Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

black_paw

talking of photo's the driving licence photo... needed to do a new one..b/f took about 6 phots ..are looked drunk ..one eye open ect...finally one was ok...the price to re-do £20.00 !! so did photo on computer to save money..have'nt been on the photo suite for ages ..what a pain ..but managed it ..got nice photo...cut to passport size..i have same hair style from 10 years ago !! mmmmmmm

LameWolf

dane-katie wrote: »

Hi, how is everyone doing today? im a little down but depression seems to be under control (thank god for anti psychotic meds) been hearing a few things but not as many as i used to, glad meds help me with my hallucinations

Hope everyone is ok xx

Dane-Katie I'm so pleased to see you posting - I was genuinely worried about you. (((HUG)))

Unity wrote: »

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Lame Wolf - Sounds like a good way to meet someone, having something in common . I always knew it would be impossible to meet someone just by going out clubbing, especially since I didn't particularly like it myself . I met DH via an SF group where we found we liked the same authors.

LOL I'd actually done a wee ritual to try to make it easier for me to make friends, but I definitely was not looking for a relationship at that point in time. Looks like Fate had other ideas, though.;):D

black_paw wrote: »

talking of photo's the driving licence photo... needed to do a new one..b/f took about 6 phots ..are looked drunk ..one eye open ect...finally one was ok...the price to re-do £20.00 !! so did photo on computer to save money..have'nt been on the photo suite for ages ..what a pain ..but managed it ..got nice photo...cut to passport size..i have same hair style from 10 years ago !! mmmmmmm

LOL I always manage to look drunk in photos. More so if I haven't touched a drop. That can't be fair, can it?

I had a strange experience this morning; lying in bed waiting for the morphine to take hold before getting up, and the 3rd movement of Tolga Kashif's "Queen Symphony" came on the radio. That particular movement is an orchestration of "Who Wants To Live Forever" and I found myself fervently hoping that I go before Mr LW does (it's kinda on my mind as he's 10 years older than me, and his dad passed away at the age he is now). I don't normally get emotional over music, but that hit me hard. Stupid, eh? Sorry, just felt the need to share.

LameWolf

Unity wrote: »

I've spent an inconclusive morning at the hospital - left an armful of blood in four large different coloured tubes and come away with more questions than answers - but hey, life is like that.:o

Meant to include this in my previous post, but got me knickers in a knot with quotes.....:rolleyes:

Anyway, lets hope they come up with some answers for you soon; hope your arm isn't too sore (had a bruise the size of a saucer last time I had to see the Vampire Lady). Take care.

UN17ED

OMG I am so so so happy, i won my appeal , and now thanfully my family can go visit my mum.
Though I am going to have to wait as she is currently in hospital.

I cant beleive my prayers have been answered

black_paw

down the pub !

Unity

black_paw wrote: »

down the pub !

Good idea :beer: . What happened to Bill are you taking him with you?

crazy_girl

dane-katie wrote: »

Hi, how is everyone doing today? im a little down but depression seems to be under control (thank god for anti psychotic meds) been hearing a few things but not as many as i used to, glad meds help me with my hallucinations

Hope everyone is ok xx

good to hear you seem to be on the up a bit, my voices are being a bit quieter now too x

black_paw

Unity wrote: »

Good idea :beer: . What happened to Bill are you taking him with you?

:beer: yes think will take him with me ...his eyes wow ! :eek: and pale skin :rolleyes: teeth
soon knock me out of depression ! LOL :rotfl::rotfl:

soolin

UN17ED wrote: »

Proves you talk tripe.
The professor at christies hospital has advised that she is too sick to see visitors
So are you now telling me you know more than him? :rotfl:
And I have been given £310, and as soon as my mum comes back out of hospital then we will go up.

I have tried to refrain from commenting on some posts on here but as someone who works in a senior position within the NHS I am concerned by this.

If someone told you that your mother was too ill for visitors then you need to go back to them and you need to get their name and discuss this with the PALS service. Back in the 50s yes staff often told visitors not to visit, but nowadays this is not the case, if someone is very ill then restrictions may be placed, when I was on life support for instance they recommended that my 3 children all under the age of 5 not vist as the trauma would be too much, and sometimes babe in arms are excluded from critical wards due to infection risks, but that is all. However patients are not prisoners and you cannot be excluded from a ward unless you are endangering the staff or patients.

Some treatments can be traumatic and patients may be weak and again some staff may suggest a short visit or even a quiet sit by the bed out of normal visitng times. I am very concerned that you were told not to visit at all as I think this has serious repercussions for both of you. Feeling guilty by not visiting will not be helped because you were advised not to go, believe me guilt is a dreadful thing and in your current frame of mind I think this could affect you badly and is the last thing you need.

Phone back, talk to the ward sister and get a specific time to visit, if you meet any resistance then go to PALS (Patient advice and Liasion service) and get them to help.

You'll find the direct ward numbers here:

http://www.christie.nhs.uk/contact/telephone.aspx

and this is the PALS service
Patient advice and liaison service (PALS)

• 0161 446 8217
• [EMAIL="pals@christie.nhs.uk"]email[/EMAIL]

Unity

soolin wrote: »

I have tried to refrain from commenting on some posts on here but as someone who works in a senior position within the NHS I am concerned by this.

If someone told you that your mother was too ill for visitors then you need to go back to them and you need to get their name and discuss this with the PALS service. Back in the 50s yes staff often told visitors not to visit, but nowadays this is not the case, if someone is very ill then restrictions may be placed, when I was on life support for instance they recommended that my 3 children all under the age of 5 not vist as the trauma would be too much, and sometimes babe in arms are excluded from critical wards due to infection risks, but that is all. However patients are not prisoners and you cannot be excluded from a ward unless you are endangering the staff or patients.

Some treatments can be traumatic and patients may be weak and again some staff may suggest a short visit or even a quiet sit by the bed out of normal visitng times. I am very concerned that you were told not to visit at all as I think this has serious repercussions for both of you. Feeling guilty by not visiting will not be helped because you were advised not to go, believe me guilt is a dreadful thing and in your current frame of mind I think this could affect you badly and is the last thing you need.

Phone back, talk to the ward sister and get a specific time to visit, if you meet any resistance then go to PALS (Patient advice and Liasion service) and get them to help.

You'll find the direct ward numbers here:

http://www.christie.nhs.uk/contact/telephone.aspx

and this is the PALS service
Patient advice and liaison service (PALS)

• 0161 446 8217
• [EMAIL="pals@christie.nhs.uk"]email[/EMAIL]

Thank you so much for this post Soolin :T. When dmg24 questioned why UN17ED was not visiting his mother in hospital she was met with one of the usual less than polite replies we have come to expect :rolleyes:. Perhaps having the advice from a senior NHS worker will put a stop to this , we can only hope.

Certainly I can confirm that when my mother was dying from cancer, visiting hours were totally relaxed to enable those closest to spend as much time as possible with her. Similarly when my father died - the same applied.