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Indie_Kid

LW - is there any community transport (dial-a-ride) in your area?

Invasion - that's excellent about the hoist.

Invasion

Thanks sh1305 and LW

I'm hoping to start having some half an hour driving lessons next month in my instructors auto- I had my first 5 lessons in auto, then switched, and then about 6 months of lessons later I had to give up cos it was too much and I also got a bad case of vertigo- and as I've already done quite a bit of driving, and will need a car of my own, cos I'm learning auto, it hopefully won't be tooooo long till I'm able to drive!

The plan is to pass before my younger brother, who turns 17 at the end of August, so it's looking gooood! (She says, having not driven since July last year.. ha!) And now that I'm not at college I want to do some volunteer work for a couple of hours a week, maybe at A4U/DIAL, though I'm not sure yet, and for that I really do have to be able to drive (and nap in the passenger seat before I can drive home.. oh the mental images! )

Hope it's a good night sleep for all! Also, haven't seen TOBRUK around in a while, hope you're ok if you're lurking! x

jennihen

Good luck with the driving Invasion. As someone who learnt later (much later!) in life I can honestly say its the best thing I have ever done!! And I have clocked up 14,000 miles as a volunteer driver!!
As always best wishes to all
JH

SingleSue

So sorry about your dad Suep...my condolences.

Bit of an eek weekend for me, brother was up to do my garden and get the veg in and although I tried to explain that bending down to seed and then cover is not a good idea for me, he wouldn't listen and made me feel a wuss..so I did it.

Bad move! After he had gone, I had to lay down for a while with my back in agony but no rest for the wicked as I had promised to take us all out for a shopping trip (youngest wanted to spend his birthday money), so firstly dragged to Toys R Us with me hanging onto the trolley for dear life and support, grimacing in pain the whole way round, then back to the car for a good sit down and recover and then onto Tesco's where the whole thing was repeated..but at least Tesco had a seat I could sit down on for a while.

By the time we got back, the kids had to help me out of the car, help me walk up the path into the house and even help me up the stairs to the toilet.

I am really going to have to go back to my doctor about this as it is getting beyond a joke but I am scared to as he just told me to lose weight and take painkillers.

On a positive note, eldest got the notification from school that he got a place on the Honduras trip next year, so they hopefully are not phased by his problems.

Indie_Kid

SingleSue - I hope you're ok.

LameWolf

sh1305 wrote: »

LW - is there any community transport (dial-a-ride) in your area?

I have absolutely no idea.
Unfortunately, I have severe social phobia, so getting into a vehicle driven by someone I don't know, without Mr LW there to keep me safe, isn't a realistic option.:(
Also, if we're out and I start to feel panicky, being able to retreat to the safety (and privacy) of our car for a bit is good - you can't do that with community transport.
Thanks for the thought, though.:o

I do have to admit, if I'm out with a canine guest and I see another person in the distance, I do my best to avoid encountering them. Luckily, that's quite easy with the "redways" as they're called, here - there's a field at the back of us with the redway paths running round the outside, and along by the balancing lake, and as they're designed as cycle paths. they're easy to take the mobility scooter along - lovely walkies!:D

SingleSue OUCH!! No more bending and doing seed beds for you; your brother will just have to accept that it's really not a good idea. Hope you feel better soon.

Careful_with_that_Axe

singlesue I built a raised bed in my garden for veggies and it makes it so much easier. Is that something you could do at all? Not building it yourself of course *g* I feel your pain. No medals for being brave though. Is there a different doctor you can see or even go to a walk in clinic when things get as bad as that to get a different perspective/opinion?

lw I understand completely where you are coming from on the social phobia. I used to be the same when I was younger, but luckily doing the jobs I did and being able to encounter people on a professional loevel helped me to overcome it. If I had it on top of illness, I am sure it would still be there.
Next door have just got a springer spaniel puppy which is gorgeous but cries when they put it out to go to the loo. Makes me upset (

We're just toying with the idea of getting another greyhound to keep Mills company now we've lost Katie. Mils is managing Ok without Katie, but sometimes seems a bit confuduzzled. Like she's missing something but doens't quite know what she's missing. Still making extra fuss of her.

SingleSue

Thanks guys, I'm one of those very annoying stoic people who don't like complaining. Since the initial diagnosis of spinal arthritis 10 years ago, I have seen the doctor twice for it (once was when he told me to lose weight and take more painkillers, the second time was at goal weight when he just told me to take more painkillers and that the reason was because of lack of cushioning now due to weight loss!).

Usually my back is at its worse when I am slimmer and I had been getting very few problems when overweight...now it is happening the same as when I am slim when I am fat and it has certainly been getting steadily worse since my hysterectomy in late 2001.

The other reason I am slightly reticent is because I am concerned they could turn round and say I am not capable of looking after the children and take them away, especially bearing in mind their disabilities..it wasn't so bad when I was married as I had a partner that could be relied upon to give that care but now I am on my own, I am responsible for everything.

But I am going to have to do something, it really is getting beyond a joke and impacting on our lives...I even almost asked one of the boys to fetch a wheelchair in the supermarket on Saturday as it was that painful to walk and leaving at that point was not an option (autistic child being promised a trip out and then walking out half way is not a good idea...more stress than it is worth believe me!)..luckily I found a chair I could sit on instead near to where the boys were looking.

I don't think I like this growing old lark!

Indie_Kid

Sue,

Is it worth getting help from social services? They won't take your children away - they'll give you help. The help could be in form of equipment and adaptions or direct payments for someone to help you out.

suep

single sue Im carp at putting my foot down and saying I cant cope with my family too, trouble is then DH says it's my own fault when I end up in a flare. I hope your back eases soon.

I had a better day today, I had my hair cut and coloured and treated myself to a new pair of jeans. I know retail therapy isn't the answer, and I need to curb my spending a bit again, but a treat now and then when you need it helps doesn't it ? Anyway the hair do was half price as my daughter works at the salon, she doesnt like doing the colour at home as it takes too long, Ive got 3 colours in it now, not my idea, but I like it lol

Ive got a hospital app tomorrow morning ( ladies probs yuk ) Im dragging DH with me for support.