Income Support Paid Into Old Account - No Money!

kendalls_cave

No doctor in the world would advocate a pregnancy when you allegedly have such severe depression that not only do you need to cease work and claim benefits but your 'husband' also needs to move in specifically to care for both you and your child

I quite agree with this - I too have severe depression, and have been told to not get pregnant cos the risk of PD is just too high with already have a mental illness. I could end up with worse MH than I have now permanently and unable to care for my baby. It's hard I know, but you at least already have one. sort yourself out so you can look after them properly

Eagle_1

omg, this is laughable :rotfl:

Look if you cant give the OP helpful advice why bother replying ? From asking advice about money we are now on the OP sex life.............hilarious

looby75

Eagle_1 wrote: »

omg, this is laughable :rotfl:

Look if you cant give the OP helpful advice why bother replying ? From asking advice about money we are now on the OP sex life.............hilarious

to make themselves feel superior of course :rolleyes:

I can't find ANY other possible explanation, not on this board anyway

Boppy_2

viktory wrote: »

Firstly, the tax payer gave you what the Government said you need to live on. Not their fault that it was swallowed entirely by your unauthorised overdraft and the resultant charges, is it?

Secondly, no one suggested that your 'illness' will stop you from being a 'damn good mother' - although depression so severe that you need a full time carer is certainly going to impact on your mothering abilities.

No doctor in the world would advocate a pregnancy when you allegedly have such severe depression that not only do you need to cease work and claim benefits but your 'husband' also needs to move in specifically to care for both you and your child. With the risk of PND being so high, there is no way either of you can argue that this is the right course of action - and the best way for you to start to get well again. Does your 'husband' really have your best interests at heart? If he did he would not have willingly impregnanted you. Not to mention the fact that you cannot afford to feed and clothe the child you already have - much less another one.

Have you still got the PS3 you were determined not to sell that earlier this year? (after you had started your benefits claim).

Finally, I find the fact that you are having a dig about other people's budgeting skills hilarious!

Oh dear oh dear what a life you have if the first thing you did this morning was come on here to read up where you left off, although you did say you wasn't going to bother coming back on.

I aren't even going to comment on your cruelness regarding my husband and my best interests, that is just ridiculous! There is more to this pregnancy than I have told because to put it bluntly it has !!!!!! all to do with any of you, my life I didn't come to be judged on, I asked for advice on Income Support, not my money management, not the problems I have faced in life and most certainly not my sex life :rotfl:

I will say one thing though, where the hell have I said I cannot feed or clothe my son? I think you will find my son has a very healthy diet and fair enough he isn't kitted out in designer clothes but his clothes are clean, they fit him and he is comfortable!!

The PS3 we no longer have no, were you planning on buying me one for Christmas or something?? :rolleyes:

Boppy_2

Eagle_1 wrote: »

omg, this is laughable :rotfl:

Look if you cant give the OP helpful advice why bother replying ? From asking advice about money we are now on the OP sex life.............hilarious

I must admit I chuckled when I read this and I had my friend read over it last night and she thought it was amusing as well.

Thanks Eagle for your support!

mrcow

looby75 wrote: »

to make themselves feel superior of course :rolleyes:

I can't find ANY other possible explanation, not on this board anyway

I don't think it's a superiority complex......more likely complete frustration.

Some people just don't help themselves, don't learn lessons from their mistakes and seem almost determined to blame anyone else around rather than themselves for the mess they get themselves into. It is frustrating because as adults, the rest of us have to hold our hands up to our mistakes and then pay for them.

We live in a take, take, take society that growingly seems to ask "what can I get now?" "what can I take?" "What can I claim?" "Can I avoid paying this back?". At some stage, you have to stand up and start providing and contributing for your family. Digging yourself in further and then simply demanding that everyone else helps you out each time is not a viable option. If we all deceided to do this, where exactly do you think the money would come from?

It just seems sometimes that some people just don't get that. Maybe we can blame the education system, I think it's definitely something that can be adressed going forward......but again, that's passing the buck once again isn't it. At some stage, the buck has to stop!

Boppy_2

looby75 wrote: »

to make themselves feel superior of course :rolleyes:

I can't find ANY other possible explanation, not on this board anyway

I think what I find most amusing is the fact that this benefit board is for advice and support but some people (no names mentioned ) think it's a great board to voice their opinions. Nevermind, I won't loose any sleep over their thoughts and opinions.

Thanks for the support on this thread Looby it is very much appreciated.

Boppy_2

mrcow wrote: »

I don't think it's a superiority complex......more likely complete frustration.

Some people just don't help themselves, don't learn lessons from their mistakes and seem almost determined to blame anyone else around rather than themselves for the mess they get themselves into. It is frustrating because as adults, the rest of us have to hold our hands up to our mistakes and then pay for them.

We live in a take, take, take society that growingly seems to ask "what can I get now?" "what can I take?" "What can I claim?" "Can I avoid paying this back?". At some stage, you have to stand up and start providing and contributing for your family. Digging yourself in further and then simply demanding that everyone else helps you out each time is not a viable option. If we all deceided to do this, where exactly do you think the money would come from?

It just seems sometimes that some people just don't get that. Maybe we can blame the education system, I think it's definitely something that can be adressed going forward......but again, that's passing the back once again isn't it. At some stage, the buck has to stop!

:rotfl: How is this answering my original post though? If I'd put that I'd split with my husband and the income support had gone into his account instead of my own I wouldn't have had all these insults and digs would I? It wasn't my fault income support got paid into the wrong account, I asked for advice on what would happen, not for everyone to disect my life :rotfl:

mrcow

Boppy wrote: »

:rotfl: How is this answering my original post though? If I'd put that I'd split with my husband and the income support had gone into his account instead of my own I wouldn't have had all these insults and digs would I? It wasn't my fault income support got paid into the wrong account, I asked for advice on what would happen, not for everyone to disect my life :rotfl:

I don't find this funny at all. I think it's ****** tragic that you think it's so hilarious.

I wasn't posting in response to your OP. But to the post I quoted in my response.

And whilst you're sniggering over your situaiton, I'll just remind you that it was you who said that you didn't think you should have to pay back money lent to you in the interim period.

Zara33

Boppy with all due respect you have sorted out your little problem don't add any further fuel to the fire and hopefully the thread will disappear off the front page.