Weekly Flylady Thread 26th January 2009

rach

Morning all

I was going to do a 60 in 60 before my eyebrow appointment at 9.30am but i'm still sitting in my pjs so it will have to wait til afterwards. didn't think I had enough stuff but I keep seeing things I could get rid of (let's be honest i'm not going to use the bath salts I got given 3 Christmases ago!!)

mudbath - I would have expected them to speak to you about it. I would ask to see their child protection and health and safety policies which I think they should have. Often there's a big difference between things like a running club which is run by people enthusiastic at running with a branch for kids than somehting like a youth group or brownies which is run by people with some kind of training in working with young people. Could you find a weekend running club for them that would be in the daytime or one based at a stadium or running track?

pigpen - great news about Tabitha

Happy Birthday to W

ETA - pigpen - my dad was tongue tied (not badly i don't think) when he was born, one day the GP came round, noticed and said 'that baby's tongue tied', promptly picked him up, put him on the kitchen table and un-tongue tied him using the bread knife :eek: mind you it was 61 years ago!

kassey

Friday - flyday
Level One
Clear and vacuum floors in childrens and spare rooms
HH-do something for YOURSELF!!!!!!!
Level Two
wash any bedding that needs it
[STRIKE]collect the dirty laundry[/STRIKE]
drag the junk from under the need and deal with it as necessary!
Level three
binbag dance
find 10 things that are outgrown to give away/sell
put all disc back in the correct boxes
Extras

1. sort through the school uniform.. get rid of outgrown stuff and bin dead stuff
2. wash any sticky marks from the room
3. wash any grotty stuffed creatures
4. delete 5 unwanted contacts from your mobile phone!!

mumofjusttwo

Morning All

Well it looks likeDH and Iare getting a divorce

Don't know what to do. I am so worried about finance. The money I earn doesn't even cover half the mortgage let alone the bills.

I don't want to move because of the children but I think that I am going to have to.

Valli

Thanks Rach!

:bdaycake:
Happy Birthday W!

enjoy

Restaholic

Mum of Just Two

That's really sad news, (((hugs))) for you.

Don't panic though - you'll need lots of help and advice and you're sure to find it. I'm not very knowledgable, but when my sister was having a wobbly patch a while ago my neighbour who had been through it herself told me to get the Which guide to divorce which has lots of information.

But for now things look very black - remember, there are benefits you can get and also your husband will probably have to contribute to the household. And life will get better.

Try to visit a good friend who can give you a real hug!

mOZzy_2

kids are gone :j

i've started on 2 cupboards in the LR, found lots to bin, put all the discs in the right holder, moved some bits to a new home ... and then suddenly i realised i was too happy too early: the cold hasn't left and brought some friends instead :eek:

oh well, moaning won't help and us women we just get on with it anyways :rolleyes:
so check wm and td and go back to the cupboards :whip:



Friday - flyday
Level One
sweep downstairs
HH-do something for YOURSELF!!!!!!! (i might do my eyebrows and nails)
Level Two
wash any bedding that needs it - dd
collect the dirty laundry
Level three
[STRIKE]binbag dance[/STRIKE]
find 10 things that are outgrown to give away/sell
[STRIKE]put all disc back in the correct boxes[/STRIKE]
Extras
wash any sticky marks from the room downstairs
transfer some more cd's onto ipod
tidy a cupboard/drawer/box
make brioche in bm
start dinner early (jalfrezi)
walk into town to get shoes for dd (why on earth are ALL girls trainers WHITE????? ), sheets for 'new' recipebook

Dailys
wm
td
dw still only halffull
s/s kitchen
s/s toilet oh ordered a new one and it'll be here by monday - that should be fun :rolleyes:
empty bins + change binbag

mumofjusttwo

unfortunately I have some money in an account but I can't access so think it will affect my benefits.

Sadly enough I don't really have any good friends. My sister was my best and only(sorry I said I was sad) friend.

Valli

Sorry to hear that Mumofjust2 never an easy decision - but too soon to think about moving just yet. You have to have a roof over your head and OH has to provide/help provide one if you have custody.
I would suggest (if you don't mind) that you make notes of all bank accounts so that you know what the finances are and keep copies of statements because one phase of the process is the Financial Disputes Resolution (assuming there has been a dispute over them) and you need to have as much information as possible to hand. Save all your bank statements - I had to provide a years worth of evidence.
Even if you intend to start off amicably it might, unfortunately, deteriorate given the adversarial divorce process...
Courts also like it if parties attend mediation (which has to be paid for but is cheaper than solicitors) and they actively encourage this.
Solicitors do free half hour interviews - you can have them at more than one solicitors which helps you find a solicitor you are comfortable with. Make sure you tell them you want a free half hour interview. My ex was told by whoever he spoke to that that firm of solicitors didn't do this, and neither did others (or so he said) and he STILL went with them! They were the first, alphabetically, in the directory!
This is NOT the case - they might call it a half hour consultation but if you aren't offered this...well you pays your money and you takes your choice.
Write down questions you have before you go in so that you don't forget them
And my final tip (been there twice) is don't cry at the solicitors - they are charging! Your mates will offer you a shoulder (I hope).
(((hugs)))
If you want to PM me then...

If (and when) he moves out immediately get a reduction in council tax (phone them) ask to claim housing/CT benefit and also ring Tax Credits too (which AFAIK don't take savings into account). If your kids are at school check eligibility for free meals and uniform help to (county council.education dept for that)
You can actually enquire in advance so that you can hit the ground running...

Restaholic

Hi again MumofJusttoo

I'm sure you'll get lots of positive vibes and support and advice from on here. I wish I could help more. Have you got a citizen's advice near you?

sammiell

Monday - kitchen and dining mess
Level One

Level Two
Level Three
Clean the oven and hob

Extras

2. HHI
4. clean out the vacuum cleaner.. wash the filters and when dry replace then!

Tuesday - Living room, hall and stairs!
Level One

Scrub the sofa..
Level Two
declutter and vacuum/mop the floors!
Wash windows

Level Three


Extras

1. wipe and water any plants
2. 32 fling boogie!
4. Wipe all the paintwork in the hallway and up the stairs!

Wednesday - bathroom, study and loo!
Level One
Level Two
Level Three

1. defrag the pc while scrubbing down tiles
2. list 5 things on ebay!
3. Wipe all the paintwork

Thursday - general flingishness
Level One
Level Two

Sort through handbags and purses and other general dumping of loose change and receipt places! (buggy basket is atrocious!!)
Level Three
Clean out any pets
Declutter the pc desk/magazine rack/toy box
Wash any neglected bedding..
Extras

1. write down 5 things YOU are good at!! (A little self appreciation goes a long way!)
2. HHI
3. Wipe down dirty dining chairs or sofas or suchlike
4. 15 minutes filing

Friday - flyday
Level One
Clear and vacuum floors in childrens and spare rooms
HH-do something for YOURSELF!!!!!!!
Level Two
wash any bedding that needs it
collect the dirty laundry
drag the junk from under the need and deal with it as necessary!
Level three
binbag dance
find 10 things that are outgrown to give away/sell
put all disc back in the correct boxes
Extras

1. sort through the school uniform.. get rid of outgrown stuff and bin dead stuff
2. wash any sticky marks from the room
3. wash any grotty stuffed creatures
4. delete 5 unwanted contacts from your mobile phone!!

thats whats left of my list must get on no chatting builders here doing the roof
hugs to all wether you need them or not sam