Weekly Flylady Thread 5th January 2009

Valli

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Not meaning to be cheeky, but a Wii is not exactly cheap is it ? Maybe they are not so much poor (or maybe they are) but want the children to see Christmas as about more than expensive gifts! We are Christians and although DS gets presents he will be taught that it is not just about expensive gifts! Perhaps they view you and your family as 'different' too. As I said not meaning to be nasty, just giving a different slant to it all!

Surely none of us can really pass comment on this family (other than possibly Valli as she seems to know them) ? We don't know them, their Church or anything else! Perhaps she is just shy, or that she is not used to being at others houses and not meaning to be rude- just not sure what to say/do.

No I am just trying to point out that her family have different values, as is their right, and she has been coming here, and visiting another friend for a long time, sleepovers etc. It's just the walking out without a goodbye or a thank you I can't understand. That happens every time... As I say her parents chat and are friendly, though the dad more than the mum and as their son/brother is so ill I accept that they are stressed - he will be almost at his life expectancy now...

Justamum

pigpen wrote: »

Well.. DD1 had her friends sent home after I discovered they had taken a bottle of smirnoff ice each... I don't CARE what they are allowed at home they are 17 and 15 and my girl is 14 and I am simply and absolutely NOT having it. Am I not just the most evil, oppressive narrow-minded molly coddling parent EVER!!?? :rolleyes: ..

No, you are an extremely caring, sensible parent. I'd do the same thing.

vanilla

Liberty well done on quitting smoking, i've been of them now since the end of october and i've never felt better (health wise) but i do use the patchs and without them i'm still a nightmare.

Lil_me big hugs and cry it all out of ya.

Pigpen you done the right thing, shame the 17yo parent didn't care.

I remember going to a house party at 14 (parents didn't know they thought i was away for a walk with next door neighbours daugther) i had to be back at 9, well i got very drunk and it ended up with me being taken to the out of hours doctor and then on to A&E. I remember being at the docs and i could hear every word that was said and knew exactly what was going on round me but i couldn't move or talk (i now think i was probably spiked as one of the people there would be the type to do it) needless to say when i got home i was grounded for 6 months and boy was i in trouble. To this day i don't get drunk and i keep a very close eye on my drink, actually i very rarely drink at all now.

Right since last post i've done very little except washing as my sister and bil showed up.

I had a temp filling fall out before christmas and now i'm in agony with it, so need to get an appointment for that as soon as possible. Must check what kind of painkillers i can take.

Right cuppa before i put these wee ones to bed...

Justamum

JennyBee wrote: »

dear god...it can go in the dishwasher (shuddering)

Some people drink their own wee so obviously don't think it's 'dirty' :eek::eek:

lil_me

Soappie, thank you, I knew you'd know what I mean it's not the first ex to emerge but at least the other one cleared off down to Nottingham eventually, miles away! I'm not so much thinking about him as in what if we were together or even getting back with him, it's more I gave myself a hard time thinking I wasn't good enough etc for years. Medicinal G&T would be great as I have no Gs or Ts left in, but I might have an A and L later on *Archers and Lemon* for now, it's Ben and Jerry's icecream! Admit in a way it was nice him saying he knew now he'd made a big mistake which was his loss and not mine (He's now a single Dad of 2, one of which isn't his, in fact I don't know if either are, because of the trollop he eventually went off with!)

toots, that sounds like a good idea. I don't feel comfortable her coming here to meet her either. ((hugs)) for you missing your Dad too, I've always been a Daddy's girl (I can't type that without making myself cry!) I don't feel like I a betraying Mam, she's got fellas she's been seeing too, it's just weird! Wish I'd met her before all these plans came about but she's never been up here with him as far as I am aware.
Valli looks like a wonderful place, I love walking places like that, challenging walks too but I get scared stiff when there is a big drop!

Speaking of demanding children, DS2s eaten 2 of DS1s toys, well chewed them, everything goes in his mouth at the minute which is so annoying, it's like having a teething baby. One I have replaced as I have a spare, second one I need to hunt for as it came as part of a set. Pokemon DS pen, but it's proper pen size, DS2s eaten the ends off it.....little pest!

Oh and Soappie, the kitchen and the garden make that a winner for me! The little slope up to somewhere to sit/write/think.....ahhhh! If you move there I am coming for holidays please....:o

toottifrootti

soappie wrote: »

Very nice Valli but, having a quick butchers at the same estate agents - this one

here

would suit me better.

Money being no object of course!

and the flyladies could come and stay in the holiday cottage - brilliant idea soappie - hope you have done the lottery tonight!!!!
toots xx

Liberty9515

lil_me wrote: »

Pigpen, I would have told the parents too. I drank at that age, I didn't live at home but I wouldn't have dreamed of taking from someone elses house.
Penny hope your DS has a wonderful time
Mudbath pleased you had a good and very MSE time. I agree sometimes it feels like MSE way isn't fun, but I have realised the other side of it now with being able to spend when I do want to
g&b I think you should get your DH to give his bank permission to discuss his account with AnW'sMum and let her give them hell if he won't
OJK I'm not married, have 2 children, smoke and drank under age sorry.

Brief explanation of yesterday evenings upset etc, I can't explain on Facebook because DP will have one of his hissy fits. I've had an ex get back in touch, basically it all ended rather messy many years ago, I was told and pressumed he was a cheating shibag. I finds out 13 years later he didn't. It's quite a strange feeling, ever since then I've not trusted any males completely because of that, first person to cheat on me, I mainly wonder if I'd known if my choices since would have been different, if I'd have given myself less of a hard time over it. It's so weird 'talking' to him again even if it's online, really never thought I would ever speak to him again. I'll be honest last night I cried for hours, what ifs rattling through my head at a serious rate of speed but I also left that relationship into a situation where I was burgaled and attacked so memories of that came flooding back, we lived together, yes I was VERY young considering I moved out over 13 years ago from his house. We also upset a lot of people when we were together, including my parents, told you this was complicated, he was my friends ex aswell which never went down great. I also got told he was with me to annoy her which hurt, but he says isn't true. All together it's really strange, I don't know what I think and plan to avoid him until I figure what is what in my head. DP would just fly off the handle if he knew I'd even spoken to him, men don't realise women go through different emotional crap to them, I needed these answers but they were not ones I expected which has knocked me for 6 a little bit. Exs aside (If there was a pools on facebook I might win something!!) My Dad came over today, told me he's moving out of the house he shares with my Mam into his new GFs house in 4 weeks, that's all a bit weird too. Feel like I am on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster this weekend. Me and Dad have always been quite close (I moved out of home young because me and Mam clash but Dad was gutted) and he's moving about 80 miles away, not used to being that far away, I've never met his GF and think I will probably be too uncomfortable with it to visit him there. Pah relationships are gastly things.

Right, emotional crap aside (DPs now gone to work so I can cry again tonight! :rotfl: ) like I said more productive day than I thought, high emotion times I do usually get more done. I have made dinner which has just been finished, got some B&J comfort food for afters defrosting a bit (my freezer makes it too stiff ) then I think it's bath/bed time for 2 hyper children who are annoying each other and me!

I need my PJs and comfort food diet will have to wait.....

Big hugs lil me!((((())))
Comfort food sounds like the order of the day!:D

soappie

toottifrootti wrote: »

and the flyladies could come and stay in the holiday cottage - brilliant idea soappie - hope you have done the lottery tonight!!!!
toots xx

Of course flyladies (and gents!) could come and stay in the holiday cottage. And there'd be enough spare bedrooms to do a couple for B&B. But, sadly, I've not bought a ticket this week. But, there's always next week!

soappie

lil_me wrote: »

The little slope up to somewhere to sit/write/think.....ahhhh! If you move there I am coming for holidays please....:o

Of course you can!

Valli

OddjobKIA wrote: »

LIKE you in my house you live by my rules and underage drinking is similar to genocide in my book...same as smoking, drugs and underage sex (actually i don't agree with sex out of marriage but its leagal but im still allowed my view)..

Draconian I might be but im draconian with a smile.....

I agree - I'm not married and I don't have sex :rotfl: (see Toots) cos I haven't got a partner ***sigh***
DS announced he might stay over with GF but won't do anything because of what her mum and I would say - said it wouldn't be worth the hassle!:rotfl::rotfl:
It WOULD NOT...

pigpen wrote: »

There are worse things than draconian... overly 'liberal' and unprotective, uncaring parents!.. :mad:

Go Pigpen - I'm in your gang defo...

pigpen wrote: »

which reminds me.. my son (when very young.. 5-6) had a friend and I caught them seeing who could pee over a car!!!!

And furthest across the road.. they were meant to be in the garden!!

:eek:
er who won?