Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

epsilondraconis

Hi Angela, I don't know what to say. I feel both angry and deflated for you. Sometimes life really isn't fair.

ginvzt

Angela, so sorry! Definitely call the clinic and ask about it, maybe they can shed some light on this...

angelavdavis

I phoned the clinic and they think it was likely a chemical pregnancy that produced enough hormone for a BFP but not enough to stem AF from coming.

I phoned OH at work, trying to stay calm but failed dismally and he is coming home from work. Feel awful putting him through this too.

toniq

Angela, my fella took a few days off so he could help me through the upset of it all, He is in this with you, lean on him xxx
It's such a dark place to be, always around if u ever want to vent xxxxxx

FairyElephant_2

Angela, I'm so sorry - it's so cruel to have your hopes raised and dashed again like that. Take care of yourself Hun, and hope you feel better soon :grouphug:.

OK - deep breath - been out of internet contact for a while so here goes.... EC on Monday went sort-of OK. I was out a lot longer than expected (they had to top up the anaesthetic apparantly - not that I knew about it) but they still only got 5 eggs. I know I should be grateful for 5 - but as we had 12 the 1st the time then 9 the 2nd time (and we felt they did the 2nd collection a day too early) and we hoped to go to blastocyst (need 4 good embies to do that), AND there were def. 8 good size follies on the last scan, as well as smaller ones...well we were a bit disappointed.
I felt really down after the op, and very sore and bloated. Had hoped to come back to work yesterday, but really not up to it so had a lazy day. Lots of tears - my PMA has deserted me, and I am convinced that it won't work this time. DH is maddeningly optimistic as usual and won't discuss 'what if' - which is making me cross!

Back at work today. Got the call this morning - nice and early at least! - only 2 of the 5 fertilised, so no going to blastocysts - got to go back in at 1.30 today for ET of the 2 that made it. Not sure of the 'quality' as it was noisy in work and I couldn't hear very well on the phone, so will have to ask again later.

I know I should be happy - by this afternoon I will be PUPO and there's 2 chances of success - so why do I feel like I want to cry?

Oh, and I'd forgotten how much I HATE cyclogest pessaries......

Sorry for being so down - hope everyone else is doing OK and having a good week.

FE

FairyElephant_2

Becc4 wrote: »

Hi all,
I was hoping for some advice as my GP seems to be giving me the 'brush off.' We having been trying for 18+ months and no luck (I am 30, previously on pill for 10yrs approx and hubby 39, both fit and well). I visited GP in jan and blood test were 'norm' have continued until now, (using privately purchased ovulation strips) and returned earlier this week to GP to request further investigations to be told hubby needs to be tested first. I was hoping to have my investigations completed now as hubby away for 6 months(Army) and he already has 2 children by previous partner. Explained to GP reasoning however just repeated have to wait for his return.
Am I right to pursue with another GP at surgery or would you suggest another course of action? any advice welcome . Thanks

Hi Becc4,
I suggest you look up the NICE guidelines, you should be able to find them on the net. From memory I think you should be entitled to some tests if you are over 30 and have been trying over a year - but the goalposts do move quite often so get the most up-to-date version.
My GP fobbed me off 3 times, so I ended up printing off the guidelines, highlighting the relevant bits and taking them with me. I calmly told her that if she was not going to adhere to them, I wanted a letter from her stating this, and explaining why, so that I could take the matter further - ie. go to my MP! Strangely enough I got a raft of blood-tests done that month..... (I still had to fight for a referral afterwards, and failed to get any NHS funding, but that's a whole other story!).
As I understand it, PCT's can 'get out of' following NICE, as they are guidelines and not strict rules, but they have to give clear reasons (and then you can challenge them!).
It's maddening that we have to fight to get action - but don't give up Hun!
Best of luck,
FE.

toniq

FairyElephant wrote: »

Angela, I'm so sorry - it's so cruel to have your hopes raised and dashed again like that. Take care of yourself Hun, and hope you feel better soon :grouphug:.

OK - deep breath - been out of internet contact for a while so here goes.... EC on Monday went sort-of OK. I was out a lot longer than expected (they had to top up the anaesthetic apparantly - not that I knew about it) but they still only got 5 eggs. I know I should be grateful for 5 - but as we had 12 the 1st the time then 9 the 2nd time (and we felt they did the 2nd collection a day too early) and we hoped to go to blastocyst (need 4 good embies to do that), AND there were def. 8 good size follies on the last scan, as well as smaller ones...well we were a bit disappointed.
I felt really down after the op, and very sore and bloated. Had hoped to come back to work yesterday, but really not up to it so had a lazy day. Lots of tears - my PMA has deserted me, and I am convinced that it won't work this time. DH is maddeningly optimistic as usual and won't discuss 'what if' - which is making me cross!

Back at work today. Got the call this morning - nice and early at least! - only 2 of the 5 fertilised, so no going to blastocysts - got to go back in at 1.30 today for ET of the 2 that made it. Not sure of the 'quality' as it was noisy in work and I couldn't hear very well on the phone, so will have to ask again later.

I know I should be happy - by this afternoon I will be PUPO and there's 2 chances of success - so why do I feel like I want to cry?

Oh, and I'd forgotten how much I HATE cyclogest pessaries......

Sorry for being so down - hope everyone else is doing OK and having a good week.

FE

Much luck for this afternoon xx
I understand the hubby bit, mine is the same, they dont have our erratic hormones.

You just don't have a clue how it will go, you really don't , u can't write it off just yet, and of course thinking the wrost is normal, its self preservation, hell look at me, i had a brill collection 18 embbies to blastos in and zilch!
Hang int here u might be plesantly surprised! xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

FairyElephant_2

OK, 2 embies on board - now I am PUPO!

Apparantly they were both textbook 4-cell embies, grade A/B, and the transfer went without a hitch.

I am back in work now, but I confess I have done very little today, and I AM going to take my scheduled day-off tomorrow (had thought of not taking it, as I was off Mon & Tues, but decided that I'll count both those as sick days and have my day off as well - if they are going to make me redundant in a couple months anyhow, which seems to be on the cards, what difference will it make!?!). So a lazy day tomorrow and going to take my mum out for lunch.

Just called my DH and all-but demanded that he buy me a chocolate flake on his way home (he was a bit surprised as I am not a big chocolate eater!) - I told him to think of it as practise for when I start to get weird cravings! So I am trying to be more positive and let Emm & Bee (or the JellyTots as I am calling them, after a strange dream I had) know that I really WANT them to stick around.

2ww here we come.....

toniq

Much much luck for a Sticky sticky bean xxx Been thinking of you wondering how u got on, glad it went ok!!! Have fun with 2ww:eek::eek:xxxx

sarahs999

Angela, so sorry to hear your news. How awful for you and so cruel. Take your time over it.

FE - can't wait to hear more news!