The Giving Up Smoking Thread!! Part 2

stroppy

ameliarate wrote: »

My head has been filled with cigarette thoughts all day, I didn't particularly want a ciggie but just couldn't do anything but think about them.

This is really so hard but I am afraid if I don't stop this time I never will so I will hang on in there and get to the end somehow.

I can do it, I will do it.

This is me tonight too......after a pretty easy day tonight I am sooo wanting one....aaarrrghhh!
Kids played up,dinner went wrong,feel narky and irritable....want bed but its only 9 :eek:
mixed emotions.....not really felt great yet,still waiting for that !....love not smoking but also hate it :mad: Oh dear I fear a meltdown coming on :eek:

Serves me right for feeling so smug earlier!
Now Breathe .......

mizzbiz

ameliarate wrote: »

It certainly is, I have just come very close to ripping OHs head off for no reason except that he seems to be taking this stopping smoking in his stride whilst I am struggling, especially today. He is brilliant with me. My head has been filled with cigarette thoughts all day, I didn't particularly want a ciggie but just couldn't do anything but think about them.

This is really so hard but I am afraid if I don't stop this time I never will so I will hang on in there and get to the end somehow.

I can do it, I will do it.

I was like this yesterday! My OH is also taking it in his stride but it's all I could think about. We just sat on the sofa, me seething about stupid things like him not mentioning tea (?) when I was starving! I could have really walloped him one a few times and not felt the slightest bit bad. I've told him today how close he came and he thinks it's really funny. My new nick name is Radge-packet:rotfl:

I'm not so bad today at all tbh. A lot easier than last night, it must be down to all the OJ and grapes i've had today. Also i'm stuffed full with pasta so I don't have that needy, longing feeling.

Well done Ameliorate on getting this far. Have you read Allen Carrs book, Easyway? Just that it's worth a read about the 'hanging on in there' feeling. I finished it today it really has made a difference to persuade myself that i'm not actually depriving myself of anything and that it does nowt for me. I'm still getting cravings though, don't get me wrong. I came out of morrissons today and reached into my pockets and was so disappointed when I had to re-remember that I no longer smoke. It's going to take a bit of getting used to. TBH, this did make me laugh a ilttle though!

feedumall

hi all thinking back ,i knew i had cracked it when i had a dream where i bought a packet of cigs :eek: and was smoking :eek: was so relieved when i woke up and realised i hadn't:D ,i had some really bad days when nicotina was pulling at me,but kicked it into touch and am so glad i did. my weakest time was after i had put shopping away ,that was coffee and cig time ,just coffee time now .i thank sue uu for her help she kept me sane and i really didn't want to let her down.All you quitters or want to be smoke freers it can be done and in two weeks i will have been a non smoker for a year :j ,that's as of today 7,020 cigs not smoked 1,755 pounds not gone up in smoke now that's what i call a result:D :j

Sue-UU

Such great news about a thoroughly good night's sleep whathavewedone, I'm sure I was as delighted for you as you were! I'd be the same if needing to get up in the night though, wide awake after for sure. Whenever you get 'knocked sideways' for any reason in the future and are tempted, remember it's partly your 3 yr old little treasure that you're doing it for, it'll help you keep that strength up! PS. A great idea and attitude re other smokers!!!

You drive us all as mad as you like from next week on Mimi,so long as you make it at the end is all we're interested in. Give us any good news of your feelings as well as bad, it all helps drive things home to you. You get rid of all your frustrations with the bad posts, and sink in the importance of your happy feelings in the good ones. I was terrified at the prospect of being on my own in the house during the week while my DH was at work when I quit, I was also unable to go out (health reasons) but in the end I even focused on battling it a little easier because all the hours I was alone I was doing it for DH and our young treasures. A bit like housework, I can always work faster and achieve more when alone. I love having them here, but at times it helped when they weren't! A bit like when you're waiting for someone to arrive home, they know they're safe, but whoever's waiting for them doesn't. Imagine your OH wondering if you're getting through the day ok...and make sure you KNOW you are, but are keeping each successful day as a real surprise for the family to come home to. :j Sounds a little Irish (forgive me any Irish posters!) but it certainly worked for me, try to get it to do so for you!

I just know you're doing so well this time Naomi, it almost shines out of you and comes across in all your posts to others too. Congratulations so far!! :T BTW, why don't you too put the amount of days, weeks etc on the title bar of your posts, I have a hopeless memory - though I remember I gave up smoking and that you have too!!! Bless your little one with his beautiful remark, what a compliment that made me shed a tear.

Oh ameliarate, I was absolutely delighted at your news, many congratulations on that blissful first 24 hours!!!! Learn to believe in yourself more, we all have more in us than we think at the most important times, we have the strength it takes to get us through all this IF we learn how to use it. Read through the part above that I wrote to Mimi, about when OH's are at work.

Excellent news helnag!!! Don't start to doubt yourself due to past problems, focus on those little sweeties and all those you hold dear, it's that which gets you through the darker seconds - and I say seconds as they so quickly pass by if you allow them to. Deep breathing, exercise and plenty of water ...with all the strength necessary! I'm delighted for you, keep it up and look ahead to a week and beyond! You have us all now, don't forget us!

Jon, if it's luck you want, you'll make that yourself, I'm sure, from me you have all my very best wishes for a smooth journey and a very successful life after reaching your destination! So, all being well, if you make it until 8.30 in the morning, it will have been your first 24 hours - a day right? All the best Jon. PS. Just read your last post, you've done extremely well and well done with the breathing, it's so very important and will get you through such times almost effortlessly. Well done with keeping busy too, onward Jon!

Brilliant news Stroppy!!! You weren't babbling either, simply typing your feelings out which is good for you. For the sleeping why don't you too try the "Kalms", I think you'll find it's just what you're looking for and is natural no chemicals or anything like that. It really is true what you say about your smoking friends being the ones to understand, partly because they want you to lead the way for them, also non smokers have no idea what it's like for us, they just can't do! Well done with the drinking, now how about stepping up the walking or exercise of any sort, it does both jobs at the same time! Keep hold of that strong feeling! See how you've also helped Ameliarate too!!! PS. Re your last post - don't you dare go into a meltdown please, you've come a long way already and any day now you'll be feeling much better and be passed that evil stage! Hold onto how that smug feeling was achieved stroppy, keep it in mind, every little bit of it and feel how happy you were, then breathe deeply in and out and let that de-stress you and help calm you to let you know you too CAN win!

Almost a month maccababe, very well done indeed - BUT - 24 jaffa cakes wolfed in about 20 mins??!!!! :eek:Who's doing great at quitting, but forgetting to drink water for the cravings as well as filling you up to stop the food intake?! Who's also forgetting to eat fruit which also acts for both! As soon as you get a craving walk away from the kitchen/food stash and go upstairs as many times as you wish til it passes - and it will, then repeat with the next. It'll work for the weight and the cravings at the same time.

Brilliant news Pixie and so many congratulations on such a wonderful achievement!!! So chuffed to hear you're feeling so good too, I'm thrilled to bits for you!!

Well done on day 2 mizzbiz!!! The following sentence <<<"Deidre Barlow's voice from Corra is also a bit of a warning sign that I ned to quit. Id die if I sounded like that">>> is certainly a good one to keep in mind to put anyone off!!! Keep in mind all the others whathavewedone has put on too, things like that help so very much. PS. Your attitude in your last post is great, though I giggled out loud about you and your OH!! Keep laughing at yourself mizzbiz, it makes you feel much better. Yes, it's brilliant when you keep forgetting you're a non smoker!!!

You've got it ameliarate, <<<"I can do it, I will do it.">>> THAT is the sentence to keep on and on repeating to yourself and let your OH's attitude guide you rather than you fight his success off. PLEASE don't forget water and fruit and exercise, it'll make things so much easier to get you through. You CAN do it and you WILL do it!!!!

WOW feedumall, what a saving with cigs AND money, but then take all those fags and their smoke out of your lungs which YOU'VE done and oh how pink they must be now!!! You've just demonstrated how we all had stumbling blocks but by using our inner strength, which everyone of us possesses, it really is possible for us all to win - IF - we want to!!! Thanks so much for that inspiring post feedum, we need you at the moment so please come back soon!!

What a relatively good day for all, let's hope for the best out of today too. To quote ameliarate's words and Lula's (another very successful quitter) You CAN do it and you WILL do it!! Whatever you feel about the cravings (your words eh Naomi?) they won't kill you, nor will quitting!

Sue

whathavewedone

Hello everybody, good to hear most of us are in a positive frame of mind. Keep going Stroppy, soon your body will be weaned off nicotine - you should feel a lot better in a week or two.

I am going to step down to medium strength patches next week, then the ultra low ones then come off them completely. I think after a month I'll be sufficiently used to not smoking to be able to cope with minor nicotine withdrawal symptoms.

My teeth look so white today! I'm really glad I had them cleaned. By now they would normally be going a bit yellow again but because I'm not smoking and brushing them several times a day you wouldn't know I ever smoked to look at them.

I think Deidre Barlow had throat cancer a few years ago and had to have part of her larynx removed which is why her voice sounds like that. And she still smokes...lets face it none of us want to be in that position do we?

Watched 10 years younger last night and the week before, the women who smoked were horrendously lined at 54 and 61, far worse than my mother who is 72 (who has smoked in her life but gave up in her early 40s)

ameliarate

I thought last night was bad, this morning worse. All I want to do is cry, which I can't do because I am at work. It has been really busy the past few weeks and today it has gone really quiet, which doesn't help.

I don't think I am going to get through today without a cigarette unless something in my brain clicks me back to positive mode.

mumofcookers

Yesterday was awful for me, when I wasn't craving one I was still thinking about cigarettes.

I really hope today is better.
A lot of people have said the first 72 hours are the hardest, I just hope they are right!
On the plus side after my shower this morning my hair still smells of the conditioner I used and not of cigarettes!

I hope everyone has a good day.

MimiJane

You don't NEED that "one cigarette" Ameliarate, so please don't do it :eek: You know your brain is trying to trick you into thinking you need one, but you know better! You don't want to have to go back to square one and have to go through all this again when you've got this far and soon you'll be over this horrible addiction and so proud of yourself ...

Besides, I need you to get through this and be an example to me when I give up next week ... I'll need all the support I can get, so PLEASE DON'T LET ME DOWN!!! More importantly, don't let yourself down, you're doing so well ...

x

MimiJane

mumofcookers : You're doing brilliantly When I've given up in the past, I'd say once you've got through those first few days, you're over the worst. You obviously think about it a lot of the time, but don't get the severe cravings you did initially and it's more a case of learning to disassociate "having a fag" at the times you used to.

I spent most of last night coughing my guts up and feeling disgusted with myself. I'm actually looking forward to finishing the Allen Carr book, but terrified at the same time.

My partner's gone to a funeral this morning ... a guy in his early 50's who we know from a pub we used to go to. He died from lung cancer and was a heavy smoker. His brother died a year ago, same thing. Now if that isn't an incentive ...

x

ameliarate

MimiJane wrote: »

You don't NEED that "one cigarette" Ameliarate, so please don't do it :eek: You know your brain is trying to trick you into thinking you need one, but you know better! You don't want to have to go back to square one and have to go through all this again when you've got this far and soon you'll be over this horrible addiction and so proud of yourself ...

Besides, I need you to get through this and be an example to me when I give up next week ... I'll need all the support I can get, so PLEASE DON'T LET ME DOWN!!! More importantly, don't let yourself down, you're doing so well ...

x

Thank you. That has really helped. Went to staff canteen for a coffee and burst into tears on a colleague/friend. Sent text to OH and he rang me straight away and has just calmed me down. Everyone is being great.

Thing about it is, I was beginning to doubt that I even wanted to stop but clearly I want to stop or I would have just gone and had one.

This is a very strange learning curve for me, I have never got as far along as this before.