Little sis doesn't pay any rent to parents

Princess_Jane

Thanks everyone.

Have raised it with my sister when she was at uni to suggest the idea of paying towards the household once she got a job.

She always says "Why should I pay to live in my house?".

It's probably because she's the youngest but she has always been protected from the world somewhat by mam and dad.

They helped her through her law degree as she said she couldn't work and get a good grade, but then decided law wasn't for her shortly after completing her degree, which is fair enough I guess, I've done two degrees before I made up my mind on a career, and then had to pay my way through a costly professional qualification.

She actually lived with me and my friends for a short while during her studies, but we had to ask her to leave as she refused to pay towards bills if she wasn't there, like during half-term etc.

Anyways, enough whinging. I'll let you know how I get on.

Errata

Dad has worked since he was 14 in outdoor, manual labour. He's just had a hernia and problems with dizziness and would like to cut down his hours but can't afford to.

What's happened in the past is in the past but you've now got a golden opportunity to discuss finances with your sister, something along the lines of "Can you pay any extra board to mum and dad so dad can cut his hours?". This should tell you a lot about which way the wind is blowing.

Mandles

From what you said in your last post i dont hold out much hope especially if you have confronted her before about paying when she stayed with you.

She is absoloutly awful! Selfishness is not going to get her a good relationship in life. You reap what you sow so it will come back and bite her in the bum in the end. Just say your bit and don't get wound up with her selfish answer that i am sure that she will give. Just be pleased that you also have not got her spoilt attitude. I hate to sound cut throat but know how these things go. Have your parents written a will? i just say this as she may have manouvered her way into getting the lot and i just thought that i would prepare you now. If they havent written a will and they are fair and want to split everything between you two get them to write it now..much better than falling out with your sister over it . I say this from experience as i have a selfish father who ignored my mums verbal will and kept the lot instead of giving me one of his 5, yes 5! houses!! I know we are not talking about wills but with family like this it is better to now rather when a parent is ill as that is a harder time sometimes to bring it up.

margaretclare

She always says "Why should I pay to live in my house?"

But it's not her house, is it? It's her parents' house. They are just allowing her to live there. Some parents chuck the kids out at age 16 and expect them to fend for themselves, or the council or state to look after them.

Further, if she ever does have a house she can call hers, then she'll find out that she does have to pay to live in it! Mortgage/rent, council tax, gas/electricity, water, food - where does she imagine all that comes from? And I bet your Mum still does her washing, ironing, has meals on the table for her.

Bubbles911

Soon she will be out in the real world, Imagine her going to the bank and saying ok, Im only paying £500 instead of £600 on my mortgage this month as I was away for a few days so not living there!

Nothing is going to change really unless your parents do something. She is getting what she wants so doesnt bother, even you saying something probably wont help as she will say well if they think this why arent they saying it, you dont even live here. Maybe show your parents this thread so they can see how they are being taken in and letting her get away with it is doing her no favours in the long run.

Princess_Jane

Spoke to lil sis via email. Response -

I don't cause the parents any hardship- I try to get them to save money and switch providers but it's the big bad world of the unknown. The house is mine in the will anyway, I've had to put up with living with them for 24 years so that would be payback. I'd rent it out to you for a good price.

Errata

oooops..........doesn't look very promising.

Princess_Jane

I've had a little cry, then pulled myself together and sent this. I hope it works -

Joking aside, I'm worried about dad. He always looks knackered. I know he'd like to cut down his hours but can't afford to.

I know you help them out with money saving etc but I think it needs more than that.

You are obviously doing really well at saving so I'm sure you could budget to help them out too.

I know mam will say no and you keep it etc but that's because she still sees us as her little bairns, when in fact we are proper grown-ups, almost, thank to our lovely parents.

Keep them sweet now and they might let you bring a kula home!

love you lots,

J

webitha

Princess_Jane wrote: »

Spoke to lil sis via email. Response -

I don't cause the parents any hardship- I try to get them to save money and switch providers but it's the big bad world of the unknown. The house is mine in the will anyway, I've had to put up with living with them for 24 years so that would be payback. I'd rent it out to you for a good price.

im sorry but :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

if my little sister sent that to me i would print it off show the rents exactly what she thinks of them, then give her a slap for being a selfish beatch

sillyvixen

Princess_Jane wrote: »

Spoke to lil sis via email. Response -

I don't cause the parents any hardship- I try to get them to save money and switch providers but it's the big bad world of the unknown. The house is mine in the will anyway, I've had to put up with living with them for 24 years so that would be payback. I'd rent it out to you for a good price.

she needs to grow up, and stop acting like a spoiled brat!!