The revenge of the stripey socks - a DFW adventure

Pippilongstocking

Sorry rant over - immersed self in work

KK ta for the PM

Karmacat

Not a problem, sweetie! Thank you for thinking of me.
xx

PS - hope the work goes well.

mollypolly

Afer 25 years of my 'neglecting him and not caring for him ' (his words) he said 'Sis I think you owe me.'

Fay You owe him NOTHING.You have your own life and he has his.
You have worked hard ,and still do, to get to where you are today.You have bills to pay and children to look after and He is old enough to look after himself.
Don't let him make you feel guilty.....you have done your best...offered him somewhere to stay and listened to his moans.
If he wants what you have then he has to work for it.Not be given it on a plate.......
Sorry rant over....some people.!!!!:eek::eek:!:D:D:D
Remember...
Take care of YOU
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Pippilongstocking

Hey MP - as I watch the 6 pairs of stripey socks dancing on the line (30 degrees wash, one spin, air drying with sainsbugs value washing powder) its lovely to hear you say that.

I don't mind helping but the assumption that I have had it made and purely cos I am the oldest somehow or other I owe him something for leaving when I did - I do have guilt for it but to be fair at 16 (when I left home) I don't think I could really look after myself never mind offer anyone else.

We do have indeed a very very nice life (frugal and now thanks to you lot very MSE) but its our life - and I am happy to let someone borrow elements of it but not if it impinges too much on my own life. Selfish - but its survival right now I think.

We chose the route of the pink, garish, striped and flowered sock life - no one makes anyone pick up 'normal' unless its what they want I tried to explain that to him but he didn't really get it

Dead poets - rocks -

'Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.'
Robert Frost -


"The Road Not Taken"

jo1972

mollypolly wrote: »

Afer 25 years of my 'neglecting him and not caring for him ' (his words) he said 'Sis I think you owe me.'

Fay You owe him NOTHING.You have your own life and he has his.
You have worked hard ,and still do, to get to where you are today.You have bills to pay and children to look after and He is old enough to look after himself.
Don't let him make you feel guilty.....you have done your best...offered him somewhere to stay and listened to his moans.
If he wants what you have then he has to work for it.Not be given it on a plate.......
Sorry rant over....some people.!!!!:eek::eek:!:D:D:D
Remember...
Take care of YOU
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Listen to MP, Fay, don't forget she has a whip....

Ooooh, sorry, wrong thread :whistle:

Piquant_2

That'll be me with the whip...

Your friends are giving you good advice Fay, you do not owe your brother.

Need to catch up with you properly, sorry, I seem to be working ridiculous hours and not being where I want to be. Will contact you later

piq xx

Pippilongstocking

jo1972 wrote: »

Listen to MP, Fay, don't forget she has a whip....

Ooooh, sorry, wrong thread :whistle:

Wouldnt dare I may withdraw my offer of new willow stems for her though...........bit scary

..................................... siblings eh?;)


Feeling better thanks to you lot - I took the stripey socks road.

OH has just given me a talking too by text (in a good way) and told me to cut self some slack, see the invasion as a compliment and slap him (brother) if necessary :rotfl:

mollypolly

jo1972 wrote: »

listen to mp, fay, don't forget she has a whip....

Ooooh, sorry, wrong thread :whistle: :d

;);););):d

troglodyte

'Afer 25 years of my 'neglecting him and not caring for him ' (his words) he said 'Sis I think you owe me.'

Ooh that is making me so mad on your behalf Fay, it's a good thing I'm so far away. As everyone else has said, you've worked hard to stand on your own feet and build your life and you don't owe anyone anything. And I suspect that whatever you do for him will quickly be forgotten. Family members have a habit of behaving like that. You can go out of your way to help them and rather than thank you they just resent you for it, when they get the chance they do things to spite you or they bad-mouth you to other relatives for controlling them or something. Be very careful! I'm not saying don't help him, but you still have to put yourself and your children first and whatever you do, do it because you want to and not because you expect any thanks or any favours in return in future because, in my experience (and that of many others I've read about on here) you won't get any and more than likely you'll get the opposite. Someone comes to you for help and all they think of is that they are jealous because they think you're doing better than they are and they resent having to ask you, they won't remember what you do for them.

As for the girlfriend, he's putting her through some sort of test to see if she'll give up the job she deserves and agree to be in the position where he is in charge. I think she'd be better off without him if he can't accept that she can do as well and perhaps better than he can!

Pippilongstocking

Tis very true - Troglodyte you have hit the nail on the head - whatever I give won't be enough and everything somehow will be my fault! He doesnt deserve the gorgeous girl he's with but she adores him so somehow or other I figure inside there must be a lovely guy......

My sis (yep there are lots of us) only ever asks me for money - what is it about this putting food on your own table and caring for your kids that seems to make you somehow 'richer' than them?

I haven't heard from my Sis in 4 years - she's obviously OK - Last time I saw her (another funeral we only ever see each other at funerals these days .......very sad he) she told me I was still fat (hey ho its a normal thing to say to someone, we had bets on it took her 28 seconds) - I omitted to reply that she was still looking like a 'haggered 4-stone freak'. Apologies ot all you skinnies out there
I did try to 'bond' with her - must be something about turning 40? and just ended up less well off with various promises to take her children for extended periods of time whilst she had a 'break'.

Call me old fashioned but I kinda like my kids.