Weekly Flylady Thread 27th October 2008

Dustykitten

Dusty's weekend

Put away halloween decs [STRIKE]nearly[/STRIKE] all back in the box
[STRIKE]washing on line one done one spinning [/STRIKE]now on airer due to rain
visit library renewed on line so will go in the week
pay fireworks money will do on the way to Lidl later- tomorrow
sweep some leaves
hoover downstairs nearly all done [STRIKE]just need to mop[/STRIKE]change some beds - DS2 had a nosebleed last night stripped 3 just need to remake - started remaking
ironing (with x factor)
DS2 to tidy his room
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DS2&3 to tidy living room - you cannot see the floor ds2 done his half and hoovered
[/STRIKE]Help DS1 file his project and notes
DS2 to dirtboarding
DS3 to golf
DS1 to check pencil case for school
tidy the garage - you can't get in the door started will delegate rest to DH
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do something with 4 stale current buns - bread pudding?
[/STRIKE]in AGA
Form for CRB renewal

Will finish living room and take hoover upstairs to do matresses and make beds and then time for a cuppa.

poohbear59

Johanne, huge hugs, I wish I had the answer for you. I think your DH is beng totally unreasonable, he obviously has no idea how much time needs to be spent looking after a baby. Can you get some help fro a frind, or family member.
My DH shouted at me once when our first was tiny and I was disappearing under a pile of dirty washing and dishes. He shouted at me for letting a plant die!! I ot a friend and my mum in to help. Poor mum had bone cancer, it shamed him into helping. DH was workimg shifts too when I felt like you. It is a strain on both of you. I do hope things get a bit easier.
Can you ask your health visitor for some help?
I do so wish I could help you. Please pm me if you want to chat. If you lived near me I would come and help get rid of your mountain. hugs




I got my new laptop yesterday so I can join in a bit more. I am also looking at changing my broadband provider as I can't be bothered with this one that goes off if it is raining, windy, frosty or snowing!!

DD has phoned me, she is on the fell above us, walking the dog nd it is a foot deep in snow, lovely views.

serena

Afternoon ladies!

I am hibernating, I hate the weather, it has been grey, cold and tipping it down with rain all day. I was supposed to be going to a Languages show in London, but went down with a miserable cold yesterday, and have been streaming and sneezing, and feeling sorry for myself - what a rubbish halfterm! Okay, moan over, as I know there are ladies here with far more to deal with.

Big, big hugs and warm wishes to pigpen, lil_me, johanne, sarahshattered, embb, chunky, dusty and flower - and sorry to anyone I've missed out inadvertently, because I had so much to catch up on, and didn't make the usual notes as I was going through.

DS2 has had a friend to sleepover, and what with that and the cold, I haven't done any flying since Thursday. I'm trying to get all of next week's lessons planned, and then I may do a little bit of pottering about.

DD much better, but still not feeling back to normal - antibiotics causing tummy trouble, I had to go and pick her up early from bf's yesterday, and then we had a huge row because she wanted to go to the cinema in the evening - a group of them had booked to see the new Bond. I probably wouldn't have overrreacted so badly if I'd felt okay, and hadn't had so much worry about her - oh well, we made friends, and she did go to the film - bf had got halfway there and turned back specially to collect her.

Time for :coffee: Anyone else??

Valli

I'll join you for a :coffee: Serena

kazwookie

More dry washing to fold and put away, one more lot to go

poohbear59

Lost my post


I joined serena for a cuppa. I hppe all your colds are better soon.
DH has vacuumed the whole of downstairs, all the others are out at work today and DD is going to help me make fish pie for dinner tonight.

We are busy planning our weekend away next week at Center Parcs. The plan is to cook meals, freeze them, and take them with us for the Friday and Sunday and to eat out Saturday as it is DSs b'day and the whole family are paying for it themselves

DS2 has at last been diagnsed as being depressed. He is getting help and he is the reason we are going to Center Parcs. Don't know if it will help but we hope so. DH is better again, I wonder if he is bi-polar.

While DS2 has been out at work yesterday and today we have completely bottomed his room and completely cleaned and tidied it. It is possible to walk across the floor now and it smells so much better. I know how difficult it is to be motivated when depressed. We just need to get him a new bed now. He is too old for a bunk bed at 20!!

Pink_Fairy_2

Johanne - huge hugs, hun. Hope you're feeling a bit better now. I'm glad you've given the selfish *** a warning. It's ridiculous behaviour from a "grown up" and I definitely wouldn't tolerate him shouting at a baby.:mad: As for the bed, if you've managed to make it, I definitely wouldn't be letting him in it. Swine! My DH always makes ours as I have tennis elbow which makes shaking duvets quite difficult. I usually strip it and put the bedding ready for him and he does it without question. I think I might keep him - he's not so bad!:p

Liuhut - congratulations. I'm envious but hope you have an amazing time.

Valli - the throw is from a shop called Shaws. I know they are a chain that's in England as well as Wales, so hope you have one near. It really is thick and it's going on my bed tonight!

Sweeney Todd - Flying Squad, I always did like John Thaw, so count me in too!:T

Off to drop DD in Cardiff for a night out, picking her up at stupid o'clock as her friends are staying in a hotel at £40 per night but she doesn't want to waste money when she lives so close. She helped me shop today and is dying my hair tomorrow. Then I'm going to put my feet up and do some knitting. Bye all x

lil_me

Flylady Flower in this weather I have towels at the door which act like a doormat for the woofs, helps reduce it a bit.
liuhut well done! That sounds fab
johanne big hugs for you, I'm sorry but unfortunately I have someone similar (left the piles of washing up for me when I was in hospital, even now with a dishwasher leaves them where he used them or on the bench/in the sink) I did however do one thing that worked, put a bin where he left most of his junk/cans and told him it was there, helps, I empty it or he leaves it to overflow but helps. Ask Nicki to yell at him/slap him with a kipper when she drops little one off Oh and I usually find 'please dearest darling could you do this for me when you get a few minutes spare' sarcastic but sometimes helps With the dishes, another idea, but him paper ones, plastic cutlery and cups, tell him while he's refusing to share on the washing up he can use those (I did that when I came out of hospital for the third time to piles of laundry and washing up) Sorry but I'd make the bed first, getting a nice rest is the most important thing when you do most things alone. Mine never woke once when the boys were little so know how you feel on the night time thing aswell. juliejim's is a nice idea aswell! (unfortunately my DP agreed when I tried it)
serena pleased to hear your DD is feeling better, even if you're clashing a bit. Hope you are feeling better soon.
sammiell more hugs coming your way, I do sometimes wonder if my life would be easier/better if I worked full time out of the home aswell, my neighbours house is always tidy because they are never in it.
juliejim I am sure you'll get used to it, they always look smaller in the shop
boddy that sounds lovely, you'll have to let us know what it's like
soappie I actually thought it'd be more than 8%
Left handed thing, my boys who both have SEN are one of each, however DS2 who chooses left can usually use both, does it less now but when he was little he'd use pencils with left, then right, then both at once. DS2s the only lefty on either side of the family for several generations we think.

I do wonder if it is this cold snap which is causing more poorlies and effecting peoples moods etc. I dont ever remember it being this cold or bad weather over October half term, that added to Christmas stress, the R word and costs that are associated with it etc everyone I have spoken to is either feeling ill or miserable.

Caravan emptied, cleaned and up at storage, DP was quite sensible (for a change) and suggested we (I doubt he means we but the thought was there for a few minutes) make places to put the cushions then go to collect them, so that's what we have done, pleased I got them to keep my space (by paying for it) as it's now full where we use (I have been promoting it a bit because they're lovely) I am happier which space we have now as it's right next to her house. That lot was done by 2pm. Then onto emptying my car, which was full, cleaned it all out inc the rubbish, vacuumed, washed seats (then had to sit on them to go out in it so have a soggy bum!) and cleaned it all. All that's left now is 50 billion bags to unpack and a mountain of laundry, joys.

We (DP and I)were getting on quite well, until just now when getting ready for work I asked him why he wasn't wearing the shirt he asked me to wash and have ready for today before he went to work on Friday, 'what the f***s it got to do with you you're not my mother' so of course that annoyed me and I said 'well obviously because I actually care about you' oops, nevermind, it's only the truth. Then he phones to say 'will you make sure my clothes, sandwiches and other things are all out ready for me in the morning' (he's going to manchester or somewhere) who's not his mother? same as when he was getting ready for work I had to find his underwear for him as he doesn't check before he gets in the shower to see if that automatic machine that transforms what he leaves on the floor into clean clothes in his drawer/wardrobe has been working I've already been to fill my car up with petrol for him. Anyway, enough about that moaning murtle, they just drive you mad don't they!

This evenings action plan

3 loads of laundry inc 1 of stuff that can go in the TD 2 for airers
Sort DPs stuff, mainly so he doesn't wake me to ask me where his clothes etc are
Unpack/put away stuff from at least 5 bags
Feed kids
Freezer search for some meal plan inspiration
Another look through the months budget and plan for GC spends, kids stuff costs (inc DS2s panto trip with beavers and other extra ones) then see what I have left to put away for Xmas.

Oh I just realised I have several meetings next week and one includes a posh lunch at a swanky hall hotel place, yay I think I need that day away from DP....

Ok question time, it's the first of November, my £2 tin isn't completely full (Xmas pot) but I don't think I'll manage to put any more in that will make a difference, it's one of those tins you open with a can opener so no going back once it's cracked, should I open it tonight ?

I'll pop the kettle on while you help me decide.....for those who want tea, I will put the posh coffee pot on for those who prefer, cappuccino, latte, mocha anyone?

toottifrootti

johanne - huge hugs honey - that is soo not fair of OH - HE is the one being unreasonable not you - no way is it you - all the others have said what I think - just do for you and Sarah pumpkin - I think she is just adorable and to think he raises his voice to that little one - he is so lucky that I am not nearer I would be tearing chunks out of him - the next step after shouting at a child ....... NO its not on! And good on you for being strong enough to say that he will have to go - like valli said tell him what you want improved and stick with it - you and sarah are worth bettr than that - if I remmeber right you have stood by him through his troubles this year so its about time he grew up and faced his responsibilities as a husband(partner) and a father (?).

Dont stress with the mess(ooh that rhymes!! sorry) just tackle a bit at a time - as you have said do the dishes so the kitchen is clean for you and sarah and make up your bed at the first chance. The rest is to be done in bite size chunks - 15 mins in one go - and then play with sarah - if you keep doing this you will see such a difference without killing yourself.

Do you have a spare room that you could tidy up as a little bolt hole for you and sarah or to put him in? then you wouldnt have to tidy up behind him until he realises he has to help.

and please dont feel ashamed or embarrassed - nobody here judges anyone - I have been there too and wish i had known about the thread then. we will always listen and give our advice (wanted or not!!!!!!) and not always what you want to hear but then you can choose which way to go. We are your friends and we are sad for you and sarah and if it helps you to vent then you do that!!! there are loads of us who would be only to happy to 'talk' if you want to pm.
take care honey and little pumpkin (sorry but I have just nicknamed her that for good!!!!!!!!)
toots xx

Dustykitten

Dusty's weekend

visit library renewed on line so will go in the week
pay fireworks money will do on the way to Lidl later- tomorrow
sweep some leaves
ironing (with x factor)
DS2 to tidy his room
Help DS1 file his project and notes
DS2 to dirtboarding
DS3 to golf
DS1 to check pencil case for school
tidy the garage - you can't get in the door started will delegate rest to DH

Form for CRB renewal

Really feel I've achieved something today and house looks 100 times better.
Rest can be left until tomorrow when I'll add the bathroom too.