The Giving Up Smoking Thread!! Part 2

graemecarter

shimmershelly wrote: »

Oh, I might as well start again right now then.
Thanks for the advice but I am doing fine thank you, I'm not treating it like a game, I'm a grown woman and I will do what I like. You can't tell me I wouldn't get a craving anyway in a week/month/year if I hadn't done it, I'm sure I probably will still get the odd one. So far I have had no desire to smoke, in fact I hardly ever think about it now.
I'm expecting it to be difficult when I hit 3 months, as that's when my DH had his blip (that he's now over), he gave up on 02/01.09.
I'm not going to get complacent ever about stopping, but maybe I have a bit more will power than you credit me with.

I appreciate that. I would hate to see someone slip and start smoking just out of a curiosity if "they missed smoking"

You say you won't get complacent, but in your previous post you said that after 3 years you are out of the danger zone.
Maybe that will be the case with you, but I did 3 yrs 3 months once without anything, and then one drag got me back to 20 a day for another few years.

graemecarter

SandC wrote: »

That was a little harsh Graeme, we're here to support each other remember. It's only because of the support that people feel they are able to admit to their blips.

All ex smokers know, as current smokers do that no coercing from anybody else will have any effect on doing what you want to do, so it's counter productive to give a lecture!

I support her fully in not smoking. I cannot support her in having a puff.

I am not going to reinforce the behaviour that having the occasional drag is a good thing, regardless if it is counter-productive or not.

I am on anyone's side for stopping smoking, and it angers me when they have a puff

mazza111

You may not support her in having a little puff. However there is no need to criticize her for it either, please try to remember this thread is supposed to be about us supporting each other. If I had criticism like that when I had my little blip it would have been enough as put me right back on the smokes full time. Anyhoo, having a pants day here, could smoke about 20 tonight, been a pants day at work too, so will go have an early night and try n chill those cigs out of my brain. Hopefully Dean Koontz will help take my mind off things

shimmershelly

Other people have had whole fags and he's not having a go at them lol! I don't give a stuff if he's angry with me, as I said I'm a grown woman, criticise away if it makes you feel better about your slip ups to have a rant at me. I'm well aware of what I stand to lose if I start again.
I don't need his support anyway, I have the rest of you (((hugs))).

Guess what...I've been running!!! (twice now). I'm taking advantage of my new fully working lungs and I'm going to get fit, I'm going to try and do the couch to 5K. Last time I ran I was at school!!

little_lily

I just wanted to support graemecarter in what he said, if not necessarily the way he said it! I have been quit since December 3rd, so nearly five months. However, I have reached the five month mark before - only to succumb to the 'just one drag won't hurt' trick.

The problem is, that one drag DOES taste horrible - it actually nearly made me physically sick it was so vile. Which was why, two weeks later, I felt OK to have another drag. My mind was saying 'it's fine to have the odd puff because you didn't enjoy it and so there's no way you'll go back to being a smoker'

I am sure you can guess the rest - lulled into a false sense of security, and not realising that each time I had 'just one drag' it got less and less digusting, the occasional drag became the occasional cigarette and before I knew it I was smoking every darn day again.

To be honest, I wish someone had given me a real kick up the backside a la graemecarter. I was so busy telling myself that it was OK because it tasted foul and that there was no way I would ever become a smoker again I didn't notice that was exactly what I was becoming.

Don't shoot me down - I sometimes think that we need tough love if we are to quit and stay quit. How many of us have tried to quit in the past only to fail after 'just one drag'. I think that that is all graemecarter was trying to say.

SandC

Fair point lily.

I know how dangerous it is too. I mean after all, we worked really hard at getting ourselves to smoke when we first tried it didn't we? Who actually thought that first drag, first ciggie was nice? Yet we went back for more didn't we - that's how quick the nicotine gets us.

Scary stuff eh?

I have just had a chat with a colleague and she asked me how I was doing and she said she is getting to the point where she is thinking of stopping for good. It's strange when you get to that point isn't it? There's no particular reason for why it is at that time but it is just is so we have to just give it a go. She had switched to roll ups some time ago so she says it isn't even the money as it's currently costing her about £5 per week, so this is a good sign from her. She has the Allen Carr book and it didn't work this time she read it but she's preparing herself for giving it another go.

feedumall

hi all have to agree with what is being said el nicotina is one nasty peace of work :eek:avoid avoid avoid:D.i am a non smoker wont smoke again have you seen the price:eek:madness sheer madness ,the goverment gets enough of my money already thank you very much:mad:.yes you can put on weight i to made food my friend:o,but thanks to wii fit and salad i am over a stone lighter:j.keep it up people i have been smoke free for almost fourteen months and so glad i quit xx feed

mazza111

Think that's the thing tho, what works for one doesn`t work for others. We were human, we slipped up, I still count it as 3 weeks off the fags even though i had 2 in that time. Shelly is still counting although she had her 2 puffs in that time. Certain triggers may put ppl back on them for a puff or just to try it, some people deal with criticism well, others don't. I'm one who wouldn't, after all we know we've let ourselves down, and we are the only people we have let down the hardest iykwim.

Anyhow, back to smoking cessation class tonight. to let them all know i've stopped losing weight, maybe they won't all hate me so much now

mumoffour77

12 days I think............(yeah I went off them on the Sat)
I would love one but im not spending £6 on a packet
The hardest part was walking into the house and one of the sparks had obviously had a sneaky fag in the extension, I walked down and said I have just gone of cigs I would hope that there is no one smoking here as I am finding it quite hard to cope, he apologised........he has seen me smoking outside when he first came to the house but I never smoked inside the house!! I can still smell it!!
Spoke to the foreman today and he has told everybody if they smoke they have to smoke at least 10 meters away from the house he said he understood how I felt and that he had seen me smoking outside!! And couldnt believe that the spark smoked inside the house!! But its sorted out now:D

larmy16

mazza111 wrote: »

Just back from the pool to make up for my abysmal week on my diet, am absolutely beat now. Still, you can't think about smoking while your in water can you That part has been really easy for me tbh, it's the finding something to do with my hands and getting out the habit of looking for my smokes. Get in the car, look for cigs, sit down at desk, look for cigs. I am getting better at not looking for them though. Am sure we'll get there one day

I asked a friend going to Morocco to get me some worry beads. They really help with the need to be doing something with your hands. Not when driving though!:D

The other day I was walking home from work and Nick was whispering in my ear "Just One" - and I was answering "P9ss off you Fcnking Barsted" "You are a fcking liar!!!!" and all sorts of abusive things to the vile demon. He is hassling me this morning too. "Just go get some tobacco (smoked roll ups), have a few and then you can give up again on Monday!"

What a scheming no good liar! It helps me to see it (the addiction) as a him who is intent on wrestling me to the ground and making me smoke. He wants to kill me!!!! That is how serious I see smoking. So if Graeme sounded judgemental it is probably because he knows how deadly this smoking business is. Nicotine wants the control and some people have to stay on guard.

I know a couple who were real chain smokers. Their doc got fed up of them and told them to quit the fags, which they did, and they have never smoked since!!!!

I on the other hand, what you would call a light smoker with long long spells of stopping, have an absolute torment in the psychological attatchment I have to the blasted git!!!!