Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

fanakerpan21

hi new to this board, also just joined the board for Fibromyalgia as I suffer from that too. I started another new antidepressant Mirtazapine on 18th May just wondered if anyone on here is on it and how are they coping on it. It makes me drowsy and it hasn't as yet settled my moods.

also to earthmother hello and just to say i too find that once in the g.p's i forget all i wanted to say so I now write it all down. my g.p is so used to me doing it now that i can just hand him the list to read and he'll go through each thing with me. The real key is actually find a g.p like mine who listens and is supportive, patient and understanding. It took me 4 doctors in my surgery before i found this one. He has done so much for me, I would be here if I didn't have him working with me to help me deal with my depression and other illness'

mymonkeylife

Didn't spot this thread until now.Asked on another if people considered depression as a disability.

As a sufferer, I certainly think that is. I'm fortunate enough to be able to hold down a full time job. However, when I get home I just want to hide under a duvet and pretend that the outside world doesn't exist.

As a result of this I'm in debt to utilities companies. I'm forever getting letters and calls from debt collecting agencies. I have money to pay in installments.....but I get scared of talking to people.....therefore I hide.

Any advice my dears?

LameWolf

Hi and welcome to fanakerpan21 and mymonkeylife.

fanakerpan21 it can take a good 6 weeks for new anti-d's to kick in, so don't give up yet.

mymonkeylife I wish I had some words of wisdom for you - but I'm another one that hides if the prospect of talking to people looms up, especially men.

Earthmother a while back, I did a sort of "diary" for my rheumatologist, of really bad times, complete with day/date, what I was doing at the time, my state of mind, the whole lot. Just did it for a couple of weeks (if your GP is wedded to the idea of PMT you may need to do it for a month) but my rheumy said it was helpful. Used Word on the computer and just printed it out.

Hope everyone is having a good day today - dogs lying down sleeping.

black_paw

looks like all dogs gone on holiday together , hopefully love it there and stay there !!

black_paw

mymonkeylife wrote: »

Didn't spot this thread until now.Asked on another if people considered depression as a disability.

As a sufferer, I certainly think that is. I'm fortunate enough to be able to hold down a full time job. However, when I get home I just want to hide under a duvet and pretend that the outside world doesn't exist.

As a result of this I'm in debt to utilities companies. I'm forever getting letters and calls from debt collecting agencies. I have money to pay in installments.....but I get scared of talking to people.....therefore I hide.

Any advice my dears?

have you tried CAB they could help you , or if owe biggish money i think its called cccs , friend works for them , they deal with all you money prob, and sort out companys for you. good luck

So_Sad_Angel

mymonkeylife wrote: »

Didn't spot this thread until now.Asked on another if people considered depression as a disability.

As a sufferer, I certainly think that is. I'm fortunate enough to be able to hold down a full time job. However, when I get home I just want to hide under a duvet and pretend that the outside world doesn't exist.

As a result of this I'm in debt to utilities companies. I'm forever getting letters and calls from debt collecting agencies. I have money to pay in installments.....but I get scared of talking to people.....therefore I hide.

Any advice my dears?

Hi Everyone,

I know exactly what you mean. I started with the depression years ago.....I am trying to recover but its rollercoater stuff...even the meds don`t help.

I go for weeks & can`t open letters or do simple stuff like pay the phone bill...also noticed that my memory is so bad too. I am scared to answer the phone & trying to speak to strangers is particularly bad esp if its something complicated...I just hide away. Trouble is then I wake in a panic at stupid times of the night & panic attacks start.

The CAB are helping me at the moment...(my situation is very dire) but my advice is to get help early & get CAB to help with the letters to those companies. They will help organise payment plans etc.

BTW....`black dog` howling away in Angel house this morning....been awake since 3 so may as well get up now .

Angiexx

LameWolf

Hi Angel.

Sorry to hear that your black dog is howling. You're right, it is a rollercoaster. But just knowing that can make it a little easier to cope, sometimes.

I've just got my head around the new online method of making a Dr appointment - previously I had to get Mr LW to drive me to the surgery to make appointments, such is my phobia with phones. I'm due a meds review, and am pleased to say that I've managed to get an appointment with a lady doctor on 18th July (again, it has to be when Mr LW can take me). Just hope I have enough meds to last til then......

I don't know how practical this is with utilities/debt companies, as I've never had to deal with that particular issue, but I try to do all correspondence by e-mail, as I find it a lot less stressful than trying to use the phone. Just a thought.

black_paw

i do most of mine on line so much better too and all the bills

veggyboy

Don't know if its the heat, but it's my turn today. BOy am I cranky, my house mate was off today so I finally got to go out and do something and all I did all day was snipe and be nasty. No wonder no one wants to spend the day with me.
I am getting so angry all the time at the moment, I have even thought about smoking again just to see if that will help calm me down. (3 months so far)

black_paw

veggyboy wrote: »

Don't know if its the heat, but it's my turn today. BOy am I cranky, my house mate was off today so I finally got to go out and do something and all I did all day was snipe and be nasty. No wonder no one wants to spend the day with me.
I am getting so angry all the time at the moment, I have even thought about smoking again just to see if that will help calm me down. (3 months so far)

please no don't smoke be good and have some chocolate .. well a little piece.treat your self to a fav meal . be happy now