Depression Support Thread

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shazrobo wrote: »

happy birthday jo_r

hugs
shaz x

Ooooo happy birthday any cake going? see I knew there was a party going on, ok I'll accept my invite got lost in the post, but hey save me a slice of cake.

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Tiff wrote: »

Hi s!

I'm hoping you're well hun - great news on mil's recovery btw! It just goes to show that it's never over until the fat Tiff sings!

I hope you won't mind but I felt I had to comment on something in your post below, replying to 98jd.

My initial reaction was..... - .....and I thought I was going to have to give you a Tiffy slap and put you on the naughty step. However, your very last words have saved you, hunnie.

Please guys, don't waste your time in going on the interweb and filling in any of the 50,000 questionnaires you may find. I say this because you'll find a whole range of the darn things and one site might say that you're a very happy bunny, whilst another site might tell you to call the Samaritans!

It's always best to go the dr and complete their form because it's the standard that the professionals use to rate a mental ill health problem. The form is filled in very quickly because you have to tick the box that compares to the first thing that entered your head automatically, when you read the question. You're not meant to analyze it or to hesitate, so that your form will give the most accurate picture of what you are feeling. And of course, no matter how hard it is to admit to anything, you have to be completely honest or it won't work.
And yes s, as you said, it is always better to let the dr sort it out.

Hoping her recovery is continuing sweetie and that things are improving for you too. And well done for visiting your bil too! Keep up the good work. Now all you've got to do is get to that chemist!
Safe journeys s.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Hi Tiff, sorry took so long to reply, I was in the naughty corner for the last 5mins

You've worded the thing about questionnaires so much better than me, I agree with you 100%, phew so glad I put the last bit in about 'let the doc sort it out'

Tiff, I've not been around here too long and am only just getting to know you through your posts, gotta say you're one hell of a person, wish there were more people like you in the world.

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beachbeth wrote: »

Ive just emailed her to say Im still meeting her at 1.15 and wish I hadn't now.

Ive lost count of the amount of times Ive cancelled on her because of ill health. Just before Christmas I was supposed to go out to do a little Christmas shopping with her and then something happened that upset me and I was in floods of tears. I had to cancel with her. Then a week later my OH and I were supposed to be going out for an evening meal with her and her OH. Well, my OH had the flu and was too ill and we had to cancel that too. She always emails just before a meeting to make sure Im still coming and haven't forgotten because she is so used to me cancelling or forgetting altogether! I suppose I should explain to her that this is what happens when you have depression.

I have a few chores to do today and also need to wash my hair. I just can't summon up the energy at the moment.

I hope everyone else is ok this morning. Nice to see your posts again, Tiff!

Ok Sssssss going into <selfish mode>, dear beachbeth one thing I've learnt since my depression is look after yourself first and do what is right for you, followed by close and dear loved family members.

If this lunch is upsetting you so much, it's not too late, maybe you could email your friend again with a link to your recent posts. A true freind will understand.

Fingers crossed it works out for you today, please keep us posted.

chardanna

Beachbeth - In my humble opinion, I think letting her see your posts here is a great idea, saves you having to think what to say to her, & lets her see you do care & you do value her friendship but just can't face up to it sometimes, It may give her a better u/standing of how it puts a hold on you - cause I really think no-one will truely u/stand til hey have been though it.

Big Hugs let us know what you decide to do xx

beachbeth

Thanks, Whitevanwoman & Chardanna. I know that I will enjoy it once I get there and so Im just keeping that thought in my head. I will try to explain to my friend so that if I cancel in future at least I know she won't think I don't like her any more!

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chardanna wrote: »

Newbie to this forum & I don't know what to do?......

I'm a bad boy
I'm a bad boy
x100

okay I've done my 100 lines, Hi chardanna I should have said hello and welcome days ago, I was going to and was trying to think what I could say to help with you work situation and then forgot doh!

anyways welcome.

and I do understand about the phones, for ages I had all phones turned off home line and mobile, for a short time when I returned back to work everytime the phone rang I would jump and panic.

Lita_Ford

I lurk a lot but I have read every single post because I wanted to learn so that i could understand and help my friends who are ill with depression but lately it seems that every time there is useful and informative discussion the post get removed. I am sorry but this thread isnt what it used to be. Does anyone know any others where I can lurk and learn?

LadyMorticia

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So, I was practising my photography. I was just wearing my long top and underwear (maybe TMI, but oh well). There's a knock at the door. I'm not expecting anyone but thought maybe my parcel had come. I quickly put on a cardi to make sure my arms cannot be seen (in the process forgetting about my legs), and guess who was at the dor? My dad! One of the people I cannot stand and would go as far as to say I hate - standing right there.
He got the address off of my bloody mother. What gives her the right? I would go as far as to say I hate her too. >.<
And before anyone may say "But you shouldn't hate your parents", I have a right to after what they've put me through.

So, now my dad knows where I live. Oh great! He now also knows my dA username as my laptop was on when he barged his way in.

Sam offered to come and get me, bless him, but he shouldn't have to pick up the pieces of my broken life - not tonight anyway.lol
If he passes his test on Monday then he's going to come and get me then. He says that he wants me to be safe away from all of these people who have hurt me.
I need a new start - as quickly as possible. =/

xx

Savvy_Sue

Lita_Ford wrote: »

I lurk a lot but I have read every single post because I wanted to learn so that i could understand and help my friends who are ill

I would suggest you look at the first post, where Glad has given links to a lot of useful sites where you can get information which might be useful in supporting your friends.

beachbeth

LadyM, there is no law saying you must love or even like your parents. We can't choose our family and its not our fault when we get awful ones. No one would blame you for feeling this way about your parents. I suggest that when you move you don't tell either parent your new address. If your mum says anything just say you can't trust her not to tell your dad.

All the best.