thieving flatmates

top_drawer_2

Robert_Sterling wrote: »

With caution.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

_Rich_81_

Fire_Fox wrote: »

The letter would appear to be to the phone company, but don't actually send it. The aim is to guilt trip your lodger into accepting responsibility instead of allowing you to make a tit of yourself. What explanation has he given? He knows you could not have made the calls, as you say you can prove you were not at the house at the time. So there are only two other options - the bill is totally wrong, so needs to be challenged with the phone company OR your lodger/ one of his guests made the calls. Does he say it's all a big mistake?

He's denying all knowledge. It was around xmas when he and a couple of his mates got a bit wasted. It's unlikely the phone company have made a mistake, so it has to be him or someone he was responsible for.

I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he genuinely either doesn't remember / doesn't know his mate did it.

I might get him - as I'm saying it wasn't me, and he's saying likewise - to give me half the money. It's annoying and I'd rather he payed the whole lot, but if he doesn't remember and I can't prove it wasn't me I might have to compromise in this way.
However annoyed he's going to be about it - he's not gonna be any more annoyed than I am.

Or...there's the legal action route (thanks for the clarification). Definately an option, but ineffective if it turns out he really has no knowledge of it (for the above reasons).

hullight

:rotfl:Living together brings out the worst in people - I should know after living with my aunt who is three years older than me.

Don't take revenge by eating their food - this will only make them think that you want to share!

If possible, only buy food that they hate. If this means living only on crabsticks and brie cheese so be it!

Or, just tell them that you don't mind sharing a bit of food as long as they ask first.

Tommy99

mellymeep wrote: »

If you were in bed before midnight every night in first year your not doing university properly!!

I had a second first year at bounrnemouth, that was more like it... Out everynight!!!

Living with people you don't know can be the hardest thing, I came back on sunday night to find my flatmates had given one of our parking spaces away to next door. 3 spaces and 4 cars, not very bright, someones coming back today and not going to have anywhere to park. oooopss:T

I learnt to keep food in my room, i.e. cans, pasta etc... and put your name on things like meet etc.

Fire_Fox

_Rich_81_ wrote: »

He's denying all knowledge. It was around xmas when he and a couple of his mates got a bit wasted. It's unlikely the phone company have made a mistake, so it has to be him or someone he was responsible for.

I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he genuinely either doesn't remember / doesn't know his mate did it.

I might get him - as I'm saying it wasn't me, and he's saying likewise - to give me half the money. It's annoying and I'd rather he payed the whole lot, but if he doesn't remember and I can't prove it wasn't me I might have to compromise in this way.
However annoyed he's going to be about it - he's not gonna be any more annoyed than I am.

Or...there's the legal action route (thanks for the clarification). Definately an option, but ineffective if it turns out he really has no knowledge of it (for the above reasons).

You previously stated (post no.63) you could prove you were not in the flat on those dates and times.

I didn't ask what your flatmate says did not happen, I am asking what he thinks did happen. If he knows that you were away at the time, he knows you could not possibly have made the premium rate calls. He then states he is completely certain neither he nor any of his guests made those calls either. So what is his preferred explanation?

"When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth. It is stupidity rather than courage to refuse to recognize danger when it is close upon you." (Sir Arthur Conan Doyle)

I suggest you write the letter, then run it by him. Ask if he would mind also running it by his mates just in case they have a sudden moment of clarity before you make a complete idiot of yourself. They can't all have been so drunk they don't remember.

pinkkaz

_Rich_81_ wrote: »

But what if the thing stolen isn't a physical object that's been removed?.

My unofficial flatmate (I sublet) denies ringing premium rate chatlines and clocking up £20 even though it's on my Bill and I can prove I wasn't in on those dates and times. We have an agreement that he doesn't use the landline, so he doesn't contribute to the cost of it or line rental.

The money comes out of my bank account - it's basically stealing money from me. Although he can be quite shrewd I still don't believe he's lying, he's a mate and we go back. I'm prepared to believe that either he did it when he was wasted and doesn't remember, or that one of his mates did it.

Either way, I want the costs refunded back to me and I can't see any of them admitting to it - which leaves me in a situation - what am I going to do about it if they deny it?. To my mind, my flatmate is responsible for his mates in the house and ensuring nobody takes the !!!!.

What would you do?.

Why don't you get rid of the landline and use a mobile phone instead? We haven't had a phone at home for years - just have a landline for the internet but no phone attached.

Primrose

Move the landline into your bedroom. Presumably you need it for your brandband connection? Then put a lock on your bedroom door.

roses

I used to have a blog and whenever my housemate used to do something that got on my nerves, I would write about it. Miraculously it actually worked and he stopped doing it! I never told him about my blog and he never mentioned it either.

Char_pdc

Hey Jen

I would also speak to your flatmate about it, but maybe be careful about the wording you use - i.e. make your point while causing the least possible offence.

Might be worth making your "rules" clear - for example I am "ask before you want and I'll probably say yes", whereas one of my previous housemates used to be "what's mine is yours". This caused a few issues when stuff of mine was gone when I came to use it but it soon worked out. It also helped that most of my stuff she didn't like - brown bread, rice, pasta and low cal./sugar/diet


I would also reccomend just living with one person, I'm loving living with one person, aside from the reduced company. However that could be because its my best mate, we've lived together for nearly 4 years now and got the rules on things like that pretty sorted!

top_drawer_2

hey everyone,

It seems houseshare problems are quite common... I have huge problem with confrontation/tackling these sort of issues etc. I think someone said earlier in the thread - they probably know its unacceptable but I dont say anything so they "get away with it."

It getting to be more and more of a problem as there's noise quite often in the house, people "borrowing" other things (washing powder etc) or other bits of things which go on. I cant even work out what I think will happen if I approach them as theyre not likely to attack me or something really horrible but I just cant seem to do it....

Jen