Childminder is pregnant.

thatgirlsam

silvercar wrote: »

Disagree. Ante-natal appointments are scheduled because pregnancies need monitoring. If there was virtually no chance of problems the NHS wouldn't waste time, resources and money monitoring prenant women at set intervals.

of course there is a chance of problems at an appointment, but fairly unlikely

i work in a maternity unit and have worked in ante-natal clinic, the majority of appointments are routine and go without a hitch, i really can't see the problem with taking a minded child to an appointment

domestic_goddess

kim_ley wrote: »

your daughter wont be able to go in the room when anyone has a scan even you as children are not allowed in!

They are allowed in at our two local hospitals.

foxxymynx

BernadetteN wrote: »

I'm a bit bemused that anyone would think it is unethical to take childminded children to ante-natal appointments. I took our own toddler and a childminded toddler to about 4 ante-natal appointments as the hospital only did appointments on the same day each week I looked after this toddler and the mum had no problem with him coming with us and he thought it was just another jolly mums and tots with plenty of other toddlers and toys to play with. If his mum had objected, he would have had to go elsewhere for the appointments.

I'm assuming then that you would have taken him to any medical appointment that you may have in a hospital then?

(Just realised that this may sound a bit catty, - so editing it to say I'm not meaning it to sound catty, it's a genuine question)

BernadetteN

foxxymynx wrote: »

I'm assuming then that you would have taken him to any medical appointment that you may have in a hospital then?

(Just realised that this may sound a bit catty, - so editing it to say I'm not meaning it to sound catty, it's a genuine question)

I would have taken any childminded child to a hospital appointment if I considered it appropriate for any of our own children to attend too, so long as a parent was okay with it - childminded children were always treated as our own for the period in our care. I've been lucky enough that I've only ever had to go to hospital for myself to give birth 2 out of 4 times and about a total of 15 antenatal appointments over 4 pregnancies over 12 years (first 3 pregnancies had antenatals at GP surgery across the road, last pregnancy unfortunately had antenatals centralised to the local hosptial) and I've never visited hosptial for medical problems so hospital visits have never been frequent. Would I take a childminded child to something like a mammogram or a MRI scan - no - and neither would I take my own child because of the potential waiting time and because I could not supervise a child whilst being examined. Antenatals have consisted for me of a 5 minute wait in the playroom followed by a 5 minute sit in a room with the midwife taking BP, urine test, feel of tummy and brief notes.

Steve_O_5

As others have said, speak to her about it. She may be actually thinking of you and trying to minimise the disruption to her single mother friend, who she doesn't want to let down or see stuck.

renowen

Hi there

I was in a similar situation as you. My children went to a CM who was also my friend. She fell preg and like your CM planned to work right up till the last minute, have a short time off after the birth (something like 4 weeks) then have my children back.

Basically as she neared the end of her preg she found it to difficult to continue working and I was given a weeks notice to find alternative childcare! As it was a breach of contract I was not expected to pay the final weeks fees to enable me to find alternative childcare.
BUT she still insisted she would have my children back after the birth.
Well I sent my children to a private nursery where they settled well, MONTHS later CM finally informed me that she was not going to return to childminding for a few months, so I terminated contract (though tbh my children had settled so well at nursery it was unlikely i would have sent them back anyway)

All Im saying is be careful, luckily my friendship with CM was not damaged in any way but I could have lost a good friend through this, and sometimes its better to make the change no then end up stuck further down the line.

kim_ley

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

I was working less than 24 hours after having my daughter and I'm not alone. Lots of single parents have to look after their older children after giving birth. Just because you're a single parent you don't get to stay in hospital and "recover".

Well for me this was not an option. I'm not a single parent but planned on returning home that day to look after my two year old. Things didnt go to plan and I lost ALOT of blood meaning I couldnt even walk let alone care for another child or work! If I had attempted anything of the sort it would have made me more ill. Once I was stable I then had to stay longer as I had blood transfusions then I contracted an Infection. There are many other factors that stop people leaving hospital straight away such as the pain relief the choose to use. Or god forbid the baby is ill. I think to think that it is straight forward is wrong. And I agree with the op that she may not care proplerly for her daughter as newborn babys are very demanding. what if she got PND?