How old before they understand and we have to find a new Sunday afternoon activity?

astonsmummy

God I remeber watching band of gold when I was bout 10 :eek:
And nightmare on elm street at aged 5, yet I was petrified of the incredible hulk.
It's IMO down to personal preference, I'd have no proble in my son (aged 4) sitting donw with me and watching things like Enders but he's in bed at that time.

Oldernotwiser

GracieP wrote: »

That's a pretty horrid thing to say to somebody about their child. You may have your ideas on parenting which work for you, but that doesn't give you the right to suggest someone else has damaged their toddler.

I didn't mean to imply anything about that specific poster, obviously at such a young age things go over their heads sometimes. When our foster son was about 10 we found he'd seen some quite unsuitable films (for over 15s) and I found his reassurances that they weren't scary to be far more worrying than if he'd been petrified of them. It showed just how much his sensibilities had been blunted by unsuitable viewing.

Just because individuals think that they're not affected by something, doesn't mean that it's a good thing for everybody. Soap operas give kids a terrible picture of normal life and can be very harmful to their emotional development. You might not have known about the affair in Corrie but you saw someone being punched in their own home with no consequences,; not something one would want children to think was normal!

GracieP

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

You might not have known about the affair in Corrie but you saw someone being punched in their own home with no consequences,; not something one would want children to think was normal!

He was punched in his own jeans factory.:cool: And I certainly didn't think it was normal, it was quite extraordinary. It was in all the newspapers and all over the radio the next day. If anything it showed a magnification of the consequences of punching someone.

LilDevil

A friend of my b-i-l was watching football one day and the next thing he knew his LO was walking around saying f***, f***, f***, f*** :rotfl: because she'd heard her dad using that word whilst watching the football.

Unfortunately we do not live in a lovely fluffy sanitised world and it doesn't seem to matter what is on TV or around you, kids will pick things up.

A few months ago my SD2B called me a slapper - I have no idea (well, that's not true, I do have an idea, but I won't say where on here ) where she picked up that from - I asked her what she thought it meant and she said someone that hits people - I then asked her when she'd ever seen me hit anyone - she was a bit stumped!!

The only way around this would be to ban TV altogether and teach your child at home because unfortunately not all parents are good ones and will curse and swear like troopers in front of the kids, who will in turn use that kind of language in the school playground

Sorry, I'm waffling now :rolleyes:

carlamagee

taliwillow wrote: »

In the night Garden seems to be a big hit with her though even though it is driving me crazy!

i know exactly how u feel!! been cathcing myself singing "Upssyyyy Daisssyyy" while doing my housework!!!! lol

rchddap1

Only upsy daisy....what about the rest of the tunes. I know them by heart. My nearly 2 year old loves it. As for films.....she doesn't have the concentration to be able to watch a film. Loses interest quickly.

She helps me decorate cakes (can get messy, but she has a wonderful time), loves scribbling, playing in the park, running around after a ball, going for walks (we point out colours of cars to help her learn) etc.... I don't like sitting her in front of the TV as she has so much energy. But it is tough when they're small and its chucking it down outside.

There are lots of other things to do. Just depends what your monster likes doing.

When she was about a year old the TV was off pretty much. She was more interested in her toys and sticking her fingers into things she shouldn't. Her toys were on the floor and she would crawl about or come and find me if she wanted something. My independent little toad.

galvanizersbaby

astonsmummy wrote: »

God I remeber watching band of gold when I was bout 10 :eek:
And nightmare on elm street at aged 5, yet I was petrified of the incredible hulk.
It's IMO down to personal preference, I'd have no proble in my son (aged 4) sitting donw with me and watching things like Enders but he's in bed at that time.

But surely programmes like Eastenders aren't suitable for young children which is why they are on past kids bedtimes.
I watch Eastenders and there's no way I would let my 4 year old daughter or my 6 year old son watch it - they would be asking me questions about guns, sex and all sorts and would take it all in - it wouldn't seem appropriate to have to try and explain to them and they wouldn't understand.
Perhaps it depends on the child but I feel it's down to me as a parent to make sure they don't see anything on TV that is very obviously adult viewing.

My son recently got given a DVD of ET which I had seen as a kid (aged about 10) but when I watched it through beforehand - Elliot calls his brother 'pen*s breath' which tbh I wouldn't want my kids repeating so when we did sit down and watch it I had to cough at the appropriate time :rotfl:

Perhaps I am a bit OTT and I realise my kids will pick all this stuff up outside the home but I don't want to them to see this stuff on TV at home!

seven-day-weekend

GracieP wrote: »

If anything was going to cause me problems in later life it would surely have been that over an episode of Dallas.

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Dallas gave the message that it was OK to lie, cheat, wheel and deal, stab your family and friends in the back, lie to them, have multiple affairs and murder.

Suitable for a child?

I don't think so.

astonsmummy

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

But surely programmes like Eastenders aren't suitable for young children which is why they are on past kids bedtimes.
I watch Eastenders and there's no way I would let my 4 year old daughter or my 6 year old son watch it - they would be asking me questions about guns, sex and all sorts and would take it all in - it wouldn't seem appropriate to have to try and explain to them and they wouldn't understand.
Perhaps it depends on the child but I feel it's down to me as a parent to make sure they don't see anything on TV that is very obviously adult viewing.

My son recently got given a DVD of ET which I had seen as a kid (aged about 10) but when I watched it through beforehand - Elliot calls his brother 'pen*s breath' which tbh I wouldn't want my kids repeating so when we did sit down and watch it I had to cough at the appropriate time :rotfl:

Perhaps I am a bit OTT and I realise my kids will pick all this stuff up outside the home but I don't want to them to see this stuff on TV at home!

It's only half hour past his bedtime and he's still awake at that time i've just had enough by 7pm:p
I dunno, maybe it's the child, or the parents, I wasnt really shielded from anything on TV as a child, it's done me no harm.

patchwork_cat

It depends what the 12 cert was I suppose - Dark Knight maybe not, but others would be fine! The level of understanding of an 11 month old is not high - however if dialogue included a lot of swearing you might find one of her first words was not too choice! I think that know is probably a good time to start taking care with what you pick and ironically she could probably watch older cert stuff now than in 2 years! Remember Tom and Jerry have come in for a lot of flack because of the violence!

There is a school of thought re soaps etc. that if the child understands it then they are old enough, if they aren't they don't get it. Soaps can actually be invaluable as an aid to bring up and discuss issues - you can use them to discuss morals and right and wrong for example.