Depression Support Thread

donnydiva

Hi Tiff :hello:

Thank you for your reply, I appreciate you thinking of me when you have so many others to respond to

I apologise for not replying back sooner, but I had a bit of a shock last week. Dads condition deteriorated, and on the Tuesday (3rd) when I went to visit him, he was totally zonked out, occasionally waking up confused, not realising he had a cathether on so wanted to go to the bathroom, it was all very distressing to see.

Had to wait from 240pm to 430pm for a doctor to come and tell me what was happening. He showed me into a room, which I didnt think was a good sign. He then briefly went over how dad had been since his admittance into hospital, before hitting me with the whammy that the fluid on his lungs had reappeared hence his poor breathing at the weekend. When i asked what the scenario was they said the next 24-48 hours were crucial, and to "be prepared for the worst".

I was totally floored by that, although he has been in for some time, he had seemed to be on a upward, if very slow, curve, and then to get that news. I was sobbing my heart out, I felt confused/worried/anxious/sick/ all sorts of emotions. And to cap it all Tuesday would have been my Mums birthday. I was on my own, so I then began to contact someone to come down to the hospital to be with me as I felt so scared alone. Mo my friend said she would come down, but had little one with her. Luckily he didnt seem too spooked by my being upset, but took it in his stride. I didnt know what to do, staying there was upsetting, leaving him seemed like I was somehow deserting him. My head was pounding because of the shock, the amount of crying I had done, the worrying prior to the doctor coming, and that I hadnt had much to eat since breakfast that morning.

Tuesday night was horrendous, I ended up stopping over at my friend Johns house for the night as I didnt want to be alone. Not that I slept much I think when I did nod off it was through sheer exhaustion.

Anyhow - on Wednesday his condition had slightly improved Im glad to say. Its now what they call stabilised although hes not out of the woods yet. So Im just dealing with things one step at a time but at the same time trying to think realistically. The social worker at the hospital who I saw on Wednesday said I'd make myself ill and I had to take one day, or even one hour at a time, but thats easier said than done.

Your comments about moving into my dads bungalow - I appreciate that that may seem a logical answer. The problem is firstly I would have to be fetching and carrying stuff down there. Secondly the neighbours - to be honest, my friends take me down there now after being at the hospital which I prefer, because he lives in a close, and the minute they spot me they are wanting information about my dad. And please dont think that thats because they are caring because they are not, they are just plain nosey.

To give you quick example, just before Christmas when dad had one of his falls, and came back from hospital, the taxi driver parked at an angle so my dad had as little a way to walk in as possible. After that one of the neighbours popped to see dad to 'supposedly' see how he was, then mentioned that her relatives/friends may find it difficult to park if the taxi was at an angle so could he mention it to the taxi driver next time??!!:mad:

Then one day this year when visiting my dads, I spoke to the neighbour next door, who is elderly but is concerned, I spoke to her granddaughter a few days before who offered her help and was genuine. No sooner had this neighbour began shutting her door, and me going to my dads than this same neighbour who moaned about the taxi called over. When I said no news yet, having tests (as if Im going to shout across the close!!) she put both hands up. All they want is the gossip. So if I did move in it would just mean more hassle for me, and me being more accessible to nosy types like them.

Please dont think I am criticising your suggestion as you dont know the situation at my dads, and its a thought, but unfortunately it wouldnt work.

Your comment about the washing machine is a good idea, I may look into it, although at the moment Im all on going up to the hospital. I just feel so exhausted by it all, and wondering what the future will bring, I know its one day at a time, but sometimes you cant help but wonder whats going to happen.

But I do appreciate your kind reply, and I (as others have said on here) I love reading your posts on here. You sound like a very genuine, warm lovely person who has experienced hardship and bad times and understands peoples worries and concerns.

Bless you love, hugs and best wishes

xxxxxx

absolutebounder

beachbeth wrote: »

It doesn't always work like that with these meds.

When specifically does it?

There are usually side effects when you suddenly stop taking them.

What side effects exactly? How often are there side effects?

These effects can cause symptoms that make you feel less than clear headed to be honest.:rolleyes:

How do you know you are lessclear? What symtons exactly

This is why you are usually advised to stop gradually.

Are you sure that is the reason?

Hi BB :A Im not picking on you but I would like to use your sentence to demonstrate a lesson in how depressed thinking works as you have put up such a wonderful example
I have just asked a few questions on each line but there could be a lot more but when you think about them you will see hopefully how the thought pattern can be changed. (very easily in fact.)

maytaurus

Jo_R

beachbeth

absolutebounder wrote: »

Hi BB :A Im not picking on you but I would like to use your sentence to demonstrate a lesson in how depressed thinking works as you have put up such a wonderful example
I have just asked a few questions on each line but there could be a lot more but when you think about them you will see hopefully how the thought pattern can be changed. (very easily in fact.)

It has nothing to do with my depressed mind or the way I think. I only have to miss one tablet and the next day my head feels a bit fuzzy and I get dizzy spells. I have come off my tablets before and then had to take them again at a later date when my depression returned. The symptoms you get when first taking them are the same as the ones you get when trying to stop taking them. It even states this in the leaflet supplied with the tablets. So I was just stating a fact re the tablets not expressing how it feels from an emotional point of view.

rosepink1984

absolutebounder wrote: »

Hi BB :A Im not picking on you but I would like to use your sentence to demonstrate a lesson in how depressed thinking works as you have put up such a wonderful example
I have just asked a few questions on each line but there could be a lot more but when you think about them you will see hopefully how the thought pattern can be changed. (very easily in fact.)

AB, there are side effects from coming off tablets too quickly, it is a well known fact, and I have experienced the effects myself. They are horrible and are physical effects, not just mental. If you still don't believe that this is the case I suggest you speak to your GP about it. It is nothing to do with the thought process of the person taking them.

Congratulations JoR, I'm so pleased for you

Hope you are ok RBK, am thinking of you.

whitevanwoman

beachbeth wrote: »

It doesn't always work like that with these meds. There are usually side effects when you suddenly stop taking them. These effects can cause symptoms that make you feel less than clear headed to be honest.:rolleyes: This is why you are usually advised to stop gradually.

Congratulations, Jo-R!:j Glad everything went well and that he decided to put in an appearance - albeit a late one!!!:T

thanks BB :T for saying what I wanted to say but didn't in case it was against the rules. Stopping meds suddenly is a very bad thing and not to be recommended; it can cause really unpleasant side effects, a fuzzy head being one of them.

Congrats Jo R :T - have you got a name yet? Does this little boy realise how eagerly his appearance has been awaited by so many people!;)

geminilady

whitevanwoman wrote: »

thanks BB :T for saying what I wanted to say but didn't in case it was against the rules. Stopping meds suddenly is a very bad thing and not to be recommended; it can cause really unpleasant side effects, a fuzzy head being one of them.

Congrats Jo R :T - have you got a name yet? Does this little boy realise how eagerly his appearance has been awaited by so many people!;)

I do not think it is against the rules to comment when someone questions known medical advise,anyone who suffers from depression will be advised not to suddenly stop taking their medication that is a known fact, unless of course they happened to be alergic to them, that is the only reason i can think of it being advised.

beachbeth

Of course, you should never stop or start taking any medication without advice from your doctor. As Rosepink says, the side effects of suddenly stopping can be horrible.

Im glad this subject was brought up because I realised yesterday I only have 2 tablets left! Ive had to go and take my repeat prescription in to the docs today and ask nicely if they can have it ready by tomorrow (you usually have to give them 48 hours). They are short staffed this week apparently but hopefully will have it done by tomorrow!

Sssssss

absolutebounder wrote: »

Hi BB :A Im not picking on you but I would like to use your sentence to demonstrate a lesson in how depressed thinking works as you have put up such a wonderful example
I have just asked a few questions on each line but there could be a lot more but when you think about them you will see hopefully how the thought pattern can be changed. (very easily in fact.)

sorry AB but gotta agree with BB and all the others on this, stopping meds or even changing DOES have physical side effects, they are not imagined and nothing to do with depression or ones state of mind but real and as I say physical.

I always make up my meds for the week every sunday night (have one of those boxes with 4 compartments per day) and also make sure I've noted in my diary to go to the chemist 1 week before my supply runs out.

Tulip

I am off now,

chat tomorrow

Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx