Sad news

3tabbycats

So sorry to hear about your cat. We lost one of ours aged 7, 6 months ago to the same condition, I cried for weeks on end and still go back over that day in my head time & time again, wishing things could be different..

At least Ted was at home & I'm sure he would've known you were there with him..

Tabby x

MrsE_2

He was 7 & a half, not 6 as I put in the first post.

My brain turned to jelly following it. When I was booking the cremation I had to ask 3 times how much it cost, I just couldn't understand the £115 & £35 and I work in finance! During the service yesterday despite the lady explaining how the service went & them printing an order of service booklet, I still couldn't work out what we were susposed to be going.

BizzyBek

So sorry to hear that sad news MrsE. It's such a loss when a pet dies, you realise what a part of the home they are.

MrsE_2

We collected Ted (his ashes) yesterday morning.
We choose a hollow wooden curled up sleeping cat as the vessel for his ashes, its rounded & tactile. You can hold it to you. I put him on the hearth of the fire - what better place for a sleeping cat.

I can still feel him everywhere, its a weird feeling because its like hes everywhere but I can't touch him. I just can't feel his soft warm body.

My husband cried his eyes out on Wednesday night, (hes a really big butch bloke), I've never seen that before & we have been together over 15 years.
He's buried relatives & not cried.

Someone said to me that its like loosing a child, if anyone had said that to me before I adopted Ted, I would have thought they were crazy, but I know now what they mean.
When everyone else was out & busy, Ted was there with me, always, stopping me from being lonely.

I've never felt pain like this at loosing someone. I yearn for the day I can remember the good times without such a pain in my heart.

Thank you again
And I'm sorry for your loses too, its a pain you can't know unless you've felt.

lowis

totally understand your pain Mrs E...i am 4 months on from losing my girl and I still well-up with tears almost daily. But I alsoo smile a lot more now when I remember her too...her ashes are also in my living room, she is never far away and no-one can take away the memories x

Glad

very sorry MrsE


They will not go quietly,
the cats who've shared our lives.
In subtle ways they let us know
their spirit still survives.

Old habits still make us think
we hear a meow at the door.
Or step back when we drop
a tasty morsel on the floor.

Our feet still go around the place
the food dish used to be,
And, sometimes, coming home at night,
we miss them terribly.

And although time may bring new friends
and a new food dish to fill,
That one place in our hearts
belongs to them. . . and always will.
- Linda Barnes

sleepymy

Oh MrsE, I'm so sorry I know how much you loved him

It takes time but it does get a little easier xxx

lauzjp

Mrs E, sorry to learn of the loss of your beautiful pusscat Ted. x

stevetodd

I am so sorry for your loss.

I have a 7 year old lab who hopefully has lots of good years in front of him. One day whilst on adog forum there was a post about what do to when your pet dies. It suugested that you try and think ahead now (while your pet is still alive and so you are not troubled with grief) and decide what arrangements you would like to be done.

I thought that sounded sensible so gave it some thought and concluded that I would bury him in our garden in some sort of casket that would allow me to move him for re-burying in our new garden if we moved. My wife doesn't like this idea but I don't think I would settle for anything else

SallyUK

My thoughts are with you Mrs E, as we lost our beautiful little girl Maine Coon, three weeks ago now, she was only 3.5 and it happened so suddenly too. One minute she was lying beside me purring, the next she was poorly, being taken to the vet's and they rang us next morning to say she'd died during the night -

They are like family and it will take us a long time to get over losing her, despite still having a gorgeous big boy Norwegian Forest Cat and a new Golden Retriever puppy!

Sal
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