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The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

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  • GreyPilgrim
    GreyPilgrim Posts: 1,636 Forumite
    If it's a snowman, its not showing up too well against the white background mate...

    :)
  • budget_babe
    budget_babe Posts: 1,633 Forumite
    Hi everyone,

    Sorry to hear that alot of you have colds, not staying long as it seems to be catching. :j Hugs to you. xxx

    Polaroid hope things are a little better today for you? Take care hugs xxx

    Had half a day off work today, finished at lunchtime thought crossed my mind of buying a bottle of red wine? Hm problem is I seem to be falling out with Mr BB. Anyway I haven't and listened to my chakra clearing cd instead, only problem was I dosed off during the track. Never mind, just wish my Allen Carr book would arrive.
    So Winebox when you do totals tomorrow can you put me down for 5 afd please. Hugs xxx

    Still sleeping badly my Paul Mckenna sleep cd is in the same parcel as Allen Carr, so keen to get started on both.

    So please take care everyone and keep safe and warm, catch you later.
    Love and Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
    P.s no yoga for me tonight due to the snow, never mind I have eastenders.
    Cherish the ones you love and travel back on the road that brings you home :)
    "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us" Ralph Waldo Emerson :A
  • Snow day - no work done, etc messing around as usual - bit stressed tonight - however - there is nowt in house but a long bit of editing to do and a bottle of af wine.

    To keep myself busy and not stress out so much is my plan for tonight.
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  • http://www.stayingcyber.org/

    Just popping in and wanted to post the above which I found while looking for sea... - aa online which my help some...keep up the good work pepys! hugs for you!
    Nerd no 109 Long haulers supporters DFW #1! Even in the darkest moments, love and hope are always possible.

  • biscotte
    biscotte Posts: 246 Forumite
    off to bed now (we're an hour ahead so it has actually turned 10!) so Winebox that's 5/5 for me now :j
    Have agood evening everyone - Ihope the tV is good!
  • Sea78
    Sea78 Posts: 6,185 Forumite
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    hi all

    God this is so much harder than i thought it would be. I didn't drink last night due to feeling so rotten and hungover, but tonight I have the biggest craving ever. I've not bought wine though and can't go out as I have the kids. Still surprises me that it is such a strong feeling - really shows how much it's a habit now. And also that I feel really quite lonely at night and bored, and so drink due to that too - not that that justifies it, but helps me to work out what my triggers are and how I might go about battling this.

    I am off out tomorrow night for meal and drinks with friends, so I've done 2 days this month so far, which is better than nothing.

    With regards to the drunk dialling, my mobile phone no longer has a call register - it broke about a year ago, and I also have the awful habit of wiping EVERYTHING before I go to bed, so inbox is deleted, as are sent messages. So I have no clue who I ring/text etc. I also delete people's numbers so I'm not tempted to ring, but once drunk go to great lengths to then get these numbers back.

    Bought myself some chocolate covered raisins in place of wine (had to go get the bread and milk I needed from the petrol station as it's the only place round here that doesn't sell alcohol) and picked them up, but since drinking so much more, my sweet tooth has just disappeared.

    I think I'm going to head off to bed now as at least then it'll be morning soon. Sounds so pathetic, eh?

    Big hugs to you all - hope you're all ok

    Sea xxxxxxx
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  • eselt
    eselt Posts: 604 Forumite
    Hi all- seems things have gone a bit flat and people are really struggling since the excitement of AFJ. But guess what?? You are all doing great, and you should be proud of yourselves, cause everyone on here is proud of you, and most of us know how hard this is- I keep reminding myself, it took me 20 yrs to get into a state and I've gotta expect to take more than 13 months to get out of it- I'm a work in progress, its a brave new (AF) world out there and it was because I couldn't cope with that in the first place that I drank so much, and living with vivid reality everyday is hard, but I know the easy option (eg. drink yourself out of it) DOES NOT HELP< IT DOES NOT CHANGE A THING. As Bis says constant vigilence, but I dont mind that, because I don't want my kids to have an alcoholic mother, and I don't want to die an early painful death that will devastate them either, I don't want them to be scared because I am unpredicatable, asleep, or embarrass them, or aggressive for no reason- I don't want them to be sitting in front of a psychologist years down the line having to work through the devastating effect my alcoholism has had on them. I will do this, I will, I will, I will.

    Best of luck tonight everyone- fingers crossed for you all.
  • fedupandskint
    fedupandskint Posts: 10,358 Forumite
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    Good for you Eselt and hang in there Sea, you'll get there if you want to.

    WB hope you are ok doing the scoring and can you put me down for 5/5!

    Maybe even try an AF Friday for the first time in I don't know how long!
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  • Evening,

    Had a small glass of wine after work tonight, so that's just 3/5 AF so far. Wanted more but switched to coffee instead.

    Eselt- thanks for your motivating words. Will keep these in my head over the weekend.

    No computer access the next 2 days, so over and out til Sunday. Have a great weekend. xx
  • jo1972 wrote: »
    Feeling melancholy today and having 'why the hell do I do it' thoughts...

    We do it because we are alcoholics. It is an illness and the symptom is relapse. So we stop drinking, we just cannot stay stopped.

    This should be an incentive not to drink. :T
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