MSE Pregnancy Club IV

angelfairy

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

AF - it's not your problem - you will be on mat leave by then. Anything you don't have time to do you will have to hand over. Simple as that Mind you, my colleagues, boss and bosses boss suddenly realised about a week before I went that I was going, and wouldn't be able to do things for them anymore, so maybe it's normal. I had a big pile of things I said I would do "if I have time", some of which handed some back/onwards. Seeing as I'd told them at 14 weeks I was a bit annoyed that it came as such a shock to everyone

i am just a control freak so am struggling at the minute :mad: :mad:

starting to feel that there is too much that is now out of control. i am SOOOOOO worried about going off on maternity leave, all i have ever done is work (i know i will have a baby to look after and that will be harder than the work i do now).

there are just too many things in my life changing that i do not have control over

feeling very redundant

cazscoob

back to update am so lost with all this chatting lol, went to MW and things have got even worse bp sky high(obviously!) protien in urine, hands swollen and i have had a headache from all the crying??? and i cannot stop shaking??? she stole my blood:mad: and said she will be out tom morning, if things are not any better then she is taking me in???:eek: explained about everything but she said most of it will have nothing to do with whats wrong with me??? he is in panic mode thinking he has done all this.

he has explained he just isnt happy and feels that we are making each other unhappy and kids are picking up on it all. he thinks best to have a break and see how it goes. this was all before i went to MW this aft. now im sorting things in my head i am worried that he is going to force himself to stay when he really doesnt want to? bubbling has stopped for now but who knows, think im in panic mode now. need to go get moses basket stripped and in machine just incase. oh MW also said im 4/5 i still have 5 weeks to go???????

also thanks everyone again your all angels, hypno ill put the kettle on you bring the biccies:o

Sami_Bee

angelfairy wrote: »

i am just a control freak so am struggling at the minute :mad: :mad:

starting to feel that there is too much that is now out of control. i am SOOOOOO worried about going off on maternity leave, all i have ever done is work (i know i will have a baby to look after and that will be harder than the work i do now).

there are just too many things in my life changing that i do not have control over

feeling very redundant

ooh AF you couldn't be less redundant if you tried! you and only you are keeping a little baby alive and growing in your tum :T and if you BF bubs then only you can do that too you are most deffo indispensable

I kinda kno what u mean about work, on my last day before Mat leave I stayed until 7pm so I didn't leave anything half done and I hated going back to show off Chris and realising that they could get on fine without me

bumblebee87_2

elastigirl wrote: »

It's odd although i am bleeding quite a bit it isn't really coming out until i go to the loo. I have a pad on but it only has a tiny bit of blood on it and the clots are about 2cm. I just don't feel pg any more. I think you just know don't you.

I wasn't going to tell any family as my mum is ill one sil has just had a baby and has been rushed back into hospital with an infection as she had a 3rd degree tear and the other one is 4 months pg and having problems also so i didn't want to add to the worry but my mum noticed i kept going to the loo and asked me if i was ok i ended up telling her and while it was a relief it is also a burden as she said she is going to ring me straight after scan tomorrow. She is now worried and i may be too upset to talk to her tomorrow.

thats how mine started, but without any clots, just keep fingers crossed x

bumblebee87_2

myaccount08 wrote: »

Oops i seem to miss so much on this post Sorry you're still having probs with bleeding girls. I've been there and know how scary it is. I believe about 30% of women bleed during early PG and things are often fine. Our beans sure like to worry us eh! I'd just add though, that at 6 weeks you shouldn't pass any clots the size of a golf ball no matter what happens :eek: so if the worry is just too much i'd go to A&E or the EPU. They should be able to confirm if your cervix is shut and if the heart beat is ok. (((hugs))) to you both

i had clots much bigger than that on thursday, so yes, it can happen

i wasnt trying to scare anyone though, sorry

Sami_Bee

Caz I can't think of anything useful to say but try to look after yourself.
I'm thinking it may be a good thing to try to tell kids that mummy and daddy are upset about grown up things or something coz the older ones will be picking up that something is wrong
Big hugs and lots of love xx

My_Fathers_Daughter

Caz - can't imagine how tough things must be for you at the moment. You are one strong lady. I have a pack of flaming hot monster munch...do you fancy them?

AF - at some point you will need to give in. Keep going into work at 7.30am and you will be taking maternity leave sooner than you think. I finish 2 weeks before you and I am just starting to say to people that I will not be able to take on any actions that I won't be able to see through. I had a meeting this afternoon and for the first time in over 6 years I walked away with only 2 actions (although 1 was to make 10 phone calls!!)


I think we all secretly hope that our workplaces will fall apart without us but the truth is they won't - although with a bit of luck it might make some people appreciate us more.



(((HUGS))) to all.

MFD xxx

Triggles

It is a bit easy to overdo work prior to maternity leave - I was pushing myself much too hard as I didn't want to let down work, even though I was on reduced hours due to SPD. My physio and midwife finally told me either I got signed off work or they'd insist I was put on complete bedrest. Of course, they made sure this was said in front of DH. He was a bit annoyed and insisted I let them sign me off work.

cazscoob

errr no ill pass on the monster munch lol!!! luckily when i was making kids lunch i stuck stew in the oven am so glad i did now as i really couldnt face standing making dinner??? although it smells good im not sure i could face it???

am i confusing myself is it 1/5 to 5/5(fully engaged) or the other way around??? it never rains but it pours. just off phone to my sister and she has been joking ill have baby on the 20th jan as charlie is the 19th and lewis 21st now thats all i would need:D

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Hi everyone! Its going to take me an age to catch up with you all. Sorry you are bleeding elasti and bumblebee. I too have some but I am still throwing up and my scan was fine so I am very hopeful. I hope both you guys will be fine. Caz - I havent read your post but you are clearly upset from what I can glean. I hope it all works out for the best I really do XX

I have had my 12 week scan date through the post today which is for the 11th Feburary. I am so excited!!! Also amazed as I havent even had my booking in appointment yet - that't not till 20th!

Just a quick question for those expecting number 2 or more. My little one was 1 last week and we were looking at him spread out in the cot and there is less than 6 inches left in it space wise after he has laid the length. This sealed the deal for us and we are going to buy him a bed when little one comes in August and put the new baby in his cot. I have been looking at duvets (as he is waking a lot at the mo and is cold) does anyone know how many blankets a 4 tog equates to?? He currently has a sheet and 3 cellular blankets.