MSE Pregnancy Club V

SeptemberBaby_2

lisabell wrote: »

Just wanted to drop in and say goodbye for now and thanks for all your lovely advice and to wish you all the best off luck with your new babys:)
Our little 'pip' just wasnt to be and stopped growing 4 weeks ago,and am now misscarrying.
I do wish you all the luck and will hopefully be back soon xxx

Oh, I am so very sorry, Lisa. Hope you're getting all the support you need and lots of hugs to you and OH.

xxx

elle_gee

Glamazon, it'll be £123.06 a week by the time you have your little one Not much more, but every little helps..

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

Hey elle, I always end up chatting to Step-MIL on facebook most nights while hubby plays with himself... *sigh*

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PMSL :rotfl:

glam n others I will reply but gotta feed the sprog 1st

Krystaltips

Well he's certainly not playing with me is he!

Nicki

Glamazon wrote: »

I'm trying to catch up bvut while I do I would appreciate some advice

I posted yesterday to say how awful my employer was - I've just had it with them. I've offered someone a job but been told my bosses she is too overweight and doesn't portray the image they want to get across (for those of you thet don't know I work in a GP surgery). I have been promised promtion after promotion and I've worked so hard the last year it's been unbelievable, I even handed my notice in but was made loadsa promises so I stayed - they have just promoted someone over me who has been there half the time!

I want to change jobs so bad and as I am good at my job know I could get one no problems.

Here's where the advice comes in

If I stay, I will probably only get SMP at 90% of wages for 6 weeks then £117.80 per week after that for 33 weeks.

If I change, I will probably only get MA which is £117.80 per week for 39 weeks.

I am assuming the only difference is the first 6 weeks - I am manically saving now so that I can afford to live off the £117.80 but wondered what you guys would do and what experiences you had getting jobs whilst you were pregnant - I'm almost 8 weeks.

Thanks

Will you want to go back to work after baby is born? Does length of service make any difference to a right to return, or the likelihood that your employer would agree to part time/flexible working if that's what you wanted?

I don't know the answers to those questions, but that's what I'd want to check before making the move. And even if I thought now I didn't want to return, I'd probably want to keep the possibility open in case of unseen events (eg OH losing job) but I am super cautious!

Glamazon

Thanks Nicki I would need to go back to work regardless of whether it was this one or another one. I am trying to save enough so I can have between 4-6 months of with bean then he/she will go into nursey/childminder.

Ideally, I would like to drop down to 35 hours and work these over 3.5 days - my current employer would probably kick off about this.

searching_me

krystal - that through his choice or yours :rotfl: x

tarajayne

Glamazon wrote: »

Thanks Nicki I would need to go back to work regardless of whether it was this one or another one. I am trying to save enough so I can have between 4-6 months of with bean then he/she will go into nursey/childminder.

Ideally, I would like to drop down to 35 hours and work these over 3.5 days - my current employer would probably kick off about this.

Can't really offer any advice but it may be difficult to get work once you start to show. How pants that you're having trouble now. How much sick entitlement do you get, what are the chances of going off sick as early as possible then returning after ML just until you find a job that suits?

Not much help, sorry!

SeptemberBaby_2

MrsTine wrote: »

£60? mmmm that's not bad... I thought it would be a lot more... I might look into having a private room again and just paying for it. Having been in the maternity ward I'd much prefer a private room (last time I got it because they felt that putting me in the "general population" at 6 weeks because of my severe vomiting might be disturbing to everyone else :rotfl: especially as I was up several times to throw up during the night...

The ability to have privacy was nice though and I might well book a room or see if I can decide on the day to have a private room...

My hospital offers private rooms as standard where no intervention is required as usually they would like you on a ward to be observed.

I had my own room after both births and stayed two nights each time. The consultant allowed me to have my own room after Poppy as I apparently recovered extremely well after the forcepsand epidural . Jamie's was natural so no discussion required.

It was wonderful and after visiting SIL and nephew on a ward, I can't imagine not having my own space with my baby .

xx

Nicki

Just had a quick check Glamazon and there isn't a qualifying period for your right to return to work.

I'd still be cautious though. If you are 8 weeks now, presumably with the best will in the world you won't be able to find a new job and start until you are about 14-16 weeks (even assuming as tarajayne points out that a new employer will take you on knowing or suspecting you are pregnant). You'd only then have about 20 weeks to make a sufficiently good impression on them to make them want to accomodate a request for flexible working. Surely it would be easier to wangle this with your existing employers who have already told you that they don't want you to leave, than with a new one?

The other thing to bear in mind is that whilst you don't have to tell your new employer you are pregnant until after you start work, the employment board is full of enraged employers who have been kept in the dark by new pregnant staff and are hopping mad about it! It really isn't a good way to start in a new job, but the counterside of that is its really difficult to get a job when you are pregnant if you are up front about it.

If you do like your career and are just a bit fed up with your current colleagues I'd be inclined to stop where you are until after baby is born, and apply for new roles during your maternity leave, so you have a choice at the end of it whether to go back to your old job or start somewhere new. And I'd console myself in the meantime with the thought that colleagues who have known me for a few years will buy a much better new baby pressie when I go on maternity leave, than those who barely know me