Depression Support Thread

rosepink1984

Hope you recover from the birth and urine infection JoR, poor you!
Are you getting lots of support? Couldn't someone get you the shopping? Big hugs to you, and I hope you find a name for baby soon!

beachbeth

Take it easy, Jo-R. You need to save your energy for the baby, so leave the housework and shopping to someone else if you can. I wish there had been a delivery service when I had my babies because it would have been a godsend! When the baby is asleep, you sleep too - don't tackle the ironing!

La-Cara

mezer- I know how you feel about reacting badly to throwaway comments, my bf called me spineless not too long ago, and also reminds me about how paranoid and insecure I am- like I need reminding. He asked me last night if I missed him, I said yes of course, and he said something like he was just checking cos he wasn't sure if I was bored of him by now. Makes me feel great to know that I'm crap at showing love towards people I really like and miss like crazy. In tears again now, and I don't know if I should tell him how bad he makes me feel when he says things like that, cos I don't think he understands how bad my depression is.

having yet another bad day. I've not been to many classes recently so I decided yesterday that I should make a special effort to get to my tutorial today, but I couldn't get up this morning so I'd failed before I'd even got out of bed (again). Slept in until 12, then bawled my eyes out cos I realised I'd fcuked up again. I might be a bit more motivated to go to my class if I anyone there actually liked me. Still getting really upset at the slightest little thing, can't go a day without wanting to cry.

just wonder why I bother trying to be happy when I clearly never will

whitevanwoman

Jo_R wrote: »

Hi all

Thanks for all the lovely messages:beer: Baby is just adorable, still not got a name for him though, he's currently known as just "baby"!

Spent hours yesterday in hospital again, had excrutiating stomach pains and was doubled over and naturally having given birth three days ago was in a right panic as to what it might be, my doctor sent us up to the hospital and turns out I have a urine infection. Quite a relief but I tell you it was like having contractions again - literally - it was that painful :eek::eek::eek:

I am now home with a plentiful supply of medication, I'm still feeling very tender so hoping to take it easy but DD2 needs some attention and we need some shopping!

When I have a bit more time I'll check in again to catch up xxx

OK everyone - I think Jo R needs some help here finding a name for Baby - let's give her some help...

My suggestion, in deference to the hoster of this thread, has got to be
Martin :money:
(although I do have to admit that it's not my favourite boy's name & I wouldn't choose it myself, but each to their own)

So, let's have those suggestions coming in thick and fast before poor Baby becomes permanently known as "Baby Jo R" :rotfl:

whitevanwoman

La-Cara wrote: »

mezer- I know how you feel about reacting badly to throwaway comments, my bf called me spineless not too long ago, and also reminds me about how paranoid and insecure I am- like I need reminding. He asked me last night if I missed him, I said yes of course, and he said something like he was just checking cos he wasn't sure if I was bored of him by now. Makes me feel great to know that I'm crap at showing love towards people I really like and miss like crazy. In tears again now, and I don't know if I should tell him how bad he makes me feel when he says things like that, cos I don't think he understands how bad my depression is.

having yet another bad day. I've not been to many classes recently so I decided yesterday that I should make a special effort to get to my tutorial today, but I couldn't get up this morning so I'd failed before I'd even got out of bed (again). Slept in until 12, then bawled my eyes out cos I realised I'd fcuked up again. I might be a bit more motivated to go to my class if I anyone there actually liked me. Still getting really upset at the slightest little thing, can't go a day without wanting to cry.

just wonder why I bother trying to be happy when I clearly never will

Me too! I seem to be able to read a negative implication about myself into anything that anyone says. I was discussing this with my therapist yesterday and she said that it's because I have such low (or non-existent) self-esteem, that I am constantly on hyper alert for negative comments etc to confirm the way I see myself. I am now trying to take a few minutes out each time and trying to look at a more balanced view and consider whether perhaps there isn't actually any evidence to support my automatic belief that someone is making a negative comment about me (a thought is not a fact). This is the basis of Cognitive Behaviour therapy but I won't go into more detail about it here because of the rules but feel free to PM me for more info.

Someone did post some really useful links a few pages ago - sorry I can't remember who - one of the links was to a mood diary which is a similar exercise to what my therapist has been making me do and it has been really helpful.

The other thing I have learned is that by constantly perceiving other people's comments as being critical as me, I have a tendency to be very critical of others, which is not good as the result of this is that, people then tend to avoid me or avoid asking my opinion and so the cycle becomes a catch22 situation. I'm trying really hard to think about what I say before I say it or simply to keep quiet (not easy!) if I feel like I want to make a critical or negative comment.

rosepink1984

whitevanwoman wrote: »

OK everyone - I think Jo R needs some help here finding a name for Baby - let's give her some help...

My suggestion, in deference to the hoster of this thread, has got to be
Martin :money:
(although I do have to admit that it's not my favourite boy's name & I wouldn't choose it myself, but each to their own)

So, let's have those suggestions coming in thick and fast before poor Baby becomes permanently known as "Baby Jo R" :rotfl:

My favourite boy's name is James so that's got my vote!

gibboelli

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with uncontrollable crying fits. Anything sets me off, the tiniest comment, my computer crashing, an animal in a nature show getting eating, dropping something, it really is quite ridiculous. It's no so bad when I'm inside because I'll cry and usually my mum makes a joke about it and I feel better but it's really exhausting and humiliating when I'm outside my house. When I was on the verge of tears because I'd counted some money out wrong at a checkout the stupid woman working there said to me "No need to be so hormonal"
Well that did it then and there, I left my shopping and ran for cover to havre a sob and felt like a total faliure the rest of the week.
It's funny, suffered from depression since I was 11 and take anti depressents but random symptoms come and go. The crying thing only started up again lately. Guess I just go through cycles.
Nice to see all these other people on here dealing with the same sort of things

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I like the name James too for a baby and Daniel as well.I am fine,Been busy today as always.got a red wig,facepaints etc for Comic Relief on Friday as I am off to Exeter for the day to see friends that I usually see on a Monday but didnt go this week.I am going to relax tonight,Got my ironing done,I am on a new deal with BT so can ring Mum and Dad when I want without worrying how much the phone bill will cost.

love and light,

Katie xxx

La-Cara

gibboelli- until just recently I've never really cried much despite being unhappy for god knows how many years, only used to cry a couple of times a year. Recent stupid things that have upset me include: spilling blackcurrant juice all over my cream carpet (thankfully I managed to mop it up and it didn't stain); partly melting the kettle cable as it was against the george foreman grill; making someone pull in at the side of the road so I didn't have to back up (it was my right of way) and not knowing how to make my dad's wireless network secure.

Last year at uni my lecturer commented to the whole class that our maths skills were not good enough, and implied that we were thick because we couldn't do what she called "basic" maths. You don't need a specific grade of maths to get on the course, and it was a source of grief for me at school (to this day it scares me). I wanted to cry there and then because I'd been trying so hard to understand the maths involved on that course, and she really set me back by saying that.

maytaurus

whitevanwoman wrote: »

OK everyone - I think Jo R needs some help here finding a name for Baby - let's give her some help...

My suggestion, in deference to the hoster of this thread, has got to be
Martin :money:
(although I do have to admit that it's not my favourite boy's name & I wouldn't choose it myself, but each to their own)

So, let's have those suggestions coming in thick and fast before poor Baby becomes permanently known as "Baby Jo R" :rotfl:

Here's my offerings :rotfl:
Ian
Russell
James
Jack
Alexander
Ben
Ross


Whn my daughter was born, she was either
Waldo
X reg (car yr)
baby 379 (on hospital bracelet)
or bright eyes
for 7 weeks :eek:
We finally settled on Laura, but she still gets the others occasionaly :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: