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kassandra

Hope the appointment goes well Suep and glad the retail and hair therapy made you feel a bit brighter x

Careful_with_that_Axe

suep Short term a little spending is no bad thing if it helps you feel a bit better, and hair is a nice treat too. Glad you are pleased with it.
Sending major, major hugs your way. Understand that you may not want to talk at the moment, but we'll make contact when the dust has settled a little, eh?

bigzippy

suep wrote: »

BZ I hope the infection clears up soon, good news about the promotion, does that mean we will soon hear the patter of tiny feet ?

Thanks suep. The payrise isn't as much as we were hoping for - altho it's still not confirmed and I'm telling DH he needs to fight for more :money: - but it's def not enough for starting with that milarky. And we need the house to be sold and MIL to be settled in sheltered housing before we start trying for minizippys

LameWolf wrote: »

Well done on getting the hoist; fwiw, I think you've done the right thing; realistically, yes, OK, you could get better in the near future, (that'd be lovely, right?) or you could be waiting a looooong time to feel any better, and, as you said, pay 3 times the amount for a hoist later.

And don't forget, you can always sell it on if/when you don't need it too

suep wrote: »

I had a better day today, I had my hair cut and coloured and treated myself to a new pair of jeans. I know retail therapy isn't the answer, and I need to curb my spending a bit again, but a treat now and then when you need it helps doesn't it ?

I've just had my hair cut and rehighlighted and bought a few clothing items. Sometimes you just need it. I feel so much better with my new hair (last time I had it done was 2wks before the wedding 7months ago and it was only long then for the wedding!) and as much as budgets are all well and good, they don't account for emotional impact of things, and they are soul destroying! I figured that with all the stress that's going on atm, I needed to be upbeat and positive or I'll pull DH down too and we'll get nowhere - and, hell, if feeling a bit better about my appearance helps me do it then it's worth it!:)

singlesue I'm with sh1305, they have to support you in keeping them with you. There are options out there. I suggest you get intouch with the department for adult services (social workers) and discuss the options for you. sh1305 is right about the direct payments and stuff, you could make life so much easier for you all and at the moment it seems like it's basically fear that's stopping you...:cool:

Well, I had a hellish day yesterday, after MIL casually slipped into conversation that she's woken up not being able to see in one eye!:shocked: So off to the eye hospital (miles away) we went... apparently she's had a haemorrhage (sp?) in her eye (to do with her diabetes) and if the blood doesn't clear within 3 weeks they're gonna do an op to clear it for her (bleurgh!)_pale_

My big brown daunting envelope arrived today.... let the games begin!:cool:

kassandra

Singlesue you need to get some help. I would urge you to contact SS. They have alsorts of services you can access and they have a duty of care to you and to make sure you get all the help that your family needs to keep you together. They aren't like they used to be and will allways do what they can to keep any family together, even when the parents clearly don't deserve to have children. That's obviously not aimed at you but my friend is a social worker and some really shouldn't have them. Anyway, there are loads of services that are there and they're there for people like you. I've always found it hard taking help never mind asking for it and totally understand your concerns regarding the kids. There are respite things available for both you and the kids too. We all need a break when we're "normal", even more so when we're a single parent and wow do we need it when we're disabled, care for disabled children and single too. I take my hat off to you. I think you're amazing and if anybody deserves help then it's certainly you. You could call them and have a chat anonymously maybe?

Hope you don't think I'm being too forward/pushy but I just think you should take advantage of the services there. Think of it as helping others as if there isn't a strong enough demand for a service/in an area then they don't get enough money for it the following year and people suffer for it.

SingleSue

Thanks everyone for your comments.

I honestly don't think my problems are severe enough to warrant my talking to social services just yet, it is not my ever present condition as I do have more good days than bad and it would be more of a waste of resources which could be badly needed elsewhere by someone so much more disabled.

I've become pretty good at adapting over the years, instead of carrying heavy saucepans, I fill using jugs or empty using a holey spoon, instead of carrying lots of shopping bags in one go, I make a couple of trips backwards and forwards to the car, instead of doing a big shop on my own, I take the children to push the trolley.

As long as I pace myself, I am generally ok..the problems only start when I get impatient and try to do it all at once (or I do something I know will start my back off as per Saturday) or if I overdo things.

I can still lead a normalish life with maybe a few tweaks, if that changes, then yes I would be more inclined to get in touch with social services but I just think it would be a waste of their time and resources right now.

I will though be going to see the doctor to see if there is anything else he can do or suggest to keep it at an even keel and not deteriorate further.

Trialia

Good luck, Sue.

I am a mixture of nervous and excited today: nervous because my choir are doing a Maundy Thursday concert this evening and I feel less prepared than usual, and excited because I just got an email from Amazon saying the dispatch date of a book for which I've been waiting 3 years has been moved up to April 9th.

LameWolf

Suep well done on doing a little retail therapy. True, you can't make a habit of it, but under the circumstances, I think having a little something to lift your spirits is totally in order.

Talking of hair.... I'll soon be able to tie a ribbon in Mr LW's,:eek: so we've scheduled a trip to the barber's on Saturday morning. I need to wash mine, so that's scheduled for tonight, as I need help to do it.

Btw, am I the only person who finds clothes shopping to be cruel and unusual punishment, only to be undertaken when I'm to the point of being in danger of being arrested for indecent exposure??:rotfl:

Invasion

Social services lost my care assessment referral, so I'm not even on the waiting list yet, am somewhat unamused! I have just sorted out my referral to CHUMS- who're a befriending service in our area, so that I'll be able to go out without mum, and when mum's too busy, which is fab! Another thing with a nice long list unfortunately though I think the waiting time can vary depending on the age of the volunteers they have etc. I HATE using the phone, so very happy I managed to make 2 phone calls even if I was some kind of quivering *can't breathe* wreck

Trialia

Guh, follow-up email creating even more excitement: they actually dispatched it TODAY. *squee* Sometimes I love Amazon.

kassandra

How come you've been waiting so long for it Tria? And what book is it?

You're not on your own LW, I always come home depressed. I really hate clothes shopping. Love getting stuff for the house or kids though.