MSE Pregnancy Club V

angelfairy

hi AM,

hope you are feeling better after the end of last week and being ill of the weekend.

how is your nan???

redmel1621

Tara - just popped on to see what your house/money question was!
It really is a tricky one. If I was definitely going to get the 15k for the extension, then I would probably borrow the extra 5k at the same time and do everything that needed doing. Especially if I wasn't going to move any time soon!!!
Is there anyway of compromising, maybe there is something that costs £20pm that you can say to your OH you will do without:)

Gotta go have a tidy round and then decide what to make for dinner. Kids just moan constantly for food the minute they get through the door :rolleyes:

Mel x

MrsTinks

astonsmummy wrote: »

My OH has been a right bastage to me in the past, he does still have his moments, but none of the aggressiveness or anything like that, but I think alot of the time it was both of us bouncing off eachother, I seem to attract/go for wronguns, but then apparently it's a cycle because of what my dad was like ho hum, we cant all have perfect lives.

Well DH is near perfect but many years ago I was in a relationship that wasn't so perfect - very controlling and belittling - not aggressive though, but very inconsiderate. Ironically he's apparently the perfect husband now so I guess it was a case of we just weren't meant to be I have no doubt that had we stayed together it WOULD have become at least verbally abusive at some point... My dad isn't exactly the perfect husband and my stepfather certainly isn't either Both of them doting fathers but not 100% perfect husbands... (infact dad is on marriage number 5... which begs the question of why I see any value in marriage really lol I can't explain that I really can't )

I think you just need to decide what you are willing to accept in life and what you are not, and I think a lot of women still undervalue themselves and don't realise they can either do better or certainly have the right to expect better from their other halves
I used to be a quiet little mouse, if I was told I wasn't wearing a certain outfit then that was it, or going out with friends etc... but when we split I realised that I was worth SO much more and since then I have refused to settle for less than I want And I think it's stood me in good stead in a work sense too... going in knowing what I want from a meeting means I'm a lot more likely to get it

astonsmummy

Nicki wrote: »

Can I ask a car question as lots of you seem to be buying new ones in anticipation of baby.

We have two kids already aged 7 (soon to be 8) and 9 (only just) so they will be in booster seats for another few years. Our existing car only has 2 three point seat belts in the back, so bump is a good excuse to buy a new one, as apart from anything else I only just fit in the back seat with two in boosters and there's no chance that I will be able to with post birth bulge (and less chance of OH being able to!) Added to this, I'm visited a few times a year by my aged parents who don't drive in London so it would be good really to have a people carrier perhaps so that we could go out as a family when they're here. However, I'm not a particularly confident driver and whilst I feel comfortable driving our saloon car, would be intimidated by something which looks like a bus...

So with all that in mind, what cars do those of you with bigger families recommend, and which ones should we steer well clear of? Ideally a 7 seater.

Have you posted on the motoring board, might get some good reccommendations on there too

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

I don't want to wash up

Get a dishwasher, they are great! :beer:

astonsmummy

angelfairy wrote: »

hi AM,

hope you are feeling better after the end of last week and being ill of the weekend.

how is your nan???

Hey, feeling much better today, went to see my pregnant best friend today, she's due exactly 2 weeks after me but lives where I used to live so we only really speak on the phone, although it's usually for 2 hours at a time at least once or twice a week!

Nan is ok, think she's gonna be in for a while so they can strengthen her up and get her appitite back, but she's being rude so must be ok lol

angelfairy

astonsmummy wrote: »

Hey, feeling much better today, went to see my pregnant best friend today, she's due exactly 2 weeks after me but lives where I used to live so we only really speak on the phone, although it's usually for 2 hours at a time at least once or twice a week!

Nan is ok, think she's gonna be in for a while so they can strengthen her up and get her appitite back, but she's being rude so must be ok lol

glad you are feelign better and you got to see your friend. i love catching up with mine whose boy was born last July.

i know it did make me feel any better recently when my nan was in hospital but she is in the best place isn't she.

tarajayne

Thanks mel and everybody for replies. I think the point is that we have quite a bit of disposable income, partly due to always being so careful. We don't smoke, drink, rarely go out, don't have sky. I don't overspend on the weekly shop but for the first time in my life if I need something I can just buy it. Trouble is I get in a tiswas whenever I spend anything, always looking at things in shops, picking them up then thinking if I really need it. I watched a spendaholics a while ago and the woman said if you see something you like walk away and leave it 24hrs. The like will either stay or go, it works. Trouble is when it's something for me the like usually goes. OH earns 57k so we are hardly hard up, house is economical to run. Oh gosh, listen to myself, I'm trying to talk myself into it!!!

Jo_R_2

Just been nesting like crazy! Due next Tuesday, home birth so been gathering bits and bobs, my next little project is to collect my stuff for my home birth "kit" and put it in a box, old blankets, plastic sheets, baby's first clothes, etc etc... I keep having this panic that I'm going to go into labour when it's just me and DDs here (they're only 5 and 2) so I want to have everything in one place in case things happen quite fast (again, panicking they will do) so DD1 bless her knows where the important stuff is either to get out or so it's all there for the midwives.

Absolutely certain this one is going to be late - then again after DD2's three weeks of extra cooking, it doesn't really bother me!

Just a thought I've been having... A few people asked me when I've been pg before, what I wanted for ME after baby was born. I'm a bit fussy over smellies, bath stuff and whatever so I was thinking of post-pregnancy clothes... Would it be rude to maybe ask for vouchers instead of actual stuff as I know at least a couple of people are going to ask?

***Please tell me if it sounds a bit off, I don't want to make a plank of myself!***

feelinggood_2

astonsmummy wrote: »

Get a dishwasher, they are great! :beer:

No space Absolutely tiny kitchen, and its a choice between a washing machine and a dishwasher!

I've done a couple of mugs. Just got to persuade myself to do enough plates for dinner!

Happy 30 weeks btw :beer: