :eek: .

It is definately true what everyone says that as soon as you hold your baby you forget all the pain that you experienced but now I know I will have to go through with it again I am starting to remember just how much pain I really was in and am going through the same feelings I did before that I have no idea how I am going to cope. Fortunately for us women we just do.

spinks

Shelvis - sorry to hear you are feeling so down and I know from experience how much pain you can be in with cold sores. Are you using anything for them?

I suffer frequently with them and none of those creams ever work. I eventually discovered a natural remedy in Holland & Barrett (not sure I am allowed to say what it is) and found it a miracle. I know it says on the label thet pregnant women should seek advice from GP before taking and I was concerned that I was taking while pregnant but before I knew. The MW checked and she couldn't find anything to say that it is dangerous and said that as it is an amino acid it should be ok. I found on some websites that practioners were actually recommending pregnant women to start taking it during pregnany so it may be worthwhile speaking to your GP. I have however stopped taking it and touch wood I haven't had any recurrences but then again I never seem to get my migraines while pregnant either.

Don't feel guilty about not spending enough time with your son. I know how you feel. My DH has been working away since before I found out I was pregnant so have been through this on my own and it is only really this last week I have managed to do anything with my children. I would drop DD at the bus for school then return home to lay on the sofa all day while DS sat infront of the TV with some puzzles and books.:o

You will eventually feel more normal and when you do it comes all of a sudden you think you must have imagined how poop you felt before and were just being lazy :rotfl: .

Do however get yourself asap to the GP just to check there is nothing underlying. I was working with both DD and DS and both times ended up being signed off work with my MS as I just couldn't cope.

Hope you feel better soon.

Icklebeans

It's gone all quiet! I am here in the back ground whilst sorting out my facebook profile, eating lunch and listening to Jeremy Vine (he is fab, esp when Martin Lewsi is on!)

spinks

Icklebeans - make the most of it, another couple of months and you will be begging for quiet :rotfl:

feelinggood_2

I'm off for Birth Plan appointment shortly. Feel like I'm going to fall asleep so need some fudge before I go!

Bit scary turning the calender over to March, I've got 14 appointments booked for this month, and no doubt there will be more. Then its April, and I'll have a baby! 49 days to go, although I'd like him to be late. Would be bad if he was early, then OH will have to go back to work for a few days and I'll be alone with a newborn.

spinks

Feeling - all the best for your appointment...is it Thorntons fudge? Always thought I hated fudge till I tried Thorntons vanilla fudge...mmmmmm!!!!

My_Fathers_Daughter

Feelie - I hope it all goes well for you hun, remember to ask every question you can think of (no such thing as a stupid question - and if there is they have probably heard it before form someone like me!!)

Shelvis (((HUGS)))