MSE Pregnancy Club V

MrsTinks

That so sucks shell I'm only a little way behind you and although there have been no problems in my family on my mums side pregnancy wise like that then I can't help worry... My cousin has a rare type of haemophilia but it hasn't gone down my dads side of the family so doesn't affect me but still... I keep feeling like it's all gone too well - stuff ALWAYS goes wrong for me when it comes to important stuff... apart from my wedding Groom turned up and said yes... pretty much perfect if you ask me
It's just that although I'VE been poorly this pregnancy then Roo has been fine and healthy and kicking like a mule (today she started kicking my ribs... OW! Little moo!) and I keep thinking that SOMETHING is going to go wrong... something will happen...
I mean so far I've lost my Ex's dad, both my grandparents and I still feel like there is something bad to come... *sigh*

Nicki

Aargh. I'm still waiting for the results of the antibody test. I phoned the hospital this morning, and they hadn't come back yet, though the secretary was surprised they hadn't, and said she would chase them up.

I know that this is all psychological but I lay in bed last night and felt itchy all over - just the way you do when the kids bring a letter home from school saying there is an outbreak of nits and could all parents check their child's head!

I really wish I could just find out one way or the other what the situation is, so at least I'd know where I stand.

MrsTinks

crazylady you're probably better of asking that question on the employement and benefits board to be honest...

angelfairy

djdymond wrote: »

thanks r.mac for being the only person on here to show me some sort of comfort after my horrible weekend. going to look for support else where....

oh please dont do that dj.

for me personally i find it difficult to know what to say, like i have said to shell with her posts.

sometimes words aren't enough and i dont want to appear to say the wrong thing so i dont reply hoping that someone else will know the right thing to say.

i couldn't begin to imagine what you went through over the weekend and for that reason i wouldn't want to trivalise it with the wrong words.

please stay.

shellsuit

MrsTine wrote: »

That so sucks shell I'm only a little way behind you and although there have been no problems in my family on my mums side pregnancy wise like that then I can't help worry... My cousin has a rare type of haemophilia but it hasn't gone down my dads side of the family so doesn't affect me but still... I keep feeling like it's all gone too well - stuff ALWAYS goes wrong for me when it comes to important stuff... apart from my wedding Groom turned up and said yes... pretty much perfect if you ask me
It's just that although I'VE been poorly this pregnancy then Roo has been fine and healthy and kicking like a mule (today she started kicking my ribs... OW! Little moo!) and I keep thinking that SOMETHING is going to go wrong... something will happen...
I mean so far I've lost my Ex's dad, both my grandparents and I still feel like there is something bad to come... *sigh*

It's never ending worry isn't it. I hate feeling like this, but I know I'll still worry about the remainder of the pregnancy, then the birth, then how baby is when I bring him home, then stuff like cot death....not nice thoughts at all!

I actually said to Steve last night, I shouldn't worry, what will be will be and if something does happen, then we will have to deal with it at the time xx

Pregnancy/being a Mum is sooooooo stressful!

MrsTinks

dj - often things get missed or in my case (and this is just me personally) I only answer what I feel I have something to contribute to. I can't tell you it'll be ok, I can't tell you that I know how you feel, and I have gotten shot down for giving advice/support before so now I only do it for people on here that I know reasonably well. It's nothing personal against you but last time I was very upset and decided that rather than be shot down in flames again I just wouldn't bother, unless as I say I know someone to a certain degree and know they will understand...

However I am glad baby is ok and that you're ok too

Tweetinat

crazyladyc wrote: »

Hi all,

I am new to this and wanted to ask advice - I have a 10 week old baby girl and was due to go back to work mid-April but really want to stop working. I could claim maternity pay until mid-July but I don't want to mess my boss around by saying can I extend my maternity leave til mid-July when I know come mid-July I will hand in my notice. I'd rather say now that I am handing in my notice - the question is - will I still be entitled to the remaining 3 months maternity pay and if so does my current boss still pay this and if so can they claim all the money back from the govt. or if they stop paying maternity pay from mid-April is there any other way to claim the remaining 3 months of possible maternity pay? we really need every penny we are entitled to. Hope that all makes sense? Cheers - CrazyLadyC

Just read this from this site http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Moneyandworkentitlements/WorkAndFamilies/Pregnancyandmaternityrights/DG_10029290:

Statutory Maternity Pay (money, tax and benefits section)
If you have the right to receive SMP, you will get it even if you decide to leave your job (or are made redundant) before you start receiving SMP. Also once you start getting it, your employer must continue to pay SMP to you even if you leave your job or are made redundant. You don't have to repay it if you decide not to go back to work or leave your job while getting SMP.

Sami_Bee

Dj I assumed you were feeling ok as u had said bubs was ok and went on to ask about MATB1 which was sort of answered.
Did they give you any answers as to what caused the bleeding?
and the ooficial line on MATB1 is "MAT B1 - Maternity Certificate

MAT B1 is the medical evidence given to the employee by the doctor or midwife showing the expected date of confinement (childbirth). Evidence is acceptable if it is signed from the start of the 20th week before the EWC.
The employee must produce medical evidence of the date the baby is due, usually the MAT B1, but the employer can accept other medical evidence providing it shows the date the baby is due."
although in some areas they don't seem to know this and keep you waiting :mad:


Quoted from http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/manuals/spmmanual/spm20320.htm

feelinggood_2

angelfairy wrote: »

for me personally i find it difficult to know what to say, like i have said to shell with her posts.

Same here. I probably sound really selfish, as I tend to only talk about me, but I just feel like a bit of an idiot when the only thing I have to say is 'Sorry' or something equally unhelpful. I'm even a bit rubbish with congratulations - everything I try and say just makes me feel stupid and like I'm not helping.

Sami_Bee

Nicki wrote: »

Aargh. I'm still waiting for the results of the antibody test. I phoned the hospital this morning, and they hadn't come back yet, though the secretary was surprised they hadn't, and said she would chase them up.

I know that this is all psychological but I lay in bed last night and felt itchy all over - just the way you do when the kids bring a letter home from school saying there is an outbreak of nits and could all parents check their child's head!

I really wish I could just find out one way or the other what the situation is, so at least I'd know where I stand.

I randomly thought about when you would get ur results today Nicki - You ladies do manage to get in my subconscious a lot!

Its one of those waiting is the worst bit things isn't it :rolleyes: did you manage to find out if said child has caught it?