Daughter 22

flutterbyuk25

I've just posted on this thread:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=18702439#post18702439

about the Prince's Trust 12 week Team programme.

It may be of interest to your daughter, and will not affect her receiving JSA.

HTH

x

3plus1

Cambridgegirl wrote: »

To be honest she doesn't soicalise very much as most of her friends are from uni and are now scattered all over the country and I do worry about her becoming depressed.

If she's not job hunting or seeing people, what is she doing? I agree with pinkshoes - she needs to do something to keep herself occupied. A voluntary job might be helpful - you get all the responsibilities of a paid job, without the salary, so you don't feel as under pressure. If she's been out of work for a while and not up to much, it might help ease her back into working life, plug her CV and help get her back into a routine.

I used to hate routines when I was younger, but if my mother had left me alone, I would probably have spent much of my life up to now asleep. Sometimes you need a bit of a prodding to get out there and do stuff. Getting up early helps - most people my age, if left to their own devices, will happily sleep in all morning. They get up at lunchtime, half the day is gone, and there's not much point doing anything. Then they go to bed late, get up late and the cycle starts again.

Cambridgegirl wrote: »

What I also havn't mentioned is that she does have a few health issues, nothing life threatening but she has an inherited blood disorder which causes her to appear juaundiced and this is something that I feel holds her back, so she is not really a spolit little rich girl, she is a very sweet and caring girl but it is very difficult to motivate her to get out there and work. One of the reasons my DH persists in paying for her car and petrol is because he feels guilty that she has this condition which she has inherited from him.

I have a few health issues myself. This is due to my parents. However, I don't blame or resent them for it. There is nothing more upsetting than being ill and hearing my parents wish that they had my condition rather than me. Please, work on your DH. It might be down to his genes, but I can assure you, your daughter will not enjoy his guilt. Sometimes, sh*t happens. Blame doesn't help. I can understand why he feels the way he does, but he needs to stop.

Cambridgegirl wrote: »

Anyway, sorry to go on it's not always easy to talk to people about these issues especially when you work with people who don't have children.

Go on about them all you like. No one here is going to hold it against you! Especially if some of the ideas/comments bounced around here help you come to some sort of resolution.

Cambridgegirl

flutterbyuk25 wrote: »

I've just posted on this thread:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=18702439#post18702439

about the Prince's Trust 12 week Team programme.

It may be of interest to your daughter, and will not affect her receiving JSA.

HTH

x

I think this Princes Trust thing looks great and I will definitetly encourage her to contact them, I can see that they have a team in our town and it's at the College where she did her Art Foundation course, so it is somewhere she knows!

Today she is contacting one of the agency's she is registered with to update her CV and just let then know that she is still available. We use this agency where I work and I spoke to someone yesterday who is working here through them, about a work related matter and the woman seem to have very little ofice skills at all, so hopefully they may find her something.

Hubby and I have got a plan, she must now pay us £50 a month towards the car, which she has agreed to, if the agency has no work then she will have to just do whatever is available and if she won't do this then I think the Princes Trust thing will be her other option! So she will be given her optons at the weekend!

As to what she does all day, she sits on the computer looking at Craft web-sites with one eye and Sky TV with the other!

wes_cov

great to hear you are starting to push her in the right direction hope it works out

BuddyBonthenet

Cambridgegirl wrote: »

I think this Princes Trust thing looks great and I will definitetly encourage her to contact them, I can see that they have a team in our town and it's at the College where she did her Art Foundation course, so it is somewhere she knows!

Today she is contacting one of the agency's she is registered with to update her CV and just let then know that she is still available. We use this agency where I work and I spoke to someone yesterday who is working here through them, about a work related matter and the woman seem to have very little ofice skills at all, so hopefully they may find her something.

Hubby and I have got a plan, she must now pay us £50 a month towards the car, which she has agreed to, if the agency has no work then she will have to just do whatever is available and if she won't do this then I think the Princes Trust thing will be her other option! So she will be given her optons at the weekend!

As to what she does all day, she sits on the computer looking at Craft web-sites with one eye and Sky TV with the other!

Glad things have moved on for you and that you and your husband are working together to help your daughter.:)

JamesKirstyLou

I'm 21, and live with my fiance who i met while I was at Uni, when i moved away to university my brother and sisters took over my 'room' as it were then within the week i think, as of then i have been financially independant. (Had a job 5.30 till 8.30 every morning before uni, and weekend and holiday jobs)

When I moved back to this area after leaving University early (when i was 20), I stayed with my parents for a couple of months while looking for a house to rent and i payed £250 to them each month, as well as paying towards shopping etc. I also have a car on finance alot more than your's costs, plus all my other bills, and I thought i had it well!

It was a shock to me having to work 40 hours after having it easy at uni, but i now work 45 hours as does my fiance in order for us to survive, I completely understand you wanting to protect your daughter but she will have to enter the real world at some point.

I have a HCE in Ecology, and my fiancee is a Qualified PC Engineer, currently we are both working as cleaners! Unfortunately that's the way it goes, I think your daughter needs to get out abit more or she will get stuck in a rutt and it's hard to get back out.

*Hugs*