Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

crazy_girl

i dont think engalnd and ni are too different but i do know that moving and starting allover again is hard to do and i think youre brave x hopefully you wont have to go on any long waiting lists here x

dawn1974

CG the anxiety thing is so weird.

I used to be quite a brave lady too but sometimes find it a battle to do things.

I find that if I get myself together and think of positive things, I can usually lift myself out of it.

I do hope things get easier for you.

It must be hard for your husband.

I would just save up for the wedding ring it isn't urgent you are married and you don't need a ring to prove it.

Try to stay positive, I still have bad times but I just try to carry on.

I have burnt my bum sitting so close to the fire :rolleyes:

Take care of yourself x x

b4be

CG .. i waited 9 months in n i just for the assesment , and then another few months to get seen , have been refered now here ,and just waiting on call back , i really do hope it not long , just anxious about starting with new doctor etc , i really did have good one over there , just hope i can get comfortable with the new ones , i do hope you get sorted asap aswell ,

not easy in limbo , but the turnabout comes when you realise there is a cause , you are the way you are for a reason and there is always a way to move past it and recover

hugs

crazy_girl

dlm- i hate being a burden on my hubby, he says he doesnt mind but how can he not?

b4be- i hope so, for all of us x

dawn1974

crazy_girl wrote: »

dlm- i hate being a burden on my hubby, he says he doesnt mind but how can he not?

b4be- i hope so, for all of us x

I know you feel a burden but you both took these marriage vows:-

'to have and to hold
from this day forward;
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do part'

He obviously loves you and is wanting to stick by you.

Hope you feel better soon x x

pipkin71

crazy_girl wrote: »

dlm- i hate being a burden on my hubby, he says he doesnt mind but how can he not?

Perhaps because he loves you

It's easy to feel a burden, and live with the guilt that goes alongside it, but partners / family / friends stick by us and help us because they want to, because we mean something to them.

I know it's easy to say 'don't worry about it' and harder to put into practice, but love does hold a strong bond, even through sickness, so please try not to feel a burden, or try not to dwell on it too much.

pipkin71

Sorry to hear how things are for you at the moment RBK.

Hope things will start looking up for you soon.

crazy_girl

i think the hardest thing for hubby is that we are gettign to that age when our mates are having babies and he talks a lot about how he wants to be a dad but im not well enough to look after myself yet let alone a poor little baby im a !!!!!!!g terrible wife

dawn1974

crazy_girl wrote: »

i think the hardest thing for hubby is that we are gettign to that age when our mates are having babies and he talks a lot about how he wants to be a dad but im not well enough to look after myself yet let alone a poor little baby im a !!!!!!!g terrible wife

How old are you CG?

I am 35 and have not had children for various reasons.

One of the reasons is my health.

Tell your hubby that you will have his baby as long as he knows that he will probably end up looking after you both.

If he can cope with the pressure have the baby.

It might give you a reason to live x x

pipkin71

dlm wrote: »

If he can cope with the pressure have the baby.

It might give you a reason to live x x

I'm not sure that's wise dlm.

Pregnancy puts a great strain on the body - both physically and mentally.

crazy_girl, I can understand why you would feel this way, especially knowing that your OH would like to have a baby.

You don't say how old you are, but perhaps if you concentrate on getting better, then the time to think about babies will follow.

Have you discussed this with your OH? What does he say?

We all make choices in life, and your OH is standing by you, because he wants to.

Sending ((((HUGS)))) your way.